Anonymous
Post 12/13/2016 05:59     Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP's ex. We are sorting things out. It was real close to getting really ugly about two weeks ago -- she has moved out, and she demanded money from me. I said we need a comprehensive agreement.

We are working on it. Fortunately, I have the cash (actually in a mutual fund, so not cash cash) to write a check for her equity in the house, and get her off the mortgage. It will be 250K to her, 150K to the bank.

I am paying her 1/2 the equity, which is about 500K.


Please drag out the divorce so you can delay paying her. She gets nothing during this separation period, right? Serves her right for cheating on you. Let her mooch off her boyfriend.


She gets stuff once we are legally separated. I want this to be over, but not enough to give her what she wants. (she still wants half my cash).


What changed? I thought the last update was she accepted her attorney's guidance, that she's not entitled and she should take your generous offer.


I don't know why she decided to be aggressive. she refused the offer, because I had one rule: her BF could not live in the house until DD was not living in the house (unless they were married). This included overnights. I made that a condition to protect DD.

She refused, moved out and into her BF's appt. Then, we had another deal, but she refused the deal, and is basically saying she will go away for 2 mil. I am not worried because 1) she has no money right now, and 2) she will not get it legally.

I have told her, accept the terms, or in Jan I will file for at-fault divorce on grounds of adultery. I have the proof. If we go that route, I will pay more in legal fees but no alimony, so less overall.


Anonymous
Post 12/12/2016 21:40     Subject: Re:My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What's a STBX?
soon to be ex


Oh i thought Starbucks
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2016 21:38     Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP's ex. We are sorting things out. It was real close to getting really ugly about two weeks ago -- she has moved out, and she demanded money from me. I said we need a comprehensive agreement.

We are working on it. Fortunately, I have the cash (actually in a mutual fund, so not cash cash) to write a check for her equity in the house, and get her off the mortgage. It will be 250K to her, 150K to the bank.

I am paying her 1/2 the equity, which is about 500K.


Please drag out the divorce so you can delay paying her. She gets nothing during this separation period, right? Serves her right for cheating on you. Let her mooch off her boyfriend.


She gets stuff once we are legally separated. I want this to be over, but not enough to give her what she wants. (she still wants half my cash).


What changed? I thought the last update was she accepted her attorney's guidance, that she's not entitled and she should take your generous offer.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2016 21:18     Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP's ex. We are sorting things out. It was real close to getting really ugly about two weeks ago -- she has moved out, and she demanded money from me. I said we need a comprehensive agreement.

We are working on it. Fortunately, I have the cash (actually in a mutual fund, so not cash cash) to write a check for her equity in the house, and get her off the mortgage. It will be 250K to her, 150K to the bank.

I am paying her 1/2 the equity, which is about 500K.


Please drag out the divorce so you can delay paying her. She gets nothing during this separation period, right? Serves her right for cheating on you. Let her mooch off her boyfriend.


She gets stuff once we are legally separated. I want this to be over, but not enough to give her what she wants. (she still wants half my cash).
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2016 19:06     Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:OP's ex. We are sorting things out. It was real close to getting really ugly about two weeks ago -- she has moved out, and she demanded money from me. I said we need a comprehensive agreement.

We are working on it. Fortunately, I have the cash (actually in a mutual fund, so not cash cash) to write a check for her equity in the house, and get her off the mortgage. It will be 250K to her, 150K to the bank.

I am paying her 1/2 the equity, which is about 500K.


Please drag out the divorce so you can delay paying her. She gets nothing during this separation period, right? Serves her right for cheating on you. Let her mooch off her boyfriend.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2016 18:55     Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
OP's ex. We are sorting things out. It was real close to getting really ugly about two weeks ago -- she has moved out, and she demanded money from me. I said we need a comprehensive agreement.

We are working on it. Fortunately, I have the cash (actually in a mutual fund, so not cash cash) to write a check for her equity in the house, and get her off the mortgage. It will be 250K to her, 150K to the bank.

I am paying her 1/2 the equity, which is about 500K.
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2016 22:24     Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
I have a successful life and a good portion of money that I will leave to my son. I just printed this thread so I can show him...never get married. I mean, the guy made out better than I thought, but she cheats, wants his money. So typical of the DC woman.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2016 14:29     Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
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Anonymous wrote:I am the H of OP. Went back and since people seem to be curious as to what happened, it has been a most interesting week.

