Anonymous wrote:For your husband’s benefit, please get a divorce. No one deserves to be treated like that by their spouse.

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Anonymous wrote:He is also lazy.

I think the nice way to put this would be something like “exhibits deficits in executive functioning” and is “inattentive,” but the truth is that he is a stupid and lazy man. In decisions big and small, he doesn’t have any ideas, asks me questions like “what should we do?” as if I have a manual, and shuts down easily. When crises hit, I am both the idea person and the doer. I can’t entrust tasks to him because the simplest job is an opportunity to shirk, forget, or make some idiotic mistake I couldn’t even imagine was possible.

Before we had a child and all sorts of difficulties hit, his deficits were well hidden. He was slow to do basic things, but there was not nearly as much to do. And I am a very energetic, take-charge person who naturally assumes responsibility. Now, however, there is simply too much for me to take on, no matter how much energy I have. I work 60-80 hour weeks, while he works no more than 40. Yet, I have to do most things.

He can’t be trusted with our child’s appointments because when he goes, he checks out and forgets to tell the doctor important information and then forgets what the doctor told him. He can’t be trusted with our child’s medication because it is a controlled substance with a precise dose and he likes to pour “roughly” enough. He forgets to feed her when I’m not home. He can’t even grocery shop.

It has gotten to the point at which I struggle to talk to him with respect, which makes him even more nervous and helpless. I have never heard of sheer stupidity as a ground for divorce, but that is where I am.

OP, I have seen husbands from top colleges act the same way. What you are talking about is lack of common sense and lack of initiative. It could be said about lots of men. Don't think that your husband lacks brains because he acts this way, that is not the problem. Just so you are aware.

OMG, whoever wrote the top above post is living the nightmare that is my life with two kids and manchild booksmart, educated husband. I am waiting for a terrible disaster to strike like when he didn't drain the toddler's bathtub and she walked back into it hours later. He can't remember jack - not before doing it, while doing it, or checkign after doing it. It's horrible. He needs a simple simple life of just himself.

This is at a MINIMUM ADHD inattentive. then layer on lazy, stupid, lack of common sense, misogynist, etc.

Anonymous wrote:OP: You are a complete asshole. If I were married to you I would be in shutdown mode too.

Anonymous wrote:For your husband’s benefit, please get a divorce. No one deserves to be treated like that by their spouse.

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Anonymous wrote:He is also lazy.

I think the nice way to put this would be something like “exhibits deficits in executive functioning” and is “inattentive,” but the truth is that he is a stupid and lazy man. In decisions big and small, he doesn’t have any ideas, asks me questions like “what should we do?” as if I have a manual, and shuts down easily. When crises hit, I am both the idea person and the doer. I can’t entrust tasks to him because the simplest job is an opportunity to shirk, forget, or make some idiotic mistake I couldn’t even imagine was possible.

Before we had a child and all sorts of difficulties hit, his deficits were well hidden. He was slow to do basic things, but there was not nearly as much to do. And I am a very energetic, take-charge person who naturally assumes responsibility. Now, however, there is simply too much for me to take on, no matter how much energy I have. I work 60-80 hour weeks, while he works no more than 40. Yet, I have to do most things.

He can’t be trusted with our child’s appointments because when he goes, he checks out and forgets to tell the doctor important information and then forgets what the doctor told him. He can’t be trusted with our child’s medication because it is a controlled substance with a precise dose and he likes to pour “roughly” enough. He forgets to feed her when I’m not home. He can’t even grocery shop.

It has gotten to the point at which I struggle to talk to him with respect, which makes him even more nervous and helpless. I have never heard of sheer stupidity as a ground for divorce, but that is where I am.

OP, I have seen husbands from top colleges act the same way. What you are talking about is lack of common sense and lack of initiative. It could be said about lots of men. Don't think that your husband lacks brains because he acts this way, that is not the problem. Just so you are aware.

Anonymous wrote:The guy is stupid and lazy and that equals ADHD? Why can't someone just be stupid and lazy? It's easier to cure.

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Anonymous wrote:For your husband’s benefit, please get a divorce. No one deserves to be treated like that by their spouse.

love the reverse victim mentality among some. definitely get out then, let them F around with other people's lives.

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Anonymous wrote:For your husband’s benefit, please get a divorce. No one deserves to be treated like that by their spouse.

love the reverse victim mentality among some. definitely get out then, let them F around with other people's lives.

Anonymous wrote:For your husband’s benefit, please get a divorce. No one deserves to be treated like that by their spouse.