Anonymous wrote:Oh, that makes more sense.

Thanks for mansplaining how I should handle leaving my career to raise my children.

And PP - divorce surrounding money is a leading factor in bankruptcy and other financial emergencies. You lose love, maybe your kids , - but if you protected your assets you don't lose your quality of life. Or kids.

Because I can always provide for my kids I will never be in trouble. That gives me complete freedom. Lots of people on here hate their spouse but are financially trapped. We aren't, because like adults, we considered all possibilities before we wed.

Anonymous wrote:Oh, that makes more sense.

Thanks for mansplaining how I should handle leaving my career to raise my children.

And PP - divorce surrounding money is a leading factor in bankruptcy and other financial emergencies. You lose love, maybe your kids , - but if you protected your assets you don't lose your quality of life. Or kids.

Because I can always provide for my kids I will never be in trouble. That gives me complete freedom. Lots of people on here hate their spouse but are financially trapped. We aren't, because like adults, we considered all possibilities before we wed.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't feel sad it's a provision of my trust. I've trusted him with my life. There is no such thing as a way to "share that trust". I pay for expensive things like his Mba (102k) , 200k of our downpayment on top of our 200k, our vacation home by using money that I legally separated from the trust.

Again- if you feel comfortable losing half of your wealth if your spouse bails on you- good for you! You are very generous.

I do feel comfortable with that, because I trust my marriage. You trust your trust--hence your using it as a hedge if your spouse "bails" on you.

But- you have nothing to lose. I trust my marriage too .

Another bullshit woman decrying a woman doing the EXACT thing everyone would advise a SAHM to do.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't feel sad it's a provision of my trust. I've trusted him with my life. There is no such thing as a way to "share that trust". I pay for expensive things like his Mba (102k) , 200k of our downpayment on top of our 200k, our vacation home by using money that I legally separated from the trust.

Again- if you feel comfortable losing half of your wealth if your spouse bails on you- good for you! You are very generous.

I do feel comfortable with that, because I trust my marriage. You trust your trust--hence your using it as a hedge if your spouse "bails" on you.

But- you have nothing to lose. I trust my marriage too .

Another bullshit woman decrying a woman doing the EXACT thing everyone would advise a SAHM to do.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't feel sad it's a provision of my trust. I've trusted him with my life. There is no such thing as a way to "share that trust". I pay for expensive things like his Mba (102k) , 200k of our downpayment on top of our 200k, our vacation home by using money that I legally separated from the trust.

Again- if you feel comfortable losing half of your wealth if your spouse bails on you- good for you! You are very generous.

I do feel comfortable with that, because I trust my marriage. You trust your trust--hence your using it as a hedge if your spouse "bails" on you.

But- you have nothing to lose. I trust my marriage too .

Another bullshit woman decrying a woman doing the EXACT thing everyone would advise a SAHM to do.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't feel sad it's a provision of my trust. I've trusted him with my life. There is no such thing as a way to "share that trust". I pay for expensive things like his Mba (102k) , 200k of our downpayment on top of our 200k, our vacation home by using money that I legally separated from the trust.

Again- if you feel comfortable losing half of your wealth if your spouse bails on you- good for you! You are very generous.

I do feel comfortable with that, because I trust my marriage. You trust your trust--hence your using it as a hedge if your spouse "bails" on you.

Anonymous wrote:Don't feel sad it's a provision of my trust. I've trusted him with my life. There is no such thing as a way to "share that trust". I pay for expensive things like his Mba (102k) , 200k of our downpayment on top of our 200k, our vacation home by using money that I legally separated from the trust.

Again- if you feel comfortable losing half of your wealth if your spouse bails on you- good for you! You are very generous.

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Anonymous wrote:It is frustrating dealing with people who don't understand how massive wealth works, and who insult your marriage etc does it make me bitter? No way. I'm on easy street.

Your massive wealth can't buy you a happy marriage, unfortunately. Maybe you need a bigger trust.

You are so right.

We've been married for 12 years and have 4 kids- he's.my best friend. Seeing as how we haven't touched my trust and wisely share and donate our annual gifting of $56k I'd say we have a healthy and realistic view of what a partnership is. Our kids are healthy and awesome. We just bought our dream house and a vacation property in the Rockies. My trust gets bigger every year with a passive income of $350k (this year) that automatically reinvests- but thanks- if things go south that trust will be bigger. Appreciate the advice.

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Anonymous wrote:It is frustrating dealing with people who don't understand how massive wealth works, and who insult your marriage etc does it make me bitter? No way. I'm on easy street.

Your massive wealth can't buy you a happy marriage, unfortunately. Maybe you need a bigger trust.

Anonymous wrote:It is frustrating dealing with people who don't understand how massive wealth works, and who insult your marriage etc does it make me bitter? No way. I'm on easy street.

Anonymous wrote:mmm. Maybe. Or maybe I'm just not poor and bitter and uneducated about how money works.