I am so sorry he moved out. There might be more going on than just your child co-sleeping or your request for cuddling, not to be rude. Is there a therapist you can speak with or would your husband be willing to go to a therapist? I just think there is more to this than just those two things. Prayers to you.

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Anonymous wrote:Cosleeping is definitely NOT going to improve your marriage if things are already bad. Sleeping together brings you closer. Every therapist would tell you this.

Agreed, but the problem, again, is not co-sleeping. The problem is the marriage being already bad

The majority of marriages have lots of problems after children. Cosleeping does not help.

NP. Let me put this again: COSLEEPING IS STILL NOT THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE PROBLEMS

These marriages are imploding anyway. I also suspect cosleeping in some of them is not about he children, but about the avoidance that is already there. So rather than being the cause of the relationship’s problems, it’s an effect.

Whatever you need to tell yourself, lady.

Bringing a kid into the bed you share intimate time with your spouse in sure isn’t going to improve anything. You are literally delusional if you believe it can’t dampen a decent/good relationship.

+1

Lots of defensive women on here. I guarantee their husbands one not on board with this arrangement.

Yours might not be. Mine loves it. We sleep more, the kids are happy and secure and we are more rested and have more sex. What’s there not to be happy about?

+1

Anonymous wrote:And I know another woman who still cosleeps with her 5 year old in a separate room from her H.

Hello, my wife’s friend! Don’t worry I’m getting a divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:Cosleeping is definitely NOT going to improve your marriage if things are already bad. Sleeping together brings you closer. Every therapist would tell you this.

Agreed, but the problem, again, is not co-sleeping. The problem is the marriage being already bad

The majority of marriages have lots of problems after children. Cosleeping does not help.

NP. Let me put this again: COSLEEPING IS STILL NOT THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE PROBLEMS

These marriages are imploding anyway. I also suspect cosleeping in some of them is not about he children, but about the avoidance that is already there. So rather than being the cause of the relationship’s problems, it’s an effect.

Whatever you need to tell yourself, lady.

Bringing a kid into the bed you share intimate time with your spouse in sure isn’t going to improve anything. You are literally delusional if you believe it can’t dampen a decent/good relationship.

+1

Lots of defensive women on here. I guarantee their husbands one not on board with this arrangement.

Yours might not be. Mine loves it. We sleep more, the kids are happy and secure and we are more rested and have more sex. What’s there not to be happy about?

Lots of delusional women on here. I guarantee their husbands are not as in love with this arrangement as the wives think they are.

I am the PP you are responding to. How many times per week do you have sex? How much time do you spend alone with your husband? Here is me

Sex every other day (married 6 years with 2 kids). We spend at least 1.5/2 hours alone every night while the kids sleep. Weekends a lot more obviously. Trust me, my husband is very happy and so am I.

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Anonymous wrote:Cosleeping is definitely NOT going to improve your marriage if things are already bad. Sleeping together brings you closer. Every therapist would tell you this.

Agreed, but the problem, again, is not co-sleeping. The problem is the marriage being already bad

The majority of marriages have lots of problems after children. Cosleeping does not help.

NP. Let me put this again: COSLEEPING IS STILL NOT THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE PROBLEMS

These marriages are imploding anyway. I also suspect cosleeping in some of them is not about he children, but about the avoidance that is already there. So rather than being the cause of the relationship’s problems, it’s an effect.

Whatever you need to tell yourself, lady.

Bringing a kid into the bed you share intimate time with your spouse in sure isn’t going to improve anything. You are literally delusional if you believe it can’t dampen a decent/good relationship.

+1

Lots of defensive women on here. I guarantee their husbands one not on board with this arrangement.

Yours might not be. Mine loves it. We sleep more, the kids are happy and secure and we are more rested and have more sex. What’s there not to be happy about?

Lots of delusional women on here. I guarantee their husbands are not as in love with this arrangement as the wives think they are.

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Anonymous wrote:Cosleeping is definitely NOT going to improve your marriage if things are already bad. Sleeping together brings you closer. Every therapist would tell you this.

Agreed, but the problem, again, is not co-sleeping. The problem is the marriage being already bad

The majority of marriages have lots of problems after children. Cosleeping does not help.

