Anonymous wrote:
I encourage you to leave now and pay for citizenships as you move around the globe. But that will not stop your child from being bullied where his surname is as common as mud or where he will be the only one with that type of surname. To think you will make life decisions based on your child possibly being bullied may mean that your are not as smart as the global job market requires.
Anonymous wrote:jsteele wrote:Anonymous wrote:As I said, you would not return to one of your countries but be like others in the education global class that don't really have countries any more. It sounds like you are determined that you child will be bullied in kindergarten because of his surname. Be this is a subliminal wish on your part to have your child bullied so that you can join the educated global class and roam the globe. No chance of bullying there for your child, no chance at all.
Quit being a dick. Nobody wants their child to be bullied. You aren't even making any discernible point anymore. People are being bullied because of their surnames. Some are being killed. You may not share their fears, but don't belittle them.
Please read the original post in which the poster said she feared her child would be bullied in kindergarten because he had a Muslim surname. She and her family have dual citizenship so that they could leave the country if this happened. It was the poster who talked about her membership in the educated global class and that she could live any place she wished. My point was that fear of having a child bullied seems an odd reason to leave a country. Would you leave a country if your child were bullied or would you deal with it as many of us have done.
jsteele wrote:Anonymous wrote:As I said, you would not return to one of your countries but be like others in the education global class that don't really have countries any more. It sounds like you are determined that you child will be bullied in kindergarten because of his surname. Be this is a subliminal wish on your part to have your child bullied so that you can join the educated global class and roam the globe. No chance of bullying there for your child, no chance at all.
Quit being a dick. Nobody wants their child to be bullied. You aren't even making any discernible point anymore. People are being bullied because of their surnames. Some are being killed. You may not share their fears, but don't belittle them.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Yes. I am married to an Arab Muslim, and our young children - trilingual, US-born - have unmistakably Arab last names. For the first time in twenty years in this country, I am afraid for what future has in stock for my American, yes, American children. I worry about how this country will treat them. And a little bit of me is glad that we thought ahead to take out citizenships for them in our respective countries of birth. If things turn ugly, they will have options.
OP, what are your respective countries of birth?
Why?
jsteele wrote:Anonymous wrote:jsteele wrote:Anonymous wrote:As I said, you would not return to one of your countries but be like others in the education global class that don't really have countries any more. It sounds like you are determined that you child will be bullied in kindergarten because of his surname. Be this is a subliminal wish on your part to have your child bullied so that you can join the educated global class and roam the globe. No chance of bullying there for your child, no chance at all.
Quit being a dick. Nobody wants their child to be bullied. You aren't even making any discernible point anymore. People are being bullied because of their surnames. Some are being killed. You may not share their fears, but don't belittle them.
People are bullied because of their surnames all the time when they are kids. Me being one of them. However the pp was talking about a child not an adult. Is there a news story you saw of a kid being killed because he had a muslim surname? All i see are bullies being bullies to every kid. I see few news stories about muslims being target but i see a ton of attacks by muslims on non muslims in the news
Yes, it is sad that the media gives less coverage to crimes against Muslims than it gives to crimes by Muslims. It is even more sad that you consider murder to be the point that you show concern about bullying. I'm sorry that you were bullied as a child. As you demonstrate, such bullying can have life-long impact. We should all hope that kids wouldn't have to experience such behavior. In particular, we should hope that such bullying is not provoked by our political leaders.
Anonymous wrote:jsteele wrote:Anonymous wrote:As I said, you would not return to one of your countries but be like others in the education global class that don't really have countries any more. It sounds like you are determined that you child will be bullied in kindergarten because of his surname. Be this is a subliminal wish on your part to have your child bullied so that you can join the educated global class and roam the globe. No chance of bullying there for your child, no chance at all.
Quit being a dick. Nobody wants their child to be bullied. You aren't even making any discernible point anymore. People are being bullied because of their surnames. Some are being killed. You may not share their fears, but don't belittle them.
People are bullied because of their surnames all the time when they are kids. Me being one of them. However the pp was talking about a child not an adult. Is there a news story you saw of a kid being killed because he had a muslim surname? All i see are bullies being bullies to every kid. I see few news stories about muslims being target but i see a ton of attacks by muslims on non muslims in the news
jsteele wrote:Anonymous wrote:As I said, you would not return to one of your countries but be like others in the education global class that don't really have countries any more. It sounds like you are determined that you child will be bullied in kindergarten because of his surname. Be this is a subliminal wish on your part to have your child bullied so that you can join the educated global class and roam the globe. No chance of bullying there for your child, no chance at all.
Quit being a dick. Nobody wants their child to be bullied. You aren't even making any discernible point anymore. People are being bullied because of their surnames. Some are being killed. You may not share their fears, but don't belittle them.
Anonymous wrote:
As I said, you would not return to one of your countries but be like others in the education global class that don't really have countries any more. It sounds like you are determined that you child will be bullied in kindergarten because of his surname. Be this is a subliminal wish on your part to have your child bullied so that you can join the educated global class and roam the globe. No chance of bullying there for your child, no chance at all.
