Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 18:27     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:Are you the OP who was trying to tell me that even though I'm independently wealthy (trust I only pull interest from and is plenty) that I should work? That was bizarre, I have 3 under 4.

Probably. She sounds like she has serious mental issues when it comes to SAHMs. This should just teach us all to take some of the DCUM "advice" with a big grain of salt. Especially from those who clearly have a set vendetta that will not sway when confronted with facts.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 18:25     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Are you the OP who was trying to tell me that even though I'm independently wealthy (trust I only pull interest from and is plenty) that I should work? That was bizarre, I have 3 under 4.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 18:23     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So I read all these pages to find out OP has "mommy" issues and uses anonymously slamming, criticizing and provoking Sahms on here instead of working out her own issues

Great


Huh? Mommy issues?


I'm pretty sure it was you who said some of your "anti SAHM" stance comes from a childhood where your mother stayed home and your negative experience as a child.
Hence mommy issues
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 18:22     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:OP, I have no questions for you because I tend to enjoy the snarky posts. DCUM is entertainment for me. Every circus needs a clown and we all know that clowns are depressed (tears of a clown). Thanks for fulfilling that role.



Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 18:20     Subject: Re:I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
^ that sentence is a mess. My fault for not proofreading. Corrected:

"you attack and go after them, probably making them shut down further and feel even more isolated and attacked? "
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 18:18     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
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That's the thing though. If you read my OP, you'll see that I'm really NOT insecure. I'm not perfect - hey, judgmental obviously! - but insecurity isn't something I struggle with. Which makes me wonder why I do this.

I also don't curse on DCUM, though I do IRL. Like poor grammar and spelling, it renders posts irrelevant IMO.

Just because you said you're not insecure in your OP, doesn't mean you're not. I assume that you are very insecure. Also, pointing out someone's poor grammar and spelling just means that you have nothing to add to the discussion. Do you really think you have to have perfect grammar to offer advice on parenting or anything else (except for grammar, of course).


Why does someone have to be insecure to have strong opinions? I genuinely don't get why that's a go-to. Sure, say I'm bitchy or judgmental or snooty - that makes more sense. But how does insecure even play in?


I have lots of strong opinions. About myself, my children, my family. But what another family does isn't really that interesting to me because I don't see how it affects me. One reason people care about what others do is because they see it as a judgment of what they do. For instance, you admittedly don't support SAHMs. While working is certainly a fine choice, there is no reason to have such strong opinions about what others do, unless you aren't really secure in your own decisions and use it as a defense mechanism - insult others to make you feel mor superior about your own life.


That's not universally true. I'm against SAH because it was horrible for my mother and while I understand not all women are like her, the topic provokes a strong reaction due to my personal history.


So instead of going after the men who would want their wives to SAHM because they want them to be powerless, or explaining calmly and supportively to the SAHMs your OPINION (and yes it's an opinion, not an objective fact that SAHM is bad for all women, despite what you may think) you attack and go after them, probably making them she down further and feel even more isolated and attacked?

Hmmmm that makes a lot of sense
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 18:18     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP you don't think you are insecure, but you are. Secure people don't need to unleash on an anon website in ways they wouldn't dream of in real life. Everyone has snarkier days than others, but secure people are secure enough to express themselves (appropriately) almost all the time. They don't save it for anonymous forums. They don't get their jollies being a 'mean girl' behind the keyboard and a sweet little june cleaver in person.
So, you know, do whatever you like, but stop telling yourself that you aren't insecure.


Yup. But I think sometimes powerless people want to feel powerful. If they can't feel powerful IRL, they will find another outlet. If people dont respect them enough to listen to them IRL, they will go online, where surely ONE of the thousands of DCUM users will find SOMETHING they say to be smart/useful/funny/cool. No respect for people like that.

If you aren't powerful enough to get away with saying it IRL, dont hide behind your keyboard and say it anonymously.


+1
It's the modern version of kicking the dog. Sad.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 18:16     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:OP you don't think you are insecure, but you are. Secure people don't need to unleash on an anon website in ways they wouldn't dream of in real life. Everyone has snarkier days than others, but secure people are secure enough to express themselves (appropriately) almost all the time. They don't save it for anonymous forums. They don't get their jollies being a 'mean girl' behind the keyboard and a sweet little june cleaver in person.
So, you know, do whatever you like, but stop telling yourself that you aren't insecure.


