Anonymous
01/21/2018 18:41
Subject: I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
I'm glad for you OP
Anonymous
01/21/2018 18:40
Subject: Re:I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
This is such a troll.
Anonymous
01/21/2018 18:18
Subject: Re:I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
This is OP. I do have an update!
My ex stayed radio silent, I stayed miserable no matter what I focused my energy on (painting, teaching art classes, learning guitar, walking 5 miles a day) and I knew I couldn’t move on without some further closure. So I flew out here on Thursday, got an Airbnb near his work, and caught him as he was walking to the parking garage.
It wasn’t a magical rom com moment but it was something. He didn’t ignore me, didn’t call the police. He asked what I was doing here and I told him. He asked for a hug. We got coffee and we walked around the grounds of his work and sat at “our spot.” He smoked a cigarette and told me he didn’t want to be with me. I was okay with that, although it was painful to hear.
It was getting cold so we went to his office and talked more. He kept telling me how beautiful I looked and I kept saying “then take me home with you tonight” and he said it wasn’t a good idea. As we were leaving I asked if he would at least come get the painting I made and brought for him. We decided one night together was what we both wanted and not to worry about the morning.. He came back to my tiny TINY little airbnb room and spent the night in the twin bed. We stayed up until 3 am then dozed on and off until I had to check out at noon.
I guess we still couldn’t say goodbye because we got smoothies and he took me back to his place. We had another emotional talk and he admitted he hadn’t been doing well, not for a long time, since even before he met me. That he’s depressed and sad and needs help and is afraid to tell his family. I knew I couldn’t leave until he got the help he needed so I said I would go to see his family with him so he could tell them. That was last night and today we decided we want to be together. We’re not sure exactly what’s going to happen next but we’re happy, it feels right, and we both want to work hard to fix ourselves not just for each other but for our own happiness.
So, not a fairy tale ending by a long shot. But I took a big risk and we’re both happy I did.
My ex stayed radio silent, I stayed miserable no matter what I focused my energy on (painting, teaching art classes, learning guitar, walking 5 miles a day) and I knew I couldn’t move on without some further closure. So I flew out here on Thursday, got an Airbnb near his work, and caught him as he was walking to the parking garage.
It wasn’t a magical rom com moment but it was something. He didn’t ignore me, didn’t call the police. He asked what I was doing here and I told him. He asked for a hug. We got coffee and we walked around the grounds of his work and sat at “our spot.” He smoked a cigarette and told me he didn’t want to be with me. I was okay with that, although it was painful to hear.
It was getting cold so we went to his office and talked more. He kept telling me how beautiful I looked and I kept saying “then take me home with you tonight” and he said it wasn’t a good idea. As we were leaving I asked if he would at least come get the painting I made and brought for him. We decided one night together was what we both wanted and not to worry about the morning.. He came back to my tiny TINY little airbnb room and spent the night in the twin bed. We stayed up until 3 am then dozed on and off until I had to check out at noon.
I guess we still couldn’t say goodbye because we got smoothies and he took me back to his place. We had another emotional talk and he admitted he hadn’t been doing well, not for a long time, since even before he met me. That he’s depressed and sad and needs help and is afraid to tell his family. I knew I couldn’t leave until he got the help he needed so I said I would go to see his family with him so he could tell them. That was last night and today we decided we want to be together. We’re not sure exactly what’s going to happen next but we’re happy, it feels right, and we both want to work hard to fix ourselves not just for each other but for our own happiness.
So, not a fairy tale ending by a long shot. But I took a big risk and we’re both happy I did.
Anonymous
01/11/2018 12:39
Subject: I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
OP, I just read all these, any update?
Anonymous
01/05/2018 21:47
Subject: I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
Anonymous wrote:I just knew this thread was going to end with a catfish story. Oh well. I hope your 2018 has been good so far OP.
Who catfished?
Anonymous
01/05/2018 21:42
Subject: I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
I just knew this thread was going to end with a catfish story. Oh well. I hope your 2018 has been good so far OP.
Anonymous
12/27/2017 15:41
Subject: Re:I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Sorry to hear it. Hope things get better.Anonymous wrote:I'm not doing well, but thank you for asking.
It will get better. Just keep yourself busy.
If she's having a Manic episode...keeping busy is the last thing she needs
Anonymous
12/27/2017 15:35
Subject: Re:I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
Anonymous wrote:Sorry to hear it. Hope things get better.Anonymous wrote:I'm not doing well, but thank you for asking.
It will get better. Just keep yourself busy.
Anonymous
12/27/2017 12:30
Subject: Re:I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
Sorry to hear it. Hope things get better.Anonymous wrote:I'm not doing well, but thank you for asking.
Anonymous
12/27/2017 12:06
Subject: Re:I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
I'm not doing well, but thank you for asking.
Anonymous
12/27/2017 11:32
Subject: I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
She is on a 48 hour marathon session with her ex. They are "getting to know" each other again. Only stopping for sleep and food.
Anonymous
12/27/2017 10:36
Subject: I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
How are you doing, OP?
Anonymous
12/23/2017 10:54
Subject: I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't listen to these spinsters and future cat ladies. This is your soulmate! Go get him!
You need to read the whole thread! She posted after not sleeping or eating for two days and is now getting therapy. Don’t encourage this.
op is obviously going through an episode. Please don't encourage this poor woman to make a fool of herself and be hurt even more. You can't go get someone who doesn't want anything to do with you. He blocked her. That speaks loud and clear. Lots of men. No need waste your time on this one.
Anonymous
12/23/2017 08:39
Subject: I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
Anonymous wrote:Don't listen to these spinsters and future cat ladies. This is your soulmate! Go get him!
You need to read the whole thread! She posted after not sleeping or eating for two days and is now getting therapy. Don’t encourage this.
Anonymous
12/23/2017 08:38
Subject: I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA
Anonymous wrote:Don't listen to these spinsters and future cat ladies. This is your soulmate! Go get him!
i am one of the PPs urging OP not contact her ex (and certainly not show up). i have been married for 20+ years. but i made similar kinds of mistakes in my early twenties. i am a romantic... but you can force romance.