My (now) Ex decided NOT to take the house. Instead she packed up her stuff and moved to be with her lover. We have an agreement in principle, but it needs to be formalized and signed, and it is in my favor.

I buy her out of the house. DD stays with me. I pay her alimony (28% of my gross, or 48K/yr for 10 years. She gets 1/2 the 401K (I could have separated the premarital value and subsequent growth, but it would not be that much). Oh, and she has to pay me child support. (700/mo, so I will pay her 3300 instead of 4K/mo).

The big change was the one condition I put on her living in/getting the house: I did not want her AP to be in the house when DD was present. And, I printed the thread and showed it to my Lawyer. She (my Lawyer) showed it to W's lawyer who then dropped all demands.

We sign the paperwork after thanksgiving.

BTW, DD is horrified by her mother's behavior.


THREE CHEERS FOR H of OP!! You kicked ass!




Because paying someone who cheated on you 28% of your gross income is winning.

No, this sucks, but at least he's done with it. Now he just has to live with watching his money pay for his ex's vacations with man lover.


Because he did what he had to do to safeguard his daughter and get away from a horrible person. Even came out ahead.

A) He got rid of the cheating cow
B) She's no longer getting a fully-paid off 600K house
C) It is now quite clear who is at fault in this divorce btwn the partners and the DD knows what an awful woman her mother is
D) He kept the rights to inheritances
E) Plus custody rights (look who's paying child support)

Personally I wouldn't want to pay her a red cent but that's not legal, so at least he's done with it, cashing in on 10x what he's giving her, and he stills getting his normal paycheck + what's left of the retirement account.



He had to buy her out of the house, so what is that, some order of six figures in cash? She's not paying child support, he's taking it out of her alimony. He still has to fork over $3k+ a month to the ho-bag and her AP for ten years. Like I said, good that he's done with the situation but not winning.


He only had to buy out her share of the house, which is 1/2 if they bought it together. Less if he bought it before. Haven't read the whole thread, but if PP above is right that the gommhkuse is worth $600k, then he paid her $300k.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2016 14:20     Subject: Re:My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He is right. It is his. Sounds like he was pretty deliberate and smart about knowing this and never used the money jointly. It's not yours and frankly I think it's selfish of people to believe that HIS inheritance from
HIS family belongs to you.
. Dear OP - I was in this situation but I was the DW with the inheritance. STBX refused to cooperate on custody, fought for every dollar and made my life hell for 3 years until I just gave him the money to get him away from me (after 24 years together). I wondered why he was buying new clothes and taking expensive trips then he told me he wanted half of everything ...you could go this route. If you are up for being a real jerk.


+1. Did I write this in my sleep or were we married to the same man? STBX after 21 years decided that because I inherited some money this completely let him off the hook for any child support out of his GS-14 salary. He took lots of vacations instead. My lawyer wrote a blistering letter about how he was still financially responsible for his kids. Then I filed for child support and was generally a lot tougher on him in the negotiations than I might have been if he hadn't been such s selfish jerk.

OP, your Ex is being a stand-up guy. You should stop being greedy and be a stand up woman. FWIW, your kids will benefit from his inheritance and probably eventually inherit some of it, and that seems fair enough.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2016 00:32     Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:You punched out your lucky to get anything


YEP. He doesn't owe her a god damn dime. If she wants, she can do him a favor and divorce him over it so he can upgrade to a younger, hotter model.

Life's a bitch.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2016 00:27     Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the feedback. This might be the only time I have seen DCUM unified (unfortunately against my hopes).

I am instructing my lawyer to accept his terms. He will be paying me 60K/yr in alimony for 10 years (I am SAHM), plus another 14 K/yr in child support (for 3 1/2 more years).

It is upsetting that he was always stingy, and now he is buying luxury.


Start hording what you can as fast as you can.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2016 00:25     Subject: Re:My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
I would just hope that the money would be going to your kids. As long as they are financially stable then taking care of yourself should not be as difficult.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2016 23:37     Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
I think this entire thread was a troll post from a wanna be writer
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2016 10:01     Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
I recommend you marry a poor man. No need to fight about anything when it comes time to divorce
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2016 09:58     Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
You punched out your lucky to get anything