Anonymous
04/22/2014 08:25
Subject: Sex at 13?
Anonymous wrote:ABSENTEE parenting is when your kid needs a caring parent nearby, and there is none. Hence, the depression, cutting, drugs, sex, and then some. Of course the trouble starts way before your kid is old enough to exhibit any of these symptoms. You need to know your own kids. How much time did you invest getting to know your spouse?
Because overbearing and controlling parents who don't allow any independence always produce perfectly adjusted children, right?
Anonymous
04/22/2014 08:25
Subject: Sex at 13?
It happen is but most regret it I am pretty sure at that age
Anonymous
04/21/2014 23:28
Subject: Re:Sex at 13?
Anonymous wrote:There were blowjob rings at my nephews' Fairfax Co middle school and girls had necklaces with different colors that meant they had performed certain sex acts. The girls were much more aggressive than the boys.
Bet you didn't know your nephew knew how to lie. He's had plenty of practice on gullible people like you.
Anonymous
04/21/2014 20:19
Subject: Re:Sex at 13?
Anonymous wrote:There were blowjob rings at my nephews' Fairfax Co middle school and girls had necklaces with different colors that meant they had performed certain sex acts. The girls were much more aggressive than the boys.
He probably also heard about rainbow parties. Oh wait, no, those are myths too.
Anonymous
04/21/2014 20:13
Subject: Re:Sex at 13?
There were blowjob rings at my nephews' Fairfax Co middle school and girls had necklaces with different colors that meant they had performed certain sex acts. The girls were much more aggressive than the boys.
Anonymous
04/21/2014 17:22
Subject: Sex at 13?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No, you misunderstand.
Father working for pay, mother staying at home = good parenting.
Father and mother both working for pay = absentee parenting (on the part of the mother).
Father and mother both working for pay, and hiring a full-time nanny = absentee parenting (on the part of the mother).
Father saying at home, mother working for pay = absentee parenting (on the part of the mother).
See how that works?
You missed the Bethesda Super Mom, apparently, as that was the reason for my snark. So basically, women have to keep their children in their sights 24/7 or they're absentee parenting, right? Just curious, are these kids allowed to be unsupervised when they turn 18 or should mommy move to college with them as well?
ABSENTEE parenting is when your kid needs a caring parent nearby, and there is none. Hence, the depression, cutting, drugs, sex, and then some. Of course the trouble starts way before your kid is old enough to exhibit any of these symptoms. You need to know your own kids. How much time did you invest getting to know your spouse?
Anonymous
04/21/2014 14:53
Subject: Sex at 13?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I haven't even pretended to read past the first page of this thread, but I lost my virginity at 13 (naively perhaps, but willingly and without trauma), and turned out fabulous.
It happens.
Poster quoted here. Honestly, I probably wouldn't love it. How I felt at 13 and how I look at my 13 year old self now are *very* different. That said, I sure as hell wouldn't shame her about it. FWIW, I happen to be the mother of a 12 year old boy.
Also, as it happens, I'm raising my kid very differently than I was raised, so hopefully he will be older and less naive than I was.
Anonymous
04/21/2014 14:51
Subject: Sex at 13?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I haven't even pretended to read past the first page of this thread, but I lost my virginity at 13 (naively perhaps, but willingly and without trauma), and turned out fabulous.
It happens.
so does that mean you'd be ok with your 13 yr old DC having sex this young? Sure, you turned out fine in your opinion. But I don't know if most girls who have sex this young (and I say girls b/c boys have a totally different psyche about sex) turn out fine. Just b/c it turned out fine for you, doesn't mean it turns out fine for most 13 yr olds.
I agree that parents need to talk about sex before 13, including contraception, but that doesn't mean I'd be ok with my 13 yr old having sex.
That's nice but what makes you think you'll a) know about it if it happens and/or b) your child will care what you say?
Poster quoted here. Honestly, I probably wouldn't love it. How I felt at 13 and how I look at my 13 year old self now are *very* different. That said, I sure as hell wouldn't shame her about it. FWIW, I happen to be the mother of a 12 year old boy.
