Anonymous
Post 11/06/2013 13:43     Subject: Would you be upset with your husband over this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy who would never cheat on my wife. (Or, at least I think I would never -- I've seen enough "it just happened" stories to be a little cautious about that statement.)

But, I have to wonder whether my being such a faithful and reliable guy makes it that much easier for my wife to ignore sex. Would she be more likely to regard sex as a priority if she were just a little bit uneasy?

It ultimately doesn't matter; I'm not going to cheat regardless, but I do wonder about it.


Would you really want someone to have sex with you out of fear and mistrust?


Depends how long it's been. After a couple of months, you enter "any port in a storm" territory.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2013 12:17     Subject: Would you be upset with your husband over this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op, you better watch your friend and really any women around him. Undersexed husbands like yours are easy targets for an affair.


Oh please. So disagree. Depends on the man. For Gods sake give men a bit of credit. Not all men are born cheaters when they don't get as much sex as they want. I find the comment offensive and ridiculous.

There are two types- men who would cheat with or without a lot of sex and men who would never with or without a lot of sex. Thankfully I know my husband is the later.


Sure, keep your head up your ass if you want to believe that. That's why the divorce rate is so high. Keep ignoring your spouses needs and don't get mad when they get it met somewhere else.

And if he doesn't cheat, don't be mad when he tosses you out on your ass so he can go get some.

It amazes me that people can sit by and be okay knowing their spouse is miserable. It's completely selfish.


Maybe he's not getting all the sex he wants because he selfishly ignores her needs. I assume that means she's justified in cheating as well?


What ignored needs has the OP posted about? I can't make presumptions about her life, but she openly admits her DH is undersexed and too me that is very embarrassing.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2013 12:05     Subject: Would you be upset with your husband over this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op, you better watch your friend and really any women around him. Undersexed husbands like yours are easy targets for an affair.


Oh please. So disagree. Depends on the man. For Gods sake give men a bit of credit. Not all men are born cheaters when they don't get as much sex as they want. I find the comment offensive and ridiculous.

There are two types- men who would cheat with or without a lot of sex and men who would never with or without a lot of sex. Thankfully I know my husband is the later.


Sure, keep your head up your ass if you want to believe that. That's why the divorce rate is so high. Keep ignoring your spouses needs and don't get mad when they get it met somewhere else.

And if he doesn't cheat, don't be mad when he tosses you out on your ass so he can go get some.

It amazes me that people can sit by and be okay knowing their spouse is miserable. It's completely selfish.


Maybe he's not getting all the sex he wants because he selfishly ignores her needs. I assume that means she's justified in cheating as well?
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2013 12:03     Subject: Would you be upset with your husband over this?
I wouldn't be mad at him, I'd be mad at her. And I would never 'share' with her again and would try to distance myself.

Then I'd fix the sexual aspect of your relationship, however you need to. Because I view her comments as 'advertising pussy'. She's letting him know she's hot to trot and it would be a matter of time before he goes for it, if you aren't giving him intimacy.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2013 12:00     Subject: Would you be upset with your husband over this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op, you better watch your friend and really any women around him. Undersexed husbands like yours are easy targets for an affair.


Oh please. So disagree. Depends on the man. For Gods sake give men a bit of credit. Not all men are born cheaters when they don't get as much sex as they want. I find the comment offensive and ridiculous.

There are two types- men who would cheat with or without a lot of sex and men who would never with or without a lot of sex. Thankfully I know my husband is the later.


Oh and every woman thinks they know their husband until they catch him in bed with their best friend. How many times have women posted I'm shocked my DH cheated stories.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2013 11:58     Subject: Would you be upset with your husband over this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op, you better watch your friend and really any women around him. Undersexed husbands like yours are easy targets for an affair.


Oh please. So disagree. Depends on the man. For Gods sake give men a bit of credit. Not all men are born cheaters when they don't get as much sex as they want. I find the comment offensive and ridiculous.

There are two types- men who would cheat with or without a lot of sex and men who would never with or without a lot of sex. Thankfully I know my husband is the later.


Sure, keep your head up your ass if you want to believe that. That's why the divorce rate is so high. Keep ignoring your spouses needs and don't get mad when they get it met somewhere else.

And if he doesn't cheat, don't be mad when he tosses you out on your ass so he can go get some.

It amazes me that people can sit by and be okay knowing their spouse is miserable. It's completely selfish.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2013 11:52     Subject: Would you be upset with your husband over this?
Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy who would never cheat on my wife. (Or, at least I think I would never -- I've seen enough "it just happened" stories to be a little cautious about that statement.)

But, I have to wonder whether my being such a faithful and reliable guy makes it that much easier for my wife to ignore sex. Would she be more likely to regard sex as a priority if she were just a little bit uneasy?

It ultimately doesn't matter; I'm not going to cheat regardless, but I do wonder about it.


Would you really want someone to have sex with you out of fear and mistrust?
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2013 11:50     Subject: Would you be upset with your husband over this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think she's a bitch and you need to stop confiding in her. But I also think you need to sick it up and have more sex with your dh. I'm a woman btw. From the way you described your dh (women want him etc, and he's obviously not happy with your sex life) I'd think he's ripe pickings for a predatory woman. If he doesn't get it at home and others are offering...


I will never understand this argument. If a husband cheats because he's unhappy with his sex life at home then truly, he wasn't worth having in the first place. Good riddance. If you really think this is a possibility, why are you with him?

Work on your sex life because you love your husband or because you want to make your marriage better--not because you're afraid he'll cheat.


Meh. My ex cheated so I have very little sympathy for cheaters. I never withheld sex.

That said, cheaters are only human too. People have sexual needs. If your spouse is denying you, it's understandable that you might be vulnerable and get it elsewhere.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2013 11:48     Subject: Would you be upset with your husband over this?
OP, minimize contact with friend.

Have more sex with DH. Even if you need libido meds.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2013 11:47     Subject: Would you be upset with your husband over this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is this just fantasy?


Life is just a fantasy, can you live this fantasy life?


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Anonymous
Post 11/06/2013 11:46     Subject: Would you be upset with your husband over this?
I'm a guy who would never cheat on my wife. (Or, at least I think I would never -- I've seen enough "it just happened" stories to be a little cautious about that statement.)

But, I have to wonder whether my being such a faithful and reliable guy makes it that much easier for my wife to ignore sex. Would she be more likely to regard sex as a priority if she were just a little bit uneasy?

It ultimately doesn't matter; I'm not going to cheat regardless, but I do wonder about it.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2013 11:18     Subject: Re:Would you be upset with your husband over this?
Anonymous wrote:She's not someone you need to be sharing your heart with and your husband was very inappropriate to tell you to take lessons from her.
He should be guarding your heart not trampling on it, no matter how good looking he us.

Looks will fade and what's left is your character and how you treated people.

Guilt is a terrible motivator.

God bless you.


I agree with part of what you said. He was wrong for comparing his wife to the flirty harlot. He was right in telling her his feelings about something he thinks is a problem in the marriage.