Anonymous
12/31/2013 00:39
Subject: Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Are not we supposed to teach children to buy gifts for people that the they would like? Not what you like, but the other person likes?
OP, I think your husband dropped the ball.
But why are you assuming that they (husband, daughters) only picked what they liked? How do you know they really didn't think mom would like it?
This is where dad comes in. And says "I think your mom likes this and this, and she doesn't wear pins."
Parents are supposed to teach their children to think of the person they are buying the gift for.
Anonymous
12/30/2013 22:13
Subject: Re:Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:They are kids. Appreciate them and your DH and be glad you got something. Quit whining.
This is OP. I do appreciate them and like I said - I wasn't mad at them and did all the oohs and aahs.
I think people are missing the point. I'm not unappreciative - I am just pissed DH didn't steer them to something I'd like more - LIKE I DID WITH HIS GIFT FROM THE GIRLS.
Part of the joy of giving is to find something the recipient would like - that's a teachable moment too[i][b]!
yes. OP, you are in the right. Many people here think parents should be forever grateful for whatever crumbs children thrown their way.Thats not good for anyone, but it's the American way.
Anonymous
12/30/2013 21:53
Subject: Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift
Anonymous wrote:F that, I'd rock that big ass ugly pin and let everyone know my daughters picked it out. Dont give a sh*t what people think but I do care that my DD got it for me.
+1
Don't need to read anything else. I'd be proud as hell of my hideous pin.
Anonymous
12/30/2013 21:50
Subject: Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift
I was in the store on the 23rd, there was a DH there with his 3 kids.
They were in the store for less than 10 minutes and the DH went to get in line and proceeded to yell for the kids to "hurry up!", "Pick anything - I don't want to be here all day" And as a consequence the things the kids picked were pretty crappy and even I felt bad for the mom who was going to get them.
So I feel for you OP and maybe wonder if your DH didn't pull the same thing with your kids.
They were in the store for less than 10 minutes and the DH went to get in line and proceeded to yell for the kids to "hurry up!", "Pick anything - I don't want to be here all day" And as a consequence the things the kids picked were pretty crappy and even I felt bad for the mom who was going to get them.
So I feel for you OP and maybe wonder if your DH didn't pull the same thing with your kids.
Anonymous
12/30/2013 21:10
Subject: Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow, you made a lot of assumptions there, didn't you PP?
It's pretty obvious. I call it like I see it.
I'm not particularly sure about OP's backstory, but she posted asking for advice, so I'm giving it the best I can.
But as to everything else, it's unfolding me before me on this thread and plain as day. What, you disagree?
The only advice I heard her asking, after a litany of complaints, is "is there any way I can fix this without hurting their feelings?" What that says to me is "how can get away with getting something new/not having to wear this awful piece of jewelry my children picked out for me/pretend I never got this gift." That's not really advice I care to give.
...Wow, you made a lot of assumptions there, didn't you PP?
No, I just actually read her post. It's called reading comprehension.
As did I. And no, it's called making assumptions. There is a difference between reading comprehension and making assumptions/jumping to conclusions, my friend. Not that making assumptions is always bad, but recognize when you do it, please.
OK, so tell me this - and OP can answer it too: how do you "fix" a gift that's already been given? Hmmmmm?
Anonymous
12/30/2013 21:07
Subject: Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow, you made a lot of assumptions there, didn't you PP?
It's pretty obvious. I call it like I see it.
I'm not particularly sure about OP's backstory, but she posted asking for advice, so I'm giving it the best I can.
But as to everything else, it's unfolding me before me on this thread and plain as day. What, you disagree?
The only advice I heard her asking, after a litany of complaints, is "is there any way I can fix this without hurting their feelings?" What that says to me is "how can get away with getting something new/not having to wear this awful piece of jewelry my children picked out for me/pretend I never got this gift." That's not really advice I care to give.
...Wow, you made a lot of assumptions there, didn't you PP?
No, I just actually read her post. It's called reading comprehension.
As did I. And no, it's called making assumptions. There is a difference between reading comprehension and making assumptions/jumping to conclusions, my friend. Not that making assumptions is always bad, but recognize when you do it, please.
Anonymous
12/30/2013 21:03
Subject: Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow, you made a lot of assumptions there, didn't you PP?
It's pretty obvious. I call it like I see it.
I'm not particularly sure about OP's backstory, but she posted asking for advice, so I'm giving it the best I can.
But as to everything else, it's unfolding me before me on this thread and plain as day. What, you disagree?
The only advice I heard her asking, after a litany of complaints, is "is there any way I can fix this without hurting their feelings?" What that says to me is "how can get away with getting something new/not having to wear this awful piece of jewelry my children picked out for me/pretend I never got this gift." That's not really advice I care to give.