Anonymous wrote:As I said, you would not return to one of your countries but be like others in the education global class that don't really have countries any more. It sounds like you are determined that you child will be bullied in kindergarten because of his surname. Be this is a subliminal wish on your part to have your child bullied so that you can join the educated global class and roam the globe. No chance of bullying there for your child, no chance at all.
Anonymous wrote:jsteele wrote:Anonymous wrote:jsteele wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow, that's quite a low standard for bigotry. Do you support driver license testing for all new drivers versus non testing of existing drivers that moved in from another state? That's a policy that's applied to an entire group, regardless of the specific characteristics of individual members of those groups. Is driver license testing the essence of bigotry? If driver license testing is not bigotry, which I suspect you'll agree that it's not, how is scrutiny of immigrants bigotry?
All drivers are given the same test. If Muslims were given a different test, your metaphor make make more sense. Trump, and I suspect you, propose a separate test for Muslims based on nothing more than the fact that they are Muslims. If you don't understand that as bigoted, I'm afraid that we don't have a lot to discuss.
Very clearly not all drivers are given the same test in my example. Drivers moving in from a different state are not tested at all. If you continue to only read what you want to read and ignore things that don't conform to your existing views, then you are right, we don't have a lot to discuss.
Of course we should give different tests based on the situation. Just as you would screen new drivers more carefully, you would screen people from communist countries more carefully, and you would also screen more carefully people from countries where a significant minority of the population hold believes incompatible with our core American values. I can't believe I am having this discussion - do you not focus your limited resources in the areas where there is more occurrence of problems? I did software testing for a living in a previous career you and you bet your ass we more vigorously tested software delivered by a company that had more defects in the past, regardless of who the actual coder was that wrote a module. But based on your view, our increased scrutiny of that software vendor amounted to bigotry.
Unbelievable.
If your point is that prejudice and discrimination are just hunky dory, I'm not going to argue with you. Just don't get mad when I say that you support prejudice and discrimination.
As I keep saying, you can't simultaneously argue that Trump (and you by extension) don't support discrimination and that discrimination is justified. You really need to pick your argument and run with it.
We keep talking in circles because you keep conflating the two different definitions of "discrimination":
dis·crim·i·nate
1. recognize a distinction; differentiate.
2. make an unjust or prejudicial distinction in the treatment of different categories of people or things, especially on the grounds of race, sex, or age.
The first definition is what we all practice on a daily basis. It's again part of what makes us human. When you test new drivers but do not test state-to-state transfer drivers, that's also the first type of discrimination - recognizing that there is a valid difference and treating the two groups differently as a result.
You somehow think practicing discrimination of the first kind somehow makes someone guilty of discrimination in the second kind. Note that not even all discrimination based on race, sex, or age is discrimination of the second kind: only those that are unjust or prejudicial. For example, people under a certain age cannot watch certain movies, this is a discrimination based on age, but it is a just distinction. Men as a group have higher life insurance costs for similar age and health, which is a discrimination based on sex, but this distinction again has just reasons. Similarly, there are valid and just reasons to apply more scrutiny to people applying for immigration or refugee status from Muslim or Arab countries. My reasons for believing the reasons are just have been outlined in previous posts so I won't repeat them here. Again you are conflating two different things. As long as you continue to do this, no one can have a productive conversation with you. I've tried my best. I'll leave this branch of the discussion here.
Anonymous wrote:We keep talking in circles because you keep conflating the two different definitions of "discrimination":
dis·crim·i·nate
1. recognize a distinction; differentiate.
2. make an unjust or prejudicial distinction in the treatment of different categories of people or things, especially on the grounds of race, sex, or age.
The first definition is what we all practice on a daily basis. It's again part of what makes us human. When you test new drivers but do not test state-to-state transfer drivers, that's also the first type of discrimination - recognizing that there is a valid difference and treating the two groups differently as a result.
You somehow think practicing discrimination of the first kind somehow makes someone guilty of discrimination in the second kind. Note that not even all discrimination based on race, sex, or age is discrimination of the second kind: only those that are unjust or prejudicial. For example, people under a certain age cannot watch certain movies, this is a discrimination based on age, but it is a just distinction. Men as a group have higher life insurance costs for similar age and health, which is a discrimination based on sex, but this distinction again has just reasons. Similarly, there are valid and just reasons to apply more scrutiny to people applying for immigration or refugee status from Muslim or Arab countries. My reasons for believing the reasons are just have been outlined in previous posts so I won't repeat them here. Again you are conflating two different things. As long as you continue to do this, no one can have a productive conversation with you. I've tried my best. I'll leave this branch of the discussion here.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Daughter of two extremely unreligious Muslims here who immigrated to the US. While we are not religious, we have a very clear religious last name. As September 11th was happening, one of my dad's coworkers walked up to him in front of everyone and slapped him blaming him for the attacks. Someone else defaced and vandalized his car. My dad is the sweetest man in the world with zero hate in his heart. He's a proud American who loves this country and his worked tirelessly his entire life here in support of it. My youngest sister was 5 when 9/11 happened and I can't even begin to tell you how badly she was bullied at school after the attacks—physically, mentally, and emotionally. My parents had to pull her out of school for a bit until things settled down. And this was in the first grade, with a lot of the hate towards her being taught by parents to their kids at home.
