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I know he will deny it but I would be serious money he was a secret Trumper. He's trying to keep it hidden but his misogynism and racism are leaking in to all his posts.

Not the OP but what's racist about liking Asian women? I know white women who prefer Asian men and no one calls them racist.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Loving the harpies reactions: closet homo, into anime in high school, the stereotypes just go on and on. Nope, not at all possible someone knows what they like and have specific preferences. Unless of course you're a 40 year old divorced mom of 2 who wants a 6'2 banker. In that case, all expectations are reasonable and the sister just needs to keep looking for prince charming. So predictable. It's almost fun seeing the reaction.

Ok, I gave you legit advice--take some Ativan for anxiety, which you ignored. Then you revealed more of your personality so I'm also the one who said you might be closeted (not a "homo," which you said pejoratively). But I'm a harpie! Got it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Loving the harpies reactions: closet homo, into anime in high school, the stereotypes just go on and on. Nope, not at all possible someone knows what they like and have specific preferences. Unless of course you're a 40 year old divorced mom of 2 who wants a 6'2 banker. In that case, all expectations are reasonable and the sister just needs to keep looking for prince charming. So predictable. It's almost fun seeing the reaction.

You're the one on here complaining about repeatedly not getting second dates with women you like, but yeah, I guess it's everyone else who has a problem.

Never said I didn't have a challenge. But a challenge is different then having something fundamentally wrong with your outlook. My OP simply asked for strategies to bring the same vibe/personality to 1st dates that I'm not as excited about as ones that I'm wanting to perfect. My preferences are entirely ancillary and in fact unrelated to the OP question asked. I simply indulged people's curious natures, but you'll note I never raised that aspect in my post. Careful what you ask for folks lol. Staying on topic has its virtues. I tried.

I like you OP.

NP - if the OP is above average, looking for same, then he has to realize that the competition is INSANE. If you are a single woman, professional, bright, petite, pretty, slim, friendly, smart - every date is making themselves out to be a babbling idiot in front of you. Every. Single. One. If you are of a subtype that is fetishized (like cute petite Asian), it gets weird FAST

OP, you have to understand - these women are meeting guys who are trying to figure out how to get them to fulfill their every fantasy. Whether your intentions are more noble than the others, who knows - plenty of people here think they're not - but that's irrelevant.

You going all caveman on them only reinforces the hard press that they are getting from every single guy. It is a problem you have, but it's reinforced by the type of woman you're seeking to connect with

I would try just being as honest with them as you are being here - yes, you are attracted to a certain type, yes you are looking for something "real", yes you know you can come off not great, yes you know there is no way to distinguish you from every other guy. Don't go beta, just be real - these women are either meeting guys who are all "I'm not worthy of you" or guys who are "I'll tell you anything you want to hear" - they're as tired of it as you are

Change it up for them, that's the only way

Anonymous wrote:This man isn't looking for a mate, he's looking for a status symbol.

+1

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Loving the harpies reactions: closet homo, into anime in high school, the stereotypes just go on and on. Nope, not at all possible someone knows what they like and have specific preferences. Unless of course you're a 40 year old divorced mom of 2 who wants a 6'2 banker. In that case, all expectations are reasonable and the sister just needs to keep looking for prince charming. So predictable. It's almost fun seeing the reaction.

It could be the women are harpies and you are a whiner.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Loving the harpies reactions: closet homo, into anime in high school, the stereotypes just go on and on. Nope, not at all possible someone knows what they like and have specific preferences. Unless of course you're a 40 year old divorced mom of 2 who wants a 6'2 banker. In that case, all expectations are reasonable and the sister just needs to keep looking for prince charming. So predictable. It's almost fun seeing the reaction.

You have a little Trump in you.

+ 1

I know he will deny it but I would be serious money he was a secret Trumper. He's trying to keep it hidden but his misogynism and racism are leaking in to all his posts.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Loving the harpies reactions: closet homo, into anime in high school, the stereotypes just go on and on. Nope, not at all possible someone knows what they like and have specific preferences. Unless of course you're a 40 year old divorced mom of 2 who wants a 6'2 banker. In that case, all expectations are reasonable and the sister just needs to keep looking for prince charming. So predictable. It's almost fun seeing the reaction.

You're the one on here complaining about repeatedly not getting second dates with women you like, but yeah, I guess it's everyone else who has a problem.

Never said I didn't have a challenge. But a challenge is different then having something fundamentally wrong with your outlook. My OP simply asked for strategies to bring the same vibe/personality to 1st dates that I'm not as excited about as ones that I'm wanting to perfect. My preferences are entirely ancillary and in fact unrelated to the OP question asked. I simply indulged people's curious natures, but you'll note I never raised that aspect in my post. Careful what you ask for folks lol. Staying on topic has its virtues. I tried.

lol. This goes beyond a mere "challenge." There is something fundamentally wrong with your outlook. You can't get a second date with any woman you're really interested in. That means there is something wrong with how YOU are coming across to other people. The responses in this thread are overwhelmingly the same, which is rare on this forum and should tell you something. Even the cheaters usually get someone to stick up for them. However, here, you have everyone telling you the same thing: you are way too focused on appearances and you are coming off as too eager and, consequently, insecure and desperate on first dates. In addition to those issues, you sound very whiny and entitled in your posts which no woman is going to find attractive. ALL OF THESE ISSUES COMBINED IS WHY YOU ARE NOT GETTING ANY SECOND DATES.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Loving the harpies reactions: closet homo, into anime in high school, the stereotypes just go on and on. Nope, not at all possible someone knows what they like and have specific preferences. Unless of course you're a 40 year old divorced mom of 2 who wants a 6'2 banker. In that case, all expectations are reasonable and the sister just needs to keep looking for prince charming. So predictable. It's almost fun seeing the reaction.

You have a little Trump in you.