Dumb with a capital D! Daughter likes the gift and its not dangerous or in any way inappropriate.

My MIL bought DD a $1,200 paid of shoes. Not what I would have bought but DD loves them. I know how much they cost but I play dumb if people ask me how much they cost. My response is that I am not sure, they were a gift.

It sounds like OP got DD a Coach purse for her birthday and SIL sends a LV. Maybe OP is a little hurt that her nice gift was one-upped in a big way by the SIL she can't stand in the first place.

Anonymous wrote:I cannot read through all but COMPLETELY AGREE with OP that this is absurd. Yes girls in my daughters private carry expensive bags but they are the exception and are talked about.

In fact so many who are quick to chastise you makes me really questions the integrity of the average posters here and I even want to continue to come to this site if that is the average person attitude, that its fine, there is no issue and that OP is at fault. I very much h agree with OP and commend you for sticking to your principles. I am glad you spoke to your norther, obviously you are close and felt comfortable in doing so...sounds like he agreed.

Glad it worked out and glad you said your piece...hopefully they will think twice about doing this next time.

I can't speak for the other posters but I thought at 16, the daughter should be old enough to have and stand by her values regardless of the gift or OP had bigger issues to worry about. From OP's update it sounded like the daughter thought it was too extravagant but was polite in thanking the Aunt and exchanged it for something less flashy. Good on the daughter.

My parents raised us even stricter than OP and trust me I remember my mom would not buy us designer anything (no Coach bag for our 16th birthday). They did not have the money and perhaps as a by product they didn't want us to get caught up in that when we started earning our own money. So from my truly frugal childhood saying your kid is into designer stuff, buying a designer bag, and then complaining that the SIL is a horrible person that purchases an even more expensive designer bag is a what the heck moment. But I could see OP rationalizing that her kid is good kid, they can afford it, and a designer $300 purse is a special treat (all true) just as SIL probably rationalizes it she would spend the same money on a plane ticket, her niece is a good kid, and she can afford it and incidentally it would piss you off. All true. BTW, I too have a SIL with gifting issues, not the same as OP, but annoying all the same. I've had to take a step back and figure out how to not let her ruffle my feathers.

I think mom was jealous that her daughter would of had a nicer handbag than she does. Hell that would bother me too but what's done is done. I wouldn't have taken it away or pushed for store credit bc when your daughter is older and wiser she'll she's what a mean and petty and manipulative thing that was to do.

PP who mentioned that now the daughter has a "ridiculous credit" has a point. I just looked at the online website and $1800 is on the lower end of LV handbags. To use her credit, DD will probably not be able to buy another bag without putting her own money into it. She might as well have just kept the other one. Unless DD wants an excuse to pop into an LV store once in a while.