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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Or, maybe ex threatens him never to see the kids if he does not pay her random demands or constantly calls and harasses him"

She does not threaten that he cannot see the kids. In the early years she tried this maybe once or twice but it was an empty threat and she doesn't really want that. She texts constantly and he transfers money constantly. Our bank accounts are linked so I get a message a couple times a weeks notifying me of a transfer to her bank account. The emotional leverage she uses is that she says "you can't have x,y,z bc dad won't pay for it." I think that hurts him deeply that she says this bc he's a good guy, he's not a deadbeat or a bad father or a cheap father. Just another example happend this week, when she texted him and said he owed her $268 to sign up for a sport. He transferred it to her account, and then he got a call from dsd saying mom wouldn't sign her up for the sport bc he didn't pay for half. As it turns out, the amount she wanted him to pay was $286 but she texted it wrong. So, when he sent the wrong amount, she immediately painted him as a rotten dad to dsd and said she hadn't signed up dsd for the sport bc dad hadn't paid his half yet.

Op, we don't like you. You can't sit with us.

THIS! x100000000!

Anonymous wrote:Wtf is all this trashing OP? I don't get it. The ex sounds like a selfish twat who won't chip in when she's supposed to. Why is that ok? Why isn't OP allowed to be frustrated? Sounds like OP is doing her part in trying to be a good step mom.

Btw, I grew up in Houston and $1500 is totally enough for child support as long as ex is working.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Or, maybe ex threatens him never to see the kids if he does not pay her random demands or constantly calls and harasses him"

She does not threaten that he cannot see the kids. In the early years she tried this maybe once or twice but it was an empty threat and she doesn't really want that. She texts constantly and he transfers money constantly. Our bank accounts are linked so I get a message a couple times a weeks notifying me of a transfer to her bank account. The emotional leverage she uses is that she says "you can't have x,y,z bc dad won't pay for it." I think that hurts him deeply that she says this bc he's a good guy, he's not a deadbeat or a bad father or a cheap father. Just another example happend this week, when she texted him and said he owed her $268 to sign up for a sport. He transferred it to her account, and then he got a call from dsd saying mom wouldn't sign her up for the sport bc he didn't pay for half. As it turns out, the amount she wanted him to pay was $286 but she texted it wrong. So, when he sent the wrong amount, she immediately painted him as a rotten dad to dsd and said she hadn't signed up dsd for the sport bc dad hadn't paid his half yet.

Op, we don't like you. You can't sit with us.

Anonymous wrote:"Or, maybe ex threatens him never to see the kids if he does not pay her random demands or constantly calls and harasses him"

She does not threaten that he cannot see the kids. In the early years she tried this maybe once or twice but it was an empty threat and she doesn't really want that. She texts constantly and he transfers money constantly. Our bank accounts are linked so I get a message a couple times a weeks notifying me of a transfer to her bank account. The emotional leverage she uses is that she says "you can't have x,y,z bc dad won't pay for it." I think that hurts him deeply that she says this bc he's a good guy, he's not a deadbeat or a bad father or a cheap father. Just another example happend this week, when she texted him and said he owed her $268 to sign up for a sport. He transferred it to her account, and then he got a call from dsd saying mom wouldn't sign her up for the sport bc he didn't pay for half. As it turns out, the amount she wanted him to pay was $286 but she texted it wrong. So, when he sent the wrong amount, she immediately painted him as a rotten dad to dsd and said she hadn't signed up dsd for the sport bc dad hadn't paid his half yet.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Stop putting her business on the Internet. Shrew."

Guessing this pp is probably a cheater too.

No. I was cheated on. She's told us ex is a gs13 fed in Huoston, the age of the kids, the ex husbands military, house was 175 on and on. Her husband is going to be pissed when he sees this.

She could have easily changed the area and many other details. Her story could easily be ours our many others here.

But, you know she didn't. She wants to be found out. She wants the fight. She doesn't realize her DH feels guilty about something and that's why he's giving her money all the time probably more than OP knows...

Can't wait until she is found out and the rest of the story comes out

Or, maybe ex threatens him never to see the kids if he does not pay her random demands or constantly calls and harasses him

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Stop putting her business on the Internet. Shrew."

Guessing this pp is probably a cheater too.

No. I was cheated on. She's told us ex is a gs13 fed in Huoston, the age of the kids, the ex husbands military, house was 175 on and on. Her husband is going to be pissed when he sees this.

She could have easily changed the area and many other details. Her story could easily be ours our many others here.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. The PPs who are attacking OP for being petty and cheap are the ones who don't get it. Blended families are hard on everyone -- the kids, the remarried spouse, the ex and the step-parent. Do you people really not understand that plenty of ex-wives pull crap like this on purpose?? Is it really that unreasonable for OP to feel so frustrated and disrespected?? So before you defend the ex and eviscerate OP, have enough sense to realize how difficult these situations can be.

