Anonymous
Post 04/27/2015 09:32     Subject: Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"Of course, I really like SO's idea: I'm his wife. I get everything and he trusts me to treat all 3 fairly, knowing my character as he does. After all I'm step-mom for better or worse, that's the reality. "

Step-mom from hell is more accurate.

OP - Knowing your "character", I wouldn't trust you to share a bag of cookies fairly. Hope your SO comes to his senses before this ends very, very badly.



I'm sorry, do we know each other? Like, you really know me (and my character) in real life?


Not the pp, but I have to say that we don't need to know you in real life OP. You are coming across really badly. Good luck with whatever you decide. You are going to need it.


Thanks!

The reality is that balanced adults are not concerned about how they're viewed by a bunch of snobs online. Whatdya think I am? In HS?

Anonymous
Post 04/27/2015 09:29     Subject: Re:Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

My spouse died 8 months ago and I cannot fathom dating anyone right now. At all. The thought of it is repugnant. Most men seem to move on more quickly, as the can't seem to be alone.


I was an adult when my mother passed away. My father was having an affair with a married woman before we even buried her ashes. I cannot describe the emotional pain it caused me. That ruined our relationship. We haven't spoken for 10 years.


OP here. That's really sad.

I had a friend tell me his mother died when he was in HS. His dad remarried almost immediately. He didn't like it at the time, but fortunately, it didn't ruin his relationship. Now as an adult, he completely understands his father's perspective.

It's too bad more people can't/won't develop a more mature perspective in adulthood instead of allowing the fact they could not control their parents lives as teens keep them apart.
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2015 09:25     Subject: Re:Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????
...old-fashioned man who believes in providing for his woman.
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2015 09:24     Subject: Re:Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here--

Scenario 1: Provide life insurance policy of near or equal to price of home for me; house goes to his kids (thanks to the poster who recommended this!)
Scenario 2: Create a will giving me 50% ownership/his girls 50% but I remain in the home...We may decide to buy each other out at some point but if I sell, they get 1/2 the proceeds
Scenario 3: I inherit house; it's passed on and split between the 3 kids after my demise

Of course, I really like SO's idea: I'm his wife. I get everything and he trusts me to treat all 3 fairly, knowing my character as he does. After all I'm step-mom for better or worse, that's the reality.


The problem with scenario 3 is surviving person could remarry and thus the cycle begins again. You don't want to be in a situation where what you have passes to him and he remarries and your son gets nothing and to be fair it can't be the other way around that you remarry and his daughters potentially get nothing.


If I remarry, too bad. The house gets passed on to the kids. New hubby will have to find a new home. The house goes to the kids per written agreement.

My house is nowhere in this equation. We both agree it goes to my son. SO is an old-fas
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2015 08:50     Subject: Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????
Another reminder of the basis for the wicked stepmother trope...
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2015 08:19     Subject: Re:Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????
Anonymous wrote:

My spouse died 8 months ago and I cannot fathom dating anyone right now. At all. The thought of it is repugnant. Most men seem to move on more quickly, as the can't seem to be alone.


I was an adult when my mother passed away. My father was having an affair with a married woman before we even buried her ashes. I cannot describe the emotional pain it caused me. That ruined our relationship. We haven't spoken for 10 years.
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2015 06:18     Subject: Re:Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????
Anonymous wrote:OP here--

Scenario 1: Provide life insurance policy of near or equal to price of home for me; house goes to his kids (thanks to the poster who recommended this!)
Scenario 2: Create a will giving me 50% ownership/his girls 50% but I remain in the home...We may decide to buy each other out at some point but if I sell, they get 1/2 the proceeds
Scenario 3: I inherit house; it's passed on and split between the 3 kids after my demise

Of course, I really like SO's idea: I'm his wife. I get everything and he trusts me to treat all 3 fairly, knowing my character as he does. After all I'm step-mom for better or worse, that's the reality.


The problem with scenario 3 is surviving person could remarry and thus the cycle begins again. You don't want to be in a situation where what you have passes to him and he remarries and your son gets nothing and to be fair it can't be the other way around that you remarry and his daughters potentially get nothing.
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2015 05:22     Subject: Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"Of course, I really like SO's idea: I'm his wife. I get everything and he trusts me to treat all 3 fairly, knowing my character as he does. After all I'm step-mom for better or worse, that's the reality. "

Step-mom from hell is more accurate.

OP - Knowing your "character", I wouldn't trust you to share a bag of cookies fairly. Hope your SO comes to his senses before this ends very, very badly.



I'm sorry, do we know each other? Like, you really know me (and my character) in real life?


Not the pp, but I have to say that we don't need to know you in real life OP. You are coming across really badly. Good luck with whatever you decide. You are going to need it.
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2015 04:40     Subject: Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????
^^** taken over the thread
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2015 04:40     Subject: Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????
OP, your to what's totally changed since the beginning of the thread - you've given up all pretense of being a thoughtful, kind person -- perhaps it just got too tiring. Either your true colors are shining through, someone else has taken I ER the tbread pretending to be you or you are a troll, and I truly hope it's the latter because if not you are about to knock this family on it's ass. I love how his money is already yours in your mind, i.e. "we can already afford it" (regarding college).

Anonymous
Post 04/27/2015 03:25     Subject: Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????
OP, I think you should show this thread to your SO.
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2015 02:14     Subject: Re:Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow! Now I understand why so many kids are screwed. Look at the way adults behave online. If you think this is a troll post, move along.

Oh I don't like this topic or what's being said so I'll yell troll and threaten to get Jeff to investigate.

What's he going to do, hire a PI to follow me and see if I'm dating a widow??? Lol!

Grow up!


There's ample evidence that this if fake and Jeff will verify the author is a regular DCUM troll.


You are absolutely certifiable.

Anonymous
Post 04/27/2015 00:17     Subject: Re:Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????
Anonymous wrote:Wow! Now I understand why so many kids are screwed. Look at the way adults behave online. If you think this is a troll post, move along.

Oh I don't like this topic or what's being said so I'll yell troll and threaten to get Jeff to investigate.

What's he going to do, hire a PI to follow me and see if I'm dating a widow??? Lol!

Grow up!


There's ample evidence that this if fake and Jeff will verify the author is a regular DCUM troll.
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2015 00:09     Subject: Re:Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????
Wow! Now I understand why so many kids are screwed. Look at the way adults behave online. If you think this is a troll post, move along.

Oh I don't like this topic or what's being said so I'll yell troll and threaten to get Jeff to investigate.

What's he going to do, hire a PI to follow me and see if I'm dating a widow??? Lol!

Grow up!
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2015 23:57     Subject: Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????
If OP is a troll he/she is a very sick one.