Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She said he did.
He might have felt he had to say that.

Well maybe BIL needs to grow a pair and not offer help that he has no intention of giving.

I think BIL has learned his lesson. How much childcare and household support had he done prior to DH's employment? In his eagerness to be supportive, he probably had no idea how this obligation would fit into his graduate student life. Ditto for the guardianship. Sometimes it is easier just to designate a sibling as a guardian when, in reality, they would not be able to assume this responsibiity if something happened to us tomorrow.

I somehow doubt that BIL offered this spontaneously. Not sure if he felt put on the spot to agree to this or just promised his brother in a generic way that he would "look out for" his wife and kids while he was gone.

I have a hard time envisioning this guy offering - "I'll be happy to be your back up baby sitter, SIL. Call me and watch the kids any time!" That may be what she heard but I'm guessing it was more of a non-specific "Call me if you need anything" sort of thing. Please correct me if I'm wrong, Op.