Anonymous wrote:What have we become?? It's one day, one meal, setup a proper table with proper plates, have some pride in your capabilities as a hostess. No wonder kids don't know a darn thing about setting a proper table or even eating in proper plates, if you do paper plates it will be considered tacky and lazy. Also, what's this talk about washing, it's only 1 meal and hopefully someone in a party of 25 will be decent enough to help you. God, we have become a country of slobs, sheesh!!

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Anonymous wrote:We're hosting 25 people on Thanksgiving and it's our first time hosting. Should I buy cheap plates somewhere (we don't own 25 plates!) or is it okay to use the nicer/sturdier disposable plates? I can't decide if it's okay or tacky. But it would certainlymake cleaning up so much easier!

Thanksgivong is NOT a backyard barbeque. No, you do not use disposable plates, plastic ware, or plastic cups. You can rent plates, flatware and glasses and cups.

If you are this lazy, you should cancel and let someone with manners host Thanksgiving.

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I was one of the pps who dislikes the way Thanksgiving is celebrated. This is very true. Inlaws love their Thanksgiving traditions and think it's special. They love being with everyone also. It's just that the holiday is a complete 180 from how I celebrated growing up, none of my favorite foods are present (I've tried bringing them to the disdain of everyone else and was told things like pecan pie are not on their traditional menu) and it is super casual. I honestly get depressed and lonely about the holiday every single year. I would LOVE to celebrate with my extended family or even my parents who live with us, but they aren't invited.

PP, I think that you should have your own Thanksgiving, in addition to your in-laws' Thanksgiving. I mean that sincerely. Do your Thanksgiving the way you want to do it, even if it's just for your immediate family.

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Never criticize another host. It is awful decorum.

She's not criticizing her host. She's going with the flow around them, and is lamenting a bit on an anonymous e-mail forum. THEY are exercizing awful decorum by now allowing her to start any new traditions or adding anything of herself to their celebration. She is a new member of their family, and they are not growing and being inclusive...they are expecting her to simply fall in line and be "assimilated."

Agreed. And also - how rude of her ILs not to include PP's parents, who live with PP!

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I was one of the pps who dislikes the way Thanksgiving is celebrated. This is very true. Inlaws love their Thanksgiving traditions and think it's special. They love being with everyone also. It's just that the holiday is a complete 180 from how I celebrated growing up, none of my favorite foods are present (I've tried bringing them to the disdain of everyone else and was told things like pecan pie are not on their traditional menu) and it is super casual. I honestly get depressed and lonely about the holiday every single year. I would LOVE to celebrate with my extended family or even my parents who live with us, but they aren't invited.

PP, I think that you should have your own Thanksgiving, in addition to your in-laws' Thanksgiving. I mean that sincerely. Do your Thanksgiving the way you want to do it, even if it's just for your immediate family.

+1

Never criticize another host. It is awful decorum.

She's not criticizing her host. She's going with the flow around them, and is lamenting a bit on an anonymous e-mail forum. THEY are exercizing awful decorum by now allowing her to start any new traditions or adding anything of herself to their celebration. She is a new member of their family, and they are not growing and being inclusive...they are expecting her to simply fall in line and be "assimilated."

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I was one of the pps who dislikes the way Thanksgiving is celebrated. This is very true. Inlaws love their Thanksgiving traditions and think it's special. They love being with everyone also. It's just that the holiday is a complete 180 from how I celebrated growing up, none of my favorite foods are present (I've tried bringing them to the disdain of everyone else and was told things like pecan pie are not on their traditional menu) and it is super casual. I honestly get depressed and lonely about the holiday every single year. I would LOVE to celebrate with my extended family or even my parents who live with us, but they aren't invited.

PP, I think that you should have your own Thanksgiving, in addition to your in-laws' Thanksgiving. I mean that sincerely. Do your Thanksgiving the way you want to do it, even if it's just for your immediate family.

+1

Never criticize another host. It is awful decorum.

She's not criticizing her host. She's going with the flow around them, and is lamenting a bit on an anonymous e-mail forum. THEY are exercizing awful decorum by now allowing her to start any new traditions or adding anything of herself to their celebration. She is a new member of their family, and they are not growing and being inclusive...they are expecting her to simply fall in line and be "assimilated."