Fast forward to this year and Trump's candidacy. I'm legitimately (and extremely) worried that what happened after 9/11 will happen to our family again any day now. These two latest attacks on Muslim Americans terrify me to my core and as an American citizen, as a human being, I should not be made to feel this way in my own home country.
Jeff, thank you for doing your part and for deleting the hate filled threads. It makes this little corner of the Internet feel a lot more safe and I for one am grateful of all you do to keep it that way.
Yes. I am married to an Arab Muslim, and our young children - trilingual, US-born - have unmistakably Arab last names. For the first time in twenty years in this country, I am afraid for what future has in stock for my American, yes, American children. I worry about how this country will treat them. And a little bit of me is glad that we thought ahead to take out citizenships for them in our respective countries of birth. If things turn ugly, they will have options.
OP, what are your respective countries of birth?
Why?
Because I doubt that you would take your children back to countries both of you left.
We don't really want to, we are just putting some options in place. I don't want my son bullied at school or excluded from jobs in the past because of his last name. He is starting kinder this fall and I'm dreading the day he comes back crying that someone called him a terrorist at the playground. Maybe children of people who post here. I'm contemplating teaching him to respond with "asshole", just for the hell of it.
You are not going to leave this country because your child was bullied because of his last name. If you go back to either your country or your husband's country, you know your life will be much worse and your children will be subject to much worse.
That really depends, doesn't it. The educated global class doesn't really have countries of their own any longer. The home is wherever the job is.
But I love how you respond with "this is as good as it gets for ya" instead of "sorry it's possible your child will be bullied because of his last name." Great job belittling what kids go through.
jsteele wrote:Anonymous wrote:jsteele wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow, that's quite a low standard for bigotry. Do you support driver license testing for all new drivers versus non testing of existing drivers that moved in from another state? That's a policy that's applied to an entire group, regardless of the specific characteristics of individual members of those groups. Is driver license testing the essence of bigotry? If driver license testing is not bigotry, which I suspect you'll agree that it's not, how is scrutiny of immigrants bigotry?
All drivers are given the same test. If Muslims were given a different test, your metaphor make make more sense. Trump, and I suspect you, propose a separate test for Muslims based on nothing more than the fact that they are Muslims. If you don't understand that as bigoted, I'm afraid that we don't have a lot to discuss.
Very clearly not all drivers are given the same test in my example. Drivers moving in from a different state are not tested at all. If you continue to only read what you want to read and ignore things that don't conform to your existing views, then you are right, we don't have a lot to discuss.
Of course we should give different tests based on the situation. Just as you would screen new drivers more carefully, you would screen people from communist countries more carefully, and you would also screen more carefully people from countries where a significant minority of the population hold believes incompatible with our core American values. I can't believe I am having this discussion - do you not focus your limited resources in the areas where there is more occurrence of problems? I did software testing for a living in a previous career you and you bet your ass we more vigorously tested software delivered by a company that had more defects in the past, regardless of who the actual coder was that wrote a module. But based on your view, our increased scrutiny of that software vendor amounted to bigotry.
Unbelievable.
If your point is that prejudice and discrimination are just hunky dory, I'm not going to argue with you. Just don't get mad when I say that you support prejudice and discrimination.
As I keep saying, you can't simultaneously argue that Trump (and you by extension) don't support discrimination and that discrimination is justified. You really need to pick your argument and run with it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Yes. I am married to an Arab Muslim, and our young children - trilingual, US-born - have unmistakably Arab last names. For the first time in twenty years in this country, I am afraid for what future has in stock for my American, yes, American children. I worry about how this country will treat them. And a little bit of me is glad that we thought ahead to take out citizenships for them in our respective countries of birth. If things turn ugly, they will have options.
OP, what are your respective countries of birth?
Anonymous wrote:jsteele wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow, that's quite a low standard for bigotry. Do you support driver license testing for all new drivers versus non testing of existing drivers that moved in from another state? That's a policy that's applied to an entire group, regardless of the specific characteristics of individual members of those groups. Is driver license testing the essence of bigotry? If driver license testing is not bigotry, which I suspect you'll agree that it's not, how is scrutiny of immigrants bigotry?
All drivers are given the same test. If Muslims were given a different test, your metaphor make make more sense. Trump, and I suspect you, propose a separate test for Muslims based on nothing more than the fact that they are Muslims. If you don't understand that as bigoted, I'm afraid that we don't have a lot to discuss.
PP (but not the one from immediately above)....the one you keep labeling as Islamophobe due to my concerns about the Syrian refugee population.....I'm not saying a test (or ban) for ALL Muslims. Just the ones who are coming from countries known to harbor terrorists. Muslims from Canada or wherever, no problem.