Anonymous
04/21/2014 14:13
Subject: Sex at 13?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I haven't even pretended to read past the first page of this thread, but I lost my virginity at 13 (naively perhaps, but willingly and without trauma), and turned out fabulous.
It happens.
so does that mean you'd be ok with your 13 yr old DC having sex this young? Sure, you turned out fine in your opinion. But I don't know if most girls who have sex this young (and I say girls b/c boys have a totally different psyche about sex) turn out fine. Just b/c it turned out fine for you, doesn't mean it turns out fine for most 13 yr olds.
I agree that parents need to talk about sex before 13, including contraception, but that doesn't mean I'd be ok with my 13 yr old having sex.
That's nice but what makes you think you'll a) know about it if it happens and/or b) your child will care what you say?
Anonymous
04/21/2014 12:46
Subject: Sex at 13?
Anonymous wrote:I haven't even pretended to read past the first page of this thread, but I lost my virginity at 13 (naively perhaps, but willingly and without trauma), and turned out fabulous.
It happens.
so does that mean you'd be ok with your 13 yr old DC having sex this young? Sure, you turned out fine in your opinion. But I don't know if most girls who have sex this young (and I say girls b/c boys have a totally different psyche about sex) turn out fine. Just b/c it turned out fine for you, doesn't mean it turns out fine for most 13 yr olds.
I agree that parents need to talk about sex before 13, including contraception, but that doesn't mean I'd be ok with my 13 yr old having sex.
Anonymous
04/21/2014 12:38
Subject: Sex at 13?
HAs anyone considrered that the main reason teens have sex is because they are horny? This includes girls. This certainly included me.
Anonymous
04/21/2014 12:02
Subject: Sex at 13?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Also, if the child at any point becomes ill, is too fat/thin/stupid, or in any way falls short of perfection, that's a parenting (mothering) fail.
On the plus side, if your kid is thin, attractive, smart and healthy, you get to take full credit.
What if she isn't effortlessly thin, attractive, smart, and healthy?
Also, is it okay to blame mom for food allergies due to the Hygiene Hypothesis?
Yes, of course!
Anonymous
04/21/2014 11:37
Subject: Sex at 13?
Anonymous wrote:Also, if the child at any point becomes ill, is too fat/thin/stupid, or in any way falls short of perfection, that's a parenting (mothering) fail.
On the plus side, if your kid is thin, attractive, smart and healthy, you get to take full credit.
What if she isn't effortlessly thin, attractive, smart, and healthy?
Also, is it okay to blame mom for food allergies due to the Hygiene Hypothesis?
Anonymous
04/21/2014 11:19
Subject: Sex at 13?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
You missed the Bethesda Super Mom, apparently, as that was the reason for my snark. So basically, women have to keep their children in their sights 24/7 or they're absentee parenting, right? Just curious, are these kids allowed to be unsupervised when they turn 18 or should mommy move to college with them as well?
Yes, women must keep their children in their sights 24/7 until the children turn 18, or they are bad mothers. After the children turn 18, the mothers must turn the children loose, or they are bad mothers. Also, if the children do anything bad while unsupervised before age 18, it's the mother's fault for not supervising them, and if the children do anything bad at age 18 or older, it's the mother's fault for either not having supervised them or not having given them independence, depending on the circumstances.
(I'm speaking for DCUM here, not for Bethesda Magazine. They have other standards, first among which is: only rich people are people.)
Also, if the child at any point becomes ill, is too fat/thin/stupid, or in any way falls short of perfection, that's a parenting (mothering) fail.
On the plus side, if your kid is thin, attractive, smart and healthy, you get to take full credit.
Anonymous
04/21/2014 10:40
Subject: Sex at 13?
I haven't even pretended to read past the first page of this thread, but I lost my virginity at 13 (naively perhaps, but willingly and without trauma), and turned out fabulous.
It happens.
It happens.