NP. Let me put this again: COSLEEPING IS STILL NOT THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE PROBLEMS

These marriages are imploding anyway. I also suspect cosleeping in some of them is not about he children, but about the avoidance that is already there. So rather than being the cause of the relationship’s problems, it’s an effect.

Whatever you need to tell yourself, lady.

Bringing a kid into the bed you share intimate time with your spouse in sure isn’t going to improve anything. You are literally delusional if you believe it can’t dampen a decent/good relationship.

+1

Lots of defensive women on here. I guarantee their husbands one not on board with this arrangement.

Yours might not be. Mine loves it. We sleep more, the kids are happy and secure and we are more rested and have more sex. What’s there not to be happy about?

I woman I used to work for still let her 12 year old sleep in the marital bed...b.c the child was "too nervous" to sleep on her own.

And I know another woman who still cosleeps with her 5 year old in a separate room from her H.

It's wrong to use your child as a human shield against your spouse...which is totally what happens!

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Anonymous wrote:Cosleeping is definitely NOT going to improve your marriage if things are already bad. Sleeping together brings you closer. Every therapist would tell you this.

Agreed, but the problem, again, is not co-sleeping. The problem is the marriage being already bad

The majority of marriages have lots of problems after children. Cosleeping does not help.

NP. Let me put this again: COSLEEPING IS STILL NOT THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE PROBLEMS

These marriages are imploding anyway. I also suspect cosleeping in some of them is not about he children, but about the avoidance that is already there. So rather than being the cause of the relationship’s problems, it’s an effect.

Whatever you need to tell yourself, lady.

Bringing a kid into the bed you share intimate time with your spouse in sure isn’t going to improve anything. You are literally delusional if you believe it can’t dampen a decent/good relationship.

+1

Lots of defensive women on here. I guarantee their husbands one not on board with this arrangement.

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Anonymous wrote:Cosleeping is definitely NOT going to improve your marriage if things are already bad. Sleeping together brings you closer. Every therapist would tell you this.

Agreed, but the problem, again, is not co-sleeping. The problem is the marriage being already bad

The majority of marriages have lots of problems after children. Cosleeping does not help.

NP. Let me put this again: COSLEEPING IS STILL NOT THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE PROBLEMS

These marriages are imploding anyway. I also suspect cosleeping in some of them is not about he children, but about the avoidance that is already there. So rather than being the cause of the relationship’s problems, it’s an effect.

+1. Co-sleeping does not help fix the problem, but is NOT the problem.

OP I am sorry to say this, but your husband just finds excuses not to have sex with you. It’s not about your sleeping arrangement.

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Anonymous wrote:Cosleeping is definitely NOT going to improve your marriage if things are already bad. Sleeping together brings you closer. Every therapist would tell you this.

Agreed, but the problem, again, is not co-sleeping. The problem is the marriage being already bad

The majority of marriages have lots of problems after children. Cosleeping does not help.

NP. Let me put this again: COSLEEPING IS STILL NOT THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE PROBLEMS

These marriages are imploding anyway. I also suspect cosleeping in some of them is not about he children, but about the avoidance that is already there. So rather than being the cause of the relationship’s problems, it’s an effect.

Whatever you need to tell yourself, lady.

Bringing a kid into the bed you share intimate time with your spouse in sure isn’t going to improve anything. You are literally delusional if you believe it can’t dampen a decent/good relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:Cosleeping is definitely NOT going to improve your marriage if things are already bad. Sleeping together brings you closer. Every therapist would tell you this.

Agreed, but the problem, again, is not co-sleeping. The problem is the marriage being already bad

The majority of marriages have lots of problems after children. Cosleeping does not help.

NP. Let me put this again: COSLEEPING IS STILL NOT THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE PROBLEMS

These marriages are imploding anyway. I also suspect cosleeping in some of them is not about he children, but about the avoidance that is already there. So rather than being the cause of the relationship’s problems, it’s an effect.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cosleeping is definitely NOT going to improve your marriage if things are already bad. Sleeping together brings you closer. Every therapist would tell you this.

Agreed, but the problem, again, is not co-sleeping. The problem is the marriage being already bad

The majority of marriages have lots of problems after children. Cosleeping does not help.