I find it interesting that so many women on here care about denying husbands the love/joy/respect that comes from this symbolic gesture instead of focusing on real problems facing women and girls

It's like you care more about belittling men than lifting up women and girls

Anonymous wrote:I'm one of the men who isn't happy about my wife not taking my name but I married her despite her plan to keep her name

We are a happy couple despite our disagreement on this issue

Does that make me a misogynist?

A lot of the meaner/snarkier comments from men are responding to women telling them (us) we are insecure, man children, whiny boys, bitches, pathetic etc

No, but it does mean you should check your thinking about men, women, and patriarchy.

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Anonymous wrote:I was talking about male friends whose wives took their names

I can't imagine a scenario where I would end up friends with a man who was capable of taking his wife's name

Dude, you have some serious insecurity problems. I have plenty of friends whose wives did not take their last name. We don't care. We're all friends and we're all happy for our guy friends. I know three friends who took their wives' names. Also not a problem. Why you hang so much of your masculinity on something so inconsequential is just boggling to me. I feel my masculinity by having had children, having a family that I love and obviously loves me and that I care for the way a man takes care of his family. I'm a provider, caretaker, protector. But, I am not a monarch, owner or dictator.

If you feel threatened, even in your subconscious by your wife keeping her surname, then you have a problem that is yours and no one else's problem. If you are that insecure then even if she changed her name, you would still find something else to obsess over. This is psychological problem of yours.

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I'm really really glad that your wife's choice to keep her name makes you so miserable. You deserve it.

Thanks. And I'm glad you will never be married or a mother and won't have the opportunity to pass on your views to the next generation.

Why are people getting so mean?

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Anonymous wrote:Right, being called pathetic or a man child by a bunch of lonely women on the internet is going to change my mind

If you don't hear things like this in real life, it's because people know you would respond like you have here and they don't even bother sharing their real opinions with you

She's a good wife. Just wish she changed her name. After this thread I realize I don't care much about her changing it legally, I'm more interested in using our family name socially

NP here. Why is it so important to you? Do you think that you're somehow less of a family if you don't share the same name? Do you feel like less of a man if your wife doesn't use your name in your social circle? It sounds like you're more concerned with how others view you and your family.

I spent my whole life imagining having a "Smith" family but ended up falling for someone who wants a Smith/Jones family

If I hadn't cared about it in the past, maybe it wouldn't be important to me now, but it is

To answer your questions, to a degree I'd say yes and yes

This topic will become more urgent/important when we have school age children so I'll revisit it in a few years to see if either me or my wife have softened our views on things

You might not realize it, but it sounds like you want to own your family. Take a step out from your feelings and really consider what it is you want, more objectively. It's not that you want to share one name, it's that you want to brand everyone else in your family with your last name. It's possessive in the truest sense of the word.

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I'm one of the men who isn't happy about my wife not taking my name but I married her despite her plan to keep her name

We are a happy couple despite our disagreement on this issue

Does that make me a misogynist?

A lot of the meaner/snarkier comments from men are responding to women telling them (us) we are insecure, man children, whiny boys, bitches, pathetic etc

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a husband of a wife who kept her name. I don't regret marrying her because she makes up for it in other ways but I pretty much resent it, am jealous of men whose wives took their names and hope she will change it some day to have the same last name as our future kids, like other women I know have done or plan to do

Why don't you change your name, and then your future kids will have the same last name as both you and your wife?

No matter how many people you pretend to be posting this again and again, it's never going to happen

I'm really really glad that your wife's choice to keep her name makes you so miserable. You deserve it.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a husband of a wife who kept her name. I don't regret marrying her because she makes up for it in other ways but I pretty much resent it, am jealous of men whose wives took their names and hope she will change it some day to have the same last name as our future kids, like other women I know have done or plan to do

Why don't you change your name, and then your future kids will have the same last name as both you and your wife?

No matter how many people you pretend to be posting this again and again, it's never going to happen

I am a woman who changed my name in order to have the same last name as my family. My husband said he would consider changing his name when I asked him about it a few years later.

For me, I wanted us to have the same name as our children. I was willing to change my name, but if I thought my husband was the kind of guy who would hold a grudge if I didn't or not even consider changing his name, he wouldn't be my husband.

There is so much misogyny on this thread it makes me want to use my maiden name! Usually these threads get taken over by judgy feminists who only want to green light their choice as the feminist choice. I disagree with them but nothing they say makes me like...all these MRA creeps are starting to make me see those judgy b's points.

Everyone should MYOB about what other people do and every man should respect his wife's autonomy and allow her to make that decision without undue pressure from his (small if he gives a sh$#) penis.

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what do you think of married couples (with children) who go by different last names? just your first impression. or do you think nothing of it?


In almost all cases, the woman turns out to be a PIA. Including my wife.

I am a bit of a PIA, but my husband likes that about me. He also wouldn't be caught dead arguing about women's maiden names on DCUM, so there's many ways you two are different.

Nnno. He just can't afford to divorce you.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate that my wife kept her name. It's one thing I would change about her and our marriage if I could. It's embarrassing to me and makes me sad that we will never be able to send out Christmas cards from the (last name)

If Christmas cards under one family name mean so much to you, why don't you change your last name to hers? Problem solved.

Problem solved ... but only for a cuckhold.

I find this offensive. Moderator. Moderator. Report. Report.

You're triggered. Alert the media.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a husband of a wife who kept her name. I don't regret marrying her because she makes up for it in other ways but I pretty much resent it, am jealous of men whose wives took their names and hope she will change it some day to have the same last name as our future kids, like other women I know have done or plan to do

Why don't you change your name, and then your future kids will have the same last name as both you and your wife?

No matter how many people you pretend to be posting this again and again, it's never going to happen

Anonymous wrote:I'm a husband of a wife who kept her name. I don't regret marrying her because she makes up for it in other ways but I pretty much resent it, am jealous of men whose wives took their names and hope she will change it some day to have the same last name as our future kids, like other women I know have done or plan to do

Why don't you change your name, and then your future kids will have the same last name as both you and your wife?

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Anonymous wrote:Am one of them. Think nothing of it. Wonder a little about the women who change their names, though.

I hope you don’t pull a muscle patting yourself on the back.

ha ha ha right?

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Anonymous wrote:I hate that my wife kept her name. It's one thing I would change about her and our marriage if I could. It's embarrassing to me and makes me sad that we will never be able to send out Christmas cards from the (last name)

If Christmas cards under one family name mean so much to you, why don't you change your last name to hers? Problem solved.

Problem solved ... but only for a cuckhold.

Haha, keep on trying, pp!

Anonymous wrote:Haha!! Yes! The cat ladies and Tumblr feminists versus the pathetic divorced men!

DCUM battle Royale!!!!

Don't forget the Red Pill micropenis crowd! If only they and the lonely cat ladies could lower their standards juuuust enough, we could start a dating site right here.