Anonymous
Post 08/24/2018 20:11     Subject: What’s the best thing you’ve learned on DCUM?
1. DC school lottery and how charter schools work. Got DC into our #1 choice a dual language charter for pre-K. Done with elementary now.

2. That DH had enough time in and can retire from his job which he did.

3. Lots of recs for doctors and such.

DCUM for all the snark made a huge difference in our life.

Thanks Jeff and all the anons!
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2018 20:07     Subject: Re:What’s the best thing you’ve learned on DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Heated mattress pad
You can buy $30 bidets on Amazon
Electric blanket on your chair when you work in an icebox


Can we do this in a rental?


Yes you can! Not permanent and you just remove when you move out. We did it in our last apartment.


I've been thinking about it but I'm worried it would be like one of those potty-seat raising attachments to the toilet like my grandmothers both used when they were in wheelchairs (and where pee goes everywhere and the bathroom stinks). Is it?
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2018 20:05     Subject: What’s the best thing you’ve learned on DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:The 7-minute workout. Helped me through the transition of going back to work and no time for the gym.

Really good perspective on all sorts of family dramas.

So much from the Travel forum, but especially about the Red Cap service for Amtrak when we had a big group traveling to NYC and wanted seats together.

Identifying that my DH has undiagnosed ADHD and so does his father, who may also have oppositional disorder. But on balance, DH ain't so bad compared to many in the Relationship forum.

The Japanese sunscreen from the Beauty forum.


say more!
I learned about 10 hour sunscreen here and it's saved my kids' skin.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2018 19:47     Subject: What’s the best thing you’ve learned on DCUM?
The revlon hot air brush
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2018 17:52     Subject: What’s the best thing you’ve learned on DCUM?
Storing dishes in a drawer -- changed my life.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2018 16:22     Subject: Re:What’s the best thing you’ve learned on DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Heated mattress pad
You can buy $30 bidets on Amazon
Electric blanket on your chair when you work in an icebox


Can we do this in a rental?


Yes you can! Not permanent and you just remove when you move out. We did it in our last apartment.


link please!!
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2018 16:02     Subject: Re:What’s the best thing you’ve learned on DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Heated mattress pad
You can buy $30 bidets on Amazon
Electric blanket on your chair when you work in an icebox


Can we do this in a rental?


Yes you can! Not permanent and you just remove when you move out. We did it in our last apartment.


Thanks!!
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2018 14:30     Subject: Re:What’s the best thing you’ve learned on DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The “happy and dumb” technique for dealing with difficult family members.

Basically when I see my in laws now, I don’t make any effort whatsoever to connect with them and pretend to be stupid and cheerful. I don’t talk or ask any questions at all. I say very little and if I do talk, I only remark on our immediate surroundings. I don’t share anything about myself or ask anyone any questions.

I know this sounds completely sad and crazy to people with functional families but it is a technique that I learned on the family relationships forum and it works well. My in laws like me more now than they did before.


+1

Tried, tested, approved.


I am going to try this.


My husband is amazed that his mother leaves me alone, but gives my sister-in-law fits. This is totally my secret. Because I never take the bait, picking on me is no fun. I do make small talk, but never anything revealing or deep. FWIW, this is also part of the secret to dealing with bullies at work. The other part of the secret to dealing with bullies at work is to smile and very sweetly tell them to go *&^% themselves, and then turn back to your work.


Otherwise known as "greyrocking". Google it. Very, very effective.

Wow! I've been doing this with my sister for years without even realizing it!
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2018 13:43     Subject: Re:What’s the best thing you’ve learned on DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Heated mattress pad
You can buy $30 bidets on Amazon
Electric blanket on your chair when you work in an icebox


Can we do this in a rental?


Yes you can! Not permanent and you just remove when you move out. We did it in our last apartment.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2018 12:15     Subject: Re:What’s the best thing you’ve learned on DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The “happy and dumb” technique for dealing with difficult family members.

Basically when I see my in laws now, I don’t make any effort whatsoever to connect with them and pretend to be stupid and cheerful. I don’t talk or ask any questions at all. I say very little and if I do talk, I only remark on our immediate surroundings. I don’t share anything about myself or ask anyone any questions.

I know this sounds completely sad and crazy to people with functional families but it is a technique that I learned on the family relationships forum and it works well. My in laws like me more now than they did before.


+1

Tried, tested, approved.


I am going to try this.


My husband is amazed that his mother leaves me alone, but gives my sister-in-law fits. This is totally my secret. Because I never take the bait, picking on me is no fun. I do make small talk, but never anything revealing or deep. FWIW, this is also part of the secret to dealing with bullies at work. The other part of the secret to dealing with bullies at work is to smile and very sweetly tell them to go *&^% themselves, and then turn back to your work.


Otherwise known as "greyrocking". Google it. Very, very effective.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2018 22:30     Subject: Re:What’s the best thing you’ve learned on DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The “happy and dumb” technique for dealing with difficult family members.

Basically when I see my in laws now, I don’t make any effort whatsoever to connect with them and pretend to be stupid and cheerful. I don’t talk or ask any questions at all. I say very little and if I do talk, I only remark on our immediate surroundings. I don’t share anything about myself or ask anyone any questions.

I know this sounds completely sad and crazy to people with functional families but it is a technique that I learned on the family relationships forum and it works well. My in laws like me more now than they did before.


+1

Tried, tested, approved.


I am going to try this.


My husband is amazed that his mother leaves me alone, but gives my sister-in-law fits. This is totally my secret. Because I never take the bait, picking on me is no fun. I do make small talk, but never anything revealing or deep. FWIW, this is also part of the secret to dealing with bullies at work. The other part of the secret to dealing with bullies at work is to smile and very sweetly tell them to go *&^% themselves, and then turn back to your work.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2018 18:37     Subject: What’s the best thing you’ve learned on DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:Senor Rico's Rice Pudding


Ha ha. That was me! I do want you to know that when I went to Giant, they were sold out! Someone bought them all! But nevertheless, I am happy to have shared this deliciousness and hope it increases the probability that the stores continue to carry it.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2018 18:01     Subject: Re:What’s the best thing you’ve learned on DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:Heated mattress pad
You can buy $30 bidets on Amazon
Electric blanket on your chair when you work in an icebox


Can we do this in a rental?
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2018 16:36     Subject: Re:What’s the best thing you’ve learned on DCUM?
Heated mattress pad
You can buy $30 bidets on Amazon
Electric blanket on your chair when you work in an icebox
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2018 16:09     Subject: What’s the best thing you’ve learned on DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:I can’t even deal w you people. I just tried out oven bacon and then accidentally ate the majority of the pack!!! This is ridiculous. How easy and crispy this bacon was.


That was a HAPPY accident! Glad that you joined the inner circle of people in the know! Once you've tried it, you'll never go back.