OP - it sounds like you and your husband do a lot for his kids, and that's wonderful. It's not easy being a step-parent -- it's often a thankless job and even if you do just as much as a biological parent, you often don't get the same joys and special moments that come with raising children which can offset the difficult side of parenting. On top of that, you have to deal with an ex, who may be manipulative and difficult, maybe because she's still pissed at your husband over the divorce, or because she doesn't like you or feels threatened by your role in her kids' lives. While I completely understand your frustration with the ex, from a practical standpoint, there may not be much you can do about it short of going back to court to force her to pay up (doubt she would voluntarily pay if you kept a running tab or exchanged receipts) or going to court/mediation to renegotiate the terms of the custody order. That's often more trouble than it's worth, especially if that means the amount of monthly support you currently pay could increase (I have no idea whether it would and won't opine on that). In the end, you may have to accept the fact that the amount you and your husband pay may never be "equal" to what the ex pays. It will probably never feel "fair" to you, even if, in theory, it should be fair. It probably doesn't make you feel better now, but you're doing a good thing by providing so much for the kids and they are the ones most affected by all of this. Hang in there.

[b]She knew he had kids and an ex-wife when she married him. No she doesnt get to complain. It's like buying a used car and being mad it has problems.

Oh please. So no one who has had their spouse divorce them is allowed to have a new marriage? And the new spouse just has to accept everything that is dickish, emotionally abusive, and irresponsible about their spouse's ex? NO.

+1MILLION THANK YOU!!!!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. The PPs who are attacking OP for being petty and cheap are the ones who don't get it. Blended families are hard on everyone -- the kids, the remarried spouse, the ex and the step-parent. Do you people really not understand that plenty of ex-wives pull crap like this on purpose?? Is it really that unreasonable for OP to feel so frustrated and disrespected?? So before you defend the ex and eviscerate OP, have enough sense to realize how difficult these situations can be.

OP - it sounds like you and your husband do a lot for his kids, and that's wonderful. It's not easy being a step-parent -- it's often a thankless job and even if you do just as much as a biological parent, you often don't get the same joys and special moments that come with raising children which can offset the difficult side of parenting. On top of that, you have to deal with an ex, who may be manipulative and difficult, maybe because she's still pissed at your husband over the divorce, or because she doesn't like you or feels threatened by your role in her kids' lives. While I completely understand your frustration with the ex, from a practical standpoint, there may not be much you can do about it short of going back to court to force her to pay up (doubt she would voluntarily pay if you kept a running tab or exchanged receipts) or going to court/mediation to renegotiate the terms of the custody order. That's often more trouble than it's worth, especially if that means the amount of monthly support you currently pay could increase (I have no idea whether it would and won't opine on that). In the end, you may have to accept the fact that the amount you and your husband pay may never be "equal" to what the ex pays. It will probably never feel "fair" to you, even if, in theory, it should be fair. It probably doesn't make you feel better now, but you're doing a good thing by providing so much for the kids and they are the ones most affected by all of this. Hang in there.

[b]She knew he had kids and an ex-wife when she married him. No she doesnt get to complain. It's like buying a used car and being mad it has problems.

Oh please. So no one who has had their spouse divorce them is allowed to have a new marriage? And the new spouse just has to accept everything that is dickish, emotionally abusive, and irresponsible about their spouse's ex? NO.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Stop putting her business on the Internet. Shrew."

Guessing this pp is probably a cheater too.

No. I was cheated on. She's told us ex is a gs13 fed in Huoston, the age of the kids, the ex husbands military, house was 175 on and on. Her husband is going to be pissed when he sees this.

She could have easily changed the area and many other details. Her story could easily be ours our many others here.

But, you know she didn't. She wants to be found out. She wants the fight. She doesn't realize her DH feels guilty about something and that's why he's giving her money all the time probably more than OP knows...

Can't wait until she is found out and the rest of the story comes out

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Stop putting her business on the Internet. Shrew."

Guessing this pp is probably a cheater too.

No. I was cheated on. She's told us ex is a gs13 fed in Huoston, the age of the kids, the ex husbands military, house was 175 on and on. Her husband is going to be pissed when he sees this.

She could have easily changed the area and many other details. Her story could easily be ours our many others here.

But, you know she didn't. She wants to be found out. She wants the fight. She doesn't realize her DH feels guilty about something and that's why he's giving her money all the time probably more than OP knows...

Can't wait until she is found out and the rest of the story comes out

Or, maybe ex threatens him never to see the kids if he does not pay her random demands or constantly calls and harasses him