Anonymous
Post 02/18/2014 19:55     Subject: Questioning boarding school...mother's dilemma
Anonymous wrote:We are planning to send our son to boarding school in fall 2015 for 10th grade. Yes, it is family tradition, and yes, he wants to go. More importantly, it is an opportunity for him to become incredibly independent, to not have me or dad hovering over him, nagging about HW and tests, letting him become the captain of his academic destiny, to allow him to stretch and reach and grow. Yes, it will be incredibly hard for me, but he spent 6 weeks in Europe this year as an exchange student, so I know I will survive. I love my son, and I am not afraid to let him go. I know he will be better prepared for college because of it.


IME my college friends from boarding schools were less mature than those of is that had never been away from home.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2014 19:55     Subject: Questioning boarding school...mother's dilemma
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Anonymous wrote:Why would a upper class DC area family ever even consider boarding school, when there are endless excellent options right here?

To get the kid away from a "difficult" home life.
Then it may be worth the obvious risk.



B/c it's family tradition AND the kid wants to go.


So you let your parents or parents in decide where your child will live?
Who cares about the tradition. We need to do what WE as parents find best for OUR kid. Why the fear In breaking tradition?


The kid wants to go.



And he needs an advanced, very accelerated math curriculum and languages not offered at local privates.


Will the local private allow him to take courses at a local university?


Now that is a good idea. Seems this lazy one wants that poor kid gone.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2014 19:54     Subject: Questioning boarding school...mother's dilemma
Anonymous wrote:We are planning to send our son to boarding school in fall 2015 for 10th grade. Yes, it is family tradition, and yes, he wants to go. More importantly, it is an opportunity for him to become incredibly independent, to not have me or dad hovering over him, nagging about HW and tests, letting him become the captain of his academic destiny, to allow him to stretch and reach and grow. Yes, it will be incredibly hard for me, but he spent 6 weeks in Europe this year as an exchange student, so I know I will survive. I love my son, and I am not afraid to let him go. I know he will be better prepared for college because of it.

Why the rush? College is the normal time to make this adjustment, you dont win for sending him early.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2014 19:53     Subject: Questioning boarding school...mother's dilemma
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Why would a upper class DC area family ever even consider boarding school, when there are endless excellent options right here?

To get the kid away from a "difficult" home life.
Then it may be worth the obvious risk.



B/c it's family tradition AND the kid wants to go.


So you let your parents or parents in decide where your child will live?
Who cares about the tradition. We need to do what WE as parents find best for OUR kid. Why the fear In breaking tradition?


The kid wants to go.


And he needs an advanced, very accelerated math curriculum and languages not offered at local privates.


He needs parents who want him around, the rest could be met with supplementing with tutors. You really suck.


So get him tutors in Math, Arabic, Mandarin, Latin and Ancient Greek? Easier to send him to a school that has them.


Well. If you only make choices based on what is easier, then go ahead. Parenting isn't always about taking the easy road.
I have a gifted kid too. It's not rocket science.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2014 19:06     Subject: Questioning boarding school...mother's dilemma
We are planning to send our son to boarding school in fall 2015 for 10th grade. Yes, it is family tradition, and yes, he wants to go. More importantly, it is an opportunity for him to become incredibly independent, to not have me or dad hovering over him, nagging about HW and tests, letting him become the captain of his academic destiny, to allow him to stretch and reach and grow. Yes, it will be incredibly hard for me, but he spent 6 weeks in Europe this year as an exchange student, so I know I will survive. I love my son, and I am not afraid to let him go. I know he will be better prepared for college because of it.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2014 19:05     Subject: Questioning boarding school...mother's dilemma
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Why would a upper class DC area family ever even consider boarding school, when there are endless excellent options right here?

To get the kid away from a "difficult" home life.
Then it may be worth the obvious risk.



B/c it's family tradition AND the kid wants to go.


So you let your parents or parents in decide where your child will live?
Who cares about the tradition. We need to do what WE as parents find best for OUR kid. Why the fear In breaking tradition?


The kid wants to go.


And he needs an advanced, very accelerated math curriculum and languages not offered at local privates.


He needs parents who want him around, the rest could be met with supplementing with tutors. You really suck.


So get him tutors in Math, Arabic, Mandarin, Latin and Ancient Greek? Easier to send him to a school that has them.


Sidwell, St. Albans, ncs, can offer these. Or did he not get in to those schools so now must move to another state?


There is no school who offers all. I know, I've looked. If they offer Arabic, they don't offer Mandarin. And he needs advanced Arabic and Mandarin not beginner. And then there's the math curriculum.

What does a typical day look like for your child these days?


He's in middle school. Loves video games. He learned Arabic when we lived in Algeria and learned Mandarin when we lived in China if that's what you want to know.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2014 19:03     Subject: Questioning boarding school...mother's dilemma
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why would a upper class DC area family ever even consider boarding school, when there are endless excellent options right here?

To get the kid away from a "difficult" home life.
Then it may be worth the obvious risk.



B/c it's family tradition AND the kid wants to go.


So you let your parents or parents in decide where your child will live?
Who cares about the tradition. We need to do what WE as parents find best for OUR kid. Why the fear In breaking tradition?


The kid wants to go.



And he needs an advanced, very accelerated math curriculum and languages not offered at local privates.


Will the local private allow him to take courses at a local university?
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2014 19:00     Subject: Questioning boarding school...mother's dilemma
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Anonymous wrote:Why would a upper class DC area family ever even consider boarding school, when there are endless excellent options right here?

To get the kid away from a "difficult" home life.
Then it may be worth the obvious risk.