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I was one of the pps who dislikes the way Thanksgiving is celebrated. This is very true. Inlaws love their Thanksgiving traditions and think it's special. They love being with everyone also. It's just that the holiday is a complete 180 from how I celebrated growing up, none of my favorite foods are present (I've tried bringing them to the disdain of everyone else and was told things like pecan pie are not on their traditional menu) and it is super casual. I honestly get depressed and lonely about the holiday every single year. I would LOVE to celebrate with my extended family or even my parents who live with us, but they aren't invited.

PP, I think that you should have your own Thanksgiving, in addition to your in-laws' Thanksgiving. I mean that sincerely. Do your Thanksgiving the way you want to do it, even if it's just for your immediate family.

+1

Never criticize another host. It is awful decorum.

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Not PP, but I have china and sterling silver flatware for 50 guests. We were raised this way, I stocked it up when I got married 11 years back, have been using it ever since. And yes, bring back civility to the world. THANK YOU, PP.

Sterling silver flatware for 50 guests, at $1,000 per place setting. Wow.

Where do you store all this stuff? No space in my DC rowhouse.

Forget about storage -- how do you fit 50 people in your house? People would have to be eating on blankets on the floor if I had that many people over.

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Anonymous wrote:Google pottery barn catering set. Not overly expensive. Can be reused for any occasion.

Bring civility back to the world.

We host 25 plus. Real China. Real silver. Real crystal. It's actually pretty nice. And yeah, it does taste better.

You have a set of sterling silver flatware, enough for 25+ people?

Not PP, but I do. My own silver plate for 12 and my grandmother's sterling for 16.

Not PP, but I have china and sterling silver flatware for 50 guests. We were raised this way, I stocked it up when I got married 11 years back, have been using it ever since. And yes, bring back civility to the world. THANK YOU, PP.

Sterling silver flatware for 50 guests, at $1,000 per place setting. Wow.

Where do you store all this stuff? No space in my DC rowhouse.

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Anonymous wrote:Google pottery barn catering set. Not overly expensive. Can be reused for any occasion.

Bring civility back to the world.

We host 25 plus. Real China. Real silver. Real crystal. It's actually pretty nice. And yeah, it does taste better.

You have a set of sterling silver flatware, enough for 25+ people?

Not PP, but I do. My own silver plate for 12 and my grandmother's sterling for 16.

Not PP, but I have china and sterling silver flatware for 50 guests. We were raised this way, I stocked it up when I got married 11 years back, have been using it ever since. And yes, bring back civility to the world. THANK YOU, PP.

Sterling silver flatware for 50 guests, at $1,000 per place setting. Wow.

Anonymous wrote:If you are worried about the environment and using disposable plates, my friend sells these great biodegradable plates (which I think are really pretty). They are hand-crafted from the fronds of the areca palm tree. I am going to use them for Thanksgiving this year.

http://www.kwaihome.com/our-products/

Anonymous wrote:What have we become?? It's one day, one meal, setup a proper table with proper plates, have some pride in your capabilities as a hostess. No wonder kids don't know a darn thing about setting a proper table or even eating in proper plates, if you do paper plates it will be considered tacky and lazy. Also, what's this talk about washing, it's only 1 meal and hopefully someone in a party of 25 will be decent enough to help you. God, we have become a country of slobs, sheesh!!

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I was one of the pps who dislikes the way Thanksgiving is celebrated. This is very true. Inlaws love their Thanksgiving traditions and think it's special. They love being with everyone also. It's just that the holiday is a complete 180 from how I celebrated growing up, none of my favorite foods are present (I've tried bringing them to the disdain of everyone else and was told things like pecan pie are not on their traditional menu) and it is super casual. I honestly get depressed and lonely about the holiday every single year. I would LOVE to celebrate with my extended family or even my parents who live with us, but they aren't invited.

PP, I think that you should have your own Thanksgiving, in addition to your in-laws' Thanksgiving. I mean that sincerely. Do your Thanksgiving the way you want to do it, even if it's just for your immediate family.