...Wow, you made a lot of assumptions there, didn't you PP?
No, I just actually read her post. It's called reading comprehension.
Anonymous
12/30/2013 20:59
Subject: Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow, you made a lot of assumptions there, didn't you PP?
It's pretty obvious. I call it like I see it.
I'm not particularly sure about OP's backstory, but she posted asking for advice, so I'm giving it the best I can.
But as to everything else, it's unfolding me before me on this thread and plain as day. What, you disagree?
The only advice I heard her asking, after a litany of complaints, is "is there any way I can fix this without hurting their feelings?" What that says to me is "how can get away with getting something new/not having to wear this awful piece of jewelry my children picked out for me/pretend I never got this gift." That's not really advice I care to give.
...Wow, you made a lot of assumptions there, didn't you PP?
Anonymous
12/30/2013 20:57
Subject: Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Any woman on the TTC forum would gladly have your problem
+1 Shut up already, you vain petty woman. Good lord!
This. We are not on TTC.
You.missed my.+1. I think OP needs to get a life if this is her biggest problem.
Hahaha! And here we ALL ARE, posting and posting and posting about what you call OP's "biggest problem." If OP needs to get a life, what does that say about us?
Anonymous
12/30/2013 20:50
Subject: Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow, you made a lot of assumptions there, didn't you PP?
It's pretty obvious. I call it like I see it.
I'm not particularly sure about OP's backstory, but she posted asking for advice, so I'm giving it the best I can.
But as to everything else, it's unfolding me before me on this thread and plain as day. What, you disagree?
The only advice I heard her asking, after a litany of complaints, is "is there any way I can fix this without hurting their feelings?" What that says to me is "how can get away with getting something new/not having to wear this awful piece of jewelry my children picked out for me/pretend I never got this gift." That's not really advice I care to give.
Anonymous
12/30/2013 20:49
Subject: Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift
OP, I would be impressed that they got you jewelry, even if it is a pin. My 4 year old got me a bow and arrows with suction cups. I think he could not comprehend that I would not love something just because he did. Actually, I do sort of like it, it is strangely fun to shoot the arrows and watch them stick to stuff.
Anonymous
12/30/2013 20:47
Subject: Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Any woman on the TTC forum would gladly have your problem
+1 Shut up already, you vain petty woman. Good lord!
This. We are not on TTC.
You.missed my.+1. I think OP needs to get a life if this is her biggest problem.
Anonymous
12/30/2013 20:43
Subject: Re:Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift
Anonymous wrote:Wow. Just wow. The wolves are out tonight. The mob mentality is just incredible on this thread. I get the sense some of you are just cowardly and piling it on, especially after you sniffed out that OP is generally polite and won't fight back.
Just stop it. I'm sure OP gets the hint, which is that there is no love for her here. Just stop the bullying pile-on. What an obnoxious bunch. I'm sure all you stone-throwers are all worthy of Mom of the Year plaques, amirite? Or pins, rather...big, ugly, Mom of the Year pins...
OP made it abundantly clear that she showed appreciation to her children. There is obviously some underlying resentment here at her husband. If I were to guess, DH got her a big crappy nothing for Christmas, or something close to it.
OP, are you mad because you didn't get a real, usable, substantial gift from your family, even though an adult was part of the decision-making process? That would make me mad. Clearly, you need to make your wants better known to your DH. I would love an ugly pin from the kids, my kids are currently too young to give me anything right now, but DH better not hide behind same pin as a "family gift."
It took me 10+ years to make my DH a decent gift-giver. He used to give me awful dimestore crap, and it infuriated me. The issue here is with DH. He used the girls' enthusiasm as a cop-out to get you a crappy gift, huh? Was this ugly pin from the kids AND DH?!? Please talk directly to him about his lazy gift-giving. He shouldn't use the kids as an excuse to give you an ugly $10 pin for Christmas.
And of course, any gift from our kids is worth making a fuss over. And you don't have to wear that ugly pin to all eternity. I'm sure no one else on this thread does. Just show the girls how much you love it and after wearing it awhile gently put it away, like you would heirloom jewelry.
+1
Anonymous
12/30/2013 20:36
Subject: Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift
Anonymous wrote:Wow, you made a lot of assumptions there, didn't you PP?
It's pretty obvious. I call it like I see it.
I'm not particularly sure about OP's backstory, but she posted asking for advice, so I'm giving it the best I can.
But as to everything else, it's unfolding me before me on this thread and plain as day. What, you disagree?
Anonymous
12/30/2013 20:20
Subject: Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift
Wow, you made a lot of assumptions there, didn't you PP?