B/c it's family tradition AND the kid wants to go.


So you let your parents or parents in decide where your child will live?
Who cares about the tradition. We need to do what WE as parents find best for OUR kid. Why the fear In breaking tradition?


The kid wants to go.


And he needs an advanced, very accelerated math curriculum and languages not offered at local privates.


He needs parents who want him around, the rest could be met with supplementing with tutors. You really suck.


So get him tutors in Math, Arabic, Mandarin, Latin and Ancient Greek? Easier to send him to a school that has them.


Sidwell, St. Albans, ncs, can offer these. Or did he not get in to those schools so now must move to another state?


There is no school who offers all. I know, I've looked. If they offer Arabic, they don't offer Mandarin. And he needs advanced Arabic and Mandarin not beginner. And then there's the math curriculum.

What does a typical day look like for your child these days?
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2014 18:56     Subject: Questioning boarding school...mother's dilemma
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Why would a upper class DC area family ever even consider boarding school, when there are endless excellent options right here?

To get the kid away from a "difficult" home life.
Then it may be worth the obvious risk.



B/c it's family tradition AND the kid wants to go.


So you let your parents or parents in decide where your child will live?
Who cares about the tradition. We need to do what WE as parents find best for OUR kid. Why the fear In breaking tradition?


The kid wants to go.


And he needs an advanced, very accelerated math curriculum and languages not offered at local privates.


He needs parents who want him around, the rest could be met with supplementing with tutors. You really suck.


So get him tutors in Math, Arabic, Mandarin, Latin and Ancient Greek? Easier to send him to a school that has them.


Sidwell, St. Albans, ncs, can offer these. Or did he not get in to those schools so now must move to another state?


There is no school who offers all. I know, I've looked. If they offer Arabic, they don't offer Mandarin. And he needs advanced Arabic and Mandarin not beginner. And then there's the math curriculum.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2014 18:53     Subject: Questioning boarding school...mother's dilemma
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why would a upper class DC area family ever even consider boarding school, when there are endless excellent options right here?

To get the kid away from a "difficult" home life.
Then it may be worth the obvious risk.



B/c it's family tradition AND the kid wants to go.


So you let your parents or parents in decide where your child will live?
Who cares about the tradition. We need to do what WE as parents find best for OUR kid. Why the fear In breaking tradition?


The kid wants to go.


And he needs an advanced, very accelerated math curriculum and languages not offered at local privates.


He needs parents who want him around, the rest could be met with supplementing with tutors. You really suck.


So get him tutors in Math, Arabic, Mandarin, Latin and Ancient Greek? Easier to send him to a school that has them.


Sidwell, St. Albans, ncs, can offer these. Or did he not get in to those schools so now must move to another state?
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2014 18:50     Subject: Questioning boarding school...mother's dilemma
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why would a upper class DC area family ever even consider boarding school, when there are endless excellent options right here?

To get the kid away from a "difficult" home life.
Then it may be worth the obvious risk.



B/c it's family tradition AND the kid wants to go.


So you let your parents or parents in decide where your child will live?
Who cares about the tradition. We need to do what WE as parents find best for OUR kid. Why the fear In breaking tradition?

Yeah, and then they claim the kid is raging because of a chemical imbalance. Nice.

No kid well to do kid from a healthy family in this area gets sent away to boarding school.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2014 18:49     Subject: Questioning boarding school...mother's dilemma
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why would a upper class DC area family ever even consider boarding school, when there are endless excellent options right here?

To get the kid away from a "difficult" home life.
Then it may be worth the obvious risk.



B/c it's family tradition AND the kid wants to go.


So you let your parents or parents in decide where your child will live?
Who cares about the tradition. We need to do what WE as parents find best for OUR kid. Why the fear In breaking tradition?


The kid wants to go.


And he needs an advanced, very accelerated math curriculum and languages not offered at local privates.


He needs parents who want him around, the rest could be met with supplementing with tutors. You really suck.


So get him tutors in Math, Arabic, Mandarin, Latin and Ancient Greek? Easier to send him to a school that has them.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2014 18:47     Subject: Questioning boarding school...mother's dilemma
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why would a upper class DC area family ever even consider boarding school, when there are endless excellent options right here?

To get the kid away from a "difficult" home life.
Then it may be worth the obvious risk.



B/c it's family tradition AND the kid wants to go.


So you let your parents or parents in decide where your child will live?
Who cares about the tradition. We need to do what WE as parents find best for OUR kid. Why the fear In breaking tradition?


The kid wants to go.

I see, the kid rules the roost.
He must see he is a burden to you and wants out.
I guess it's not the helicopter parents that kids try to escape,
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2014 18:46     Subject: Questioning boarding school...mother's dilemma
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why would a upper class DC area family ever even consider boarding school, when there are endless excellent options right here?

To get the kid away from a "difficult" home life.
Then it may be worth the obvious risk.



B/c it's family tradition AND the kid wants to go.


So you let your parents or parents in decide where your child will live?
Who cares about the tradition. We need to do what WE as parents find best for OUR kid. Why the fear In breaking tradition?


The kid wants to go.


And he needs an advanced, very accelerated math curriculum and languages not offered at local privates.


He needs parents who want him around, the rest could be met with supplementing with tutors. You really suck.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2014 18:45     Subject: Questioning boarding school...mother's dilemma
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Anonymous wrote:I would be devastated sending my child off to boarding school. If my mil's voice was bigger than mine on the decision I would would be considering divorce.



THIS


Yeah but your teenager will be happy to get away from your helicoptering.


That's the point, teens don't know what is best for them. If raising your own kid is so hard, you shouldn't have had them