Anonymous
03/24/2018 00:37
Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I thought you meant like, Vicky vs. Vicki, where it's a spelling difference. I think Susie vs. Suzi is a big enough difference that it's not misspelling, it's a different nickname your DD has from her grandmother. That's less bothersome to me because it won't confuse the kid about spelling and letters, and more of a "you can have this thing together" issue.
What? Are you pronouncing Susie and Suzi differently? That said, so what; people misspelled my nn accidentally but I still learned to spell it. I’m 46 and my mom’s side still misspells it. No biggie.
+1 This is the textbook definition of small stuff OP.
Not OP...but this is also the textbook definition of passive-aggressively petty on the party of Grandma. It's not an accident it is unnecessarily hostile to the parents.
Anonymous
03/21/2018 20:40
Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.
My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.
Tillie is really cute!
+1 that’s adorable! My grandpa was the only person in my life to call me Emma (my name is Emily and I only ever went by that) and I LOVED it. It was a special grandpa-granddaughter thing. Take a chill pill, for heaven’s sake.
The way you felt about something cannot be extrapolated to how everyone should feel about a similar situation. Clearly the OP doesn't like it, and there's a pretty good chance the OP's daughter won't like that her grandmother deliberately misspells her name. The grandmother clearly isn't doing it to create a special bond with the child, but rather to annoy the child's parents.
Tilllie is objectively so much better than Millicent.
But that's not your decision to make. Millicent seems wonderful to us because of all the wonderful women in my family line who have had the name. All living Millicents get together twice a year and do something special (I'm the second daughter, so I've never gone, but I think they incorporate a favorite thing of each Millicent into the Millicent day). Being a Millicent in my family is wonderful and special.
Wow, that sounds incredibly exclusive and hurtful to those who aren't the first born. I hope you don't have a second daughter!
I think she's making this Millicent thing up. But on the tiny chance this isn't ducktales I pity the first person who has the guts not to name their first daughter Millicent.
My family had this for about five generations, for the first born son. The name was very unusual, old fashioned and not English, something like Godewyn. This continued until my uncle fed up with decades of explaining and spelling his name, named his oldest boy Tom.
Anonymous
03/19/2018 19:37
Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Soon enough, your DD will outgrow the chair. Nicknames, we are lucky if we get to choose them. Most people have a few. I wouldn't sweat blood over this.
Anonymous
03/19/2018 14:24
Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Accept the gift graciously and throw it away. When MIL asks where it is just be vague about it.
Anonymous
03/19/2018 14:19
Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
my father calls my son "boy". not his given name or nick name , just "boy", as in "hey boy look at this" (and no, this isn't a common manner of speaking where we are from). this bothers my mother to no end. not really related but some of just want the kid to be called a proper noun by their grandparent. my son has a very ordinary name, one of the more common Biblical names given to boys, so it isn't like we gave him a strange hollywood name and my father has reason to be passive aggressive about it.
Anonymous
03/18/2018 14:57
Subject: Re:Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
OP spells her DD's nickname "Minnie" and MIL wants it to be "Mini"? Or Debbie vs Debi or Amy vs Ami ... Yeah I would be pissed to have a Pottery Barn chair with the cutesy "i" spelling on it, too.
Anonymous
03/18/2018 14:53
Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This thread is entertaining.
I don't get the hysteria over the spelling of a name.
I used about 6 different spellings of my name from the ages of 8-14. I can't imagine my parents hyperventilating like this because that isn't how they decided my name to be spelled.
I came from a family where we used all kinds of names and nicknames, we all grew up knowing our names and who they meant. I also didn't have hyper controlling parents who tried to dictate every aspect of who I was and what my identity must be.
You all need bigger problems in life and a Xanax. Creating friction in relationships over the spelling of a nickname just seems so immature and bizarre to me.
That’s because you are a normal person who is not looking for reasons to be offended or to create drama.
If you read all the oP's posts, it is clear that the MIL was doing it on purpose and clearly stated why - she thinks her spelling is cuter. The MIL writing the wrong spelling on cards etc is one think but this is a large personalized easy chair with the wrong name embroidered across it. When confronted the MIL smiled and said"oops!"
I am a normal person and this would irk me too.
Anonymous
03/15/2018 22:53
Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:This thread is entertaining.
I don't get the hysteria over the spelling of a name.
I used about 6 different spellings of my name from the ages of 8-14. I can't imagine my parents hyperventilating like this because that isn't how they decided my name to be spelled.
I came from a family where we used all kinds of names and nicknames, we all grew up knowing our names and who they meant. I also didn't have hyper controlling parents who tried to dictate every aspect of who I was and what my identity must be.
You all need bigger problems in life and a Xanax. Creating friction in relationships over the spelling of a nickname just seems so immature and bizarre to me.
That’s because you are a normal person who is not looking for reasons to be offended or to create drama.
Anonymous
03/15/2018 21:56
Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If it’s intentional then I agree it’s rude. Get a new slipcover for the chair.
That involves buying a new chair.
No it doesn’t. The anywhere chairs from PBK can be handed down/re gifted/etc and a new cover ordered from the store.
A cover may well be a lot cheaper than a chair, but it's beyond obnoxious that someone should have to spend ANY money to correct an intentional mistake so the kid can have a "gift" (that the parents didn't even ask for) from the obnoxious person.
Anonymous
03/15/2018 20:12
Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If it’s intentional then I agree it’s rude. Get a new slipcover for the chair.
That involves buying a new chair.
No it doesn’t. The anywhere chairs from PBK can be handed down/re gifted/etc and a new cover ordered from the store.
Anonymous
03/12/2018 16:54
Subject: Re:Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Update from OP? Has MIL seen the new chair?
Anonymous
03/10/2018 21:07
Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:Use a sharpie and fix it!!
LOL
^^^^b I hope the item was expensive!
Anonymous
03/10/2018 21:07
Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Use a sharpie and fix it!!
LOL
LOL
Anonymous
03/10/2018 20:26
Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Have you ever called MIL on it? What does she say?
OP here. She pretends that she forgot and then says, " it's just so much prettier... [her way]. When DH told her that DD's name was spelled wrong on the chair, she smiled and said, " oops!"
Puke. What a selfish b*tch.
She’d lose all credibility and trust with me after pulling that. Write her off and just enjoy the ride.