Yup. But I think sometimes powerless people want to feel powerful. If they can't feel powerful IRL, they will find another outlet. If people dont respect them enough to listen to them IRL, they will go online, where surely ONE of the thousands of DCUM users will find SOMETHING they say to be smart/useful/funny/cool. No respect for people like that.

If you aren't powerful enough to get away with saying it IRL, dont hide behind your keyboard and say it anonymously.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 18:15     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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That's the thing though. If you read my OP, you'll see that I'm really NOT insecure. I'm not perfect - hey, judgmental obviously! - but insecurity isn't something I struggle with. Which makes me wonder why I do this.

I also don't curse on DCUM, though I do IRL. Like poor grammar and spelling, it renders posts irrelevant IMO.

Just because you said you're not insecure in your OP, doesn't mean you're not. I assume that you are very insecure. Also, pointing out someone's poor grammar and spelling just means that you have nothing to add to the discussion. Do you really think you have to have perfect grammar to offer advice on parenting or anything else (except for grammar, of course).


Why does someone have to be insecure to have strong opinions? I genuinely don't get why that's a go-to. Sure, say I'm bitchy or judgmental or snooty - that makes more sense. But how does insecure even play in?


I have lots of strong opinions. About myself, my children, my family. But what another family does isn't really that interesting to me because I don't see how it affects me. One reason people care about what others do is because they see it as a judgment of what they do. For instance, you admittedly don't support SAHMs. While working is certainly a fine choice, there is no reason to have such strong opinions about what others do, unless you aren't really secure in your own decisions and use it as a defense mechanism - insult others to make you feel mor superior about your own life.


That's not universally true. I'm against SAH because it was horrible for my mother and while I understand not all women are like her, the topic provokes a strong reaction due to my personal history.


Oh my goodness- you are insecure AND unable to get over your past baggage. And you think it's perfectly normal. What a mess.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 18:14     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:OP, let's face it. You are insecure and have a boring life. Owning up to it is the first step. You are not unique on DCUM and I hate to tell you, but, your snarkiness doesn't make anyone feed bad about themselves. People might get angry for a few minutes but in the end, you are the one left wondering how they felt about what you said. It just takes more time away from your already vacuous existence.


THIS times a thousand. I have never listened to the mean responses on here. I always picture some haggard looking woman sitting in her kitchen typing away on her laptop and it takes all the sting out. I tend to respect the people who are genuinely friendly and kind. Those, to me, seem like the powerful people and the people I would respect and want to be friends with IRL. maybe because their lack of bitterness makes me think they have a happier life and thus are wiser.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 18:13     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Wow, there are some really weak criticisms of OP, which probably validate her points.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 18:12     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
OP you don't think you are insecure, but you are. Secure people don't need to unleash on an anon website in ways they wouldn't dream of in real life. Everyone has snarkier days than others, but secure people are secure enough to express themselves (appropriately) almost all the time. They don't save it for anonymous forums. They don't get their jollies being a 'mean girl' behind the keyboard and a sweet little june cleaver in person.
So, you know, do whatever you like, but stop telling yourself that you aren't insecure.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 18:12     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:So I read all these pages to find out OP has "mommy" issues and uses anonymously slamming, criticizing and provoking Sahms on here instead of working out her own issues

Great


Huh? Mommy issues?
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 18:11     Subject: I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:What is the meanest thing you have said?

Do you get backlash from other posters for saying mean things?


Not sure - I was pretty active in the thread where the SAHM said she didn't want to raise her kids to be entitled brats living off of someone else.


Way for her to set the example LOL


That was my thought - OP


You're a jerk, OP. It's people like you that have been ruining DCUM for me.


Yep. At least now we can consider the source and realize it's this meek, spineless loser who can't speak up IRL and so does it on here. Makes her opinions seem a lot less damning.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 18:10     Subject: Re:I'm much meaner on DCUM than IRL. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:What's your DCUM pet peeves? In other words, what type of posts bring out your snarkiness the most?

Do you care if you realize you've made someone upset or do you revel in the power or something else?


WOHM/SAHM gets some of my nastiest responses. Also people who are clueless about their kids (like the person asking how to educate her 15 month old because a genius aunt might look down on her). People who are status-conscious.


OMG. you sound awful. I am going to take responses hating on SAHMs with a BIG grain of salt now I know This is where it's coming from...

You sound like a twit who can't think of anything original to say. Stock response, must not be very bright or creative. Ninny.


If this is op, I dare you to say that to my face.


Not me - op