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Anonymous wrote:I am a single dad of a toddler, and there is a mother in my building that I try to avoid at all costs. Every single thing she says comes back around to my daughter not having a mother.

"Oh, look at your pretty yellow dress! Your daddy must not know all girls love pink." Then to me, "I know she doesn't have a mother so you have no way of knowing this, but pink is the way to go. Any time there's a pink option, pick that. And if a store doesn't have pink, ask."

She actually believes she's helping me. Never mind that my daughter picked out her own yellow dress when we were in the store.

The woman does this EVERY TIME we run into each other in the elevator. I have taken to giving my daughter piggy back rides and taking the stairs to avoid her.

I"m female, expecting a girl and hate fucking pink. Purple is a pretty close second. I was fortunate enough to receive about 1000 free pieces of girl-clothes from a few friends who were done with them so was able to almost, ALMOST avoid pink. However, the SAH in-laws have all given us brand-new pink crap for our girl. they all have eating/drinking disorders so worry about correlation.

Ohh! So THAT'S why my DD spit up so often the first few months. The pink and purple footie pajamas triggered Baby Bulimia!! Who knew??!

Anonymous wrote:So, I'm loving this thread - especially hilarious are the smuggies trying to defend themselves!

Anyway, my smug mother is a woman in my group of friend with 2 boys. They didn't know either gender before birth, but to hear the mother talk, it's as if they had sex selection "I was such a tomboy growing up, I know all about football and I only wanted boys. I wouldn't know what to do with a girl. Boys are just so wonderful. I don't think I could live a girl." It's especially odd bc 2 of the women she tells this little story to have girls... And don't we all love the children we're given?

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Anonymous wrote:I know a couple of boy moms who are ALWAYS bragging about how all the girl babies are so in love with their "little men." Maybe it makes them feel better to think their 11 month old is a ladykiller but I think sexualizing your baby's relationships even in a vague way is weird.

What?

You've never heard a woman say something like, "Oh, little Colton is just so popular with the ladies! All of the little girls come crawling when he arrives at playgroup! They just kiss him and can't keep their hands off of him! I swear, he just has to beat them off with a boppy! We're going to have a lot of trouble in a few years raising a little ladies' man like that!"

That. I think it's weird and kinda gross.

I feel the same way about the proud "he's all boy" moms (and their girl-mom counterparts, though it doesn't really happen as often with moms of girls, I've seen).

I often say my son is "all boy." Not because I am proud of it; more because I am amazed at how is that way even though I have made many attempts to be gender-neutral. But he loves dirt, cars and rough housing. It has actually been mind boggling to see how prewired he is to be like that.

Anonymous wrote:Another Playseum story. We were at the one in Bethesda and this adorable little girl spoke to my daughter in French. The mother said quickly and smugly in English "oh, don't bother honey, they don't speak French." Later, I overheard her bragging to some other mom about how it was sooo hard to find appropriate playmates for her dd because she's in a French immersion program. Sure lady, THAT's exactly the problem.

Anonymous wrote:OMG yes! One takes great pride in personally preparing all of her kid's food - totally commendable but not that big a deal to those of us who use baby-led weaning. When hosting a playdate, I saw a toddler pack of Plum Organics and asked if it was hers because I was curious about the brand and wanted her feedback. She offered up a big eye roll, turned her head, then said "Oh no! My child has never eaten from a package!" and then went on to share for the 15th time how her child has had no sugar ever and won't until she's off in college.

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Anonymous wrote:All. the. time.

My SIL has to detail how healthy her kids eat. She will tell you everything they ate the day before, meal-by-meal. It is smug and boring.

My SIL does the same and ALWAYS mentions that she is sooo glad that she is a SAHM. Turned into a drinking game for me and DH

This is an EXCELLENT idea! Our version will be: drink whenever SIL mentions how much money they spent on X. Guess we will need to stay over a ILs house though because we will be loaded!

+1 Great idea, I'm going to employ this technique for whenever my MIL mentions weight, food, her very low weight after DH was born, her exercise routine, or other random bystanders' weight problems. I will be smashed.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a single dad of a toddler, and there is a mother in my building that I try to avoid at all costs. Every single thing she says comes back around to my daughter not having a mother.

"Oh, look at your pretty yellow dress! Your daddy must not know all girls love pink." Then to me, "I know she doesn't have a mother so you have no way of knowing this, but pink is the way to go. Any time there's a pink option, pick that. And if a store doesn't have pink, ask."

She actually believes she's helping me. Never mind that my daughter picked out her own yellow dress when we were in the store.

The woman does this EVERY TIME we run into each other in the elevator. I have taken to giving my daughter piggy back rides and taking the stairs to avoid her.

I"m female, expecting a girl and hate fucking pink. Purple is a pretty close second. I was fortunate enough to receive about 1000 free pieces of girl-clothes from a few friends who were done with them so was able to almost, ALMOST avoid pink. However, the SAH in-laws have all given us brand-new pink crap for our girl. they all have eating/drinking disorders so worry about correlation.

Anonymous wrote:I am a single dad of a toddler, and there is a mother in my building that I try to avoid at all costs. Every single thing she says comes back around to my daughter not having a mother.

"Oh, look at your pretty yellow dress! Your daddy must not know all girls love pink." Then to me, "I know she doesn't have a mother so you have no way of knowing this, but pink is the way to go. Any time there's a pink option, pick that. And if a store doesn't have pink, ask."

She actually believes she's helping me. Never mind that my daughter picked out her own yellow dress when we were in the store.

The woman does this EVERY TIME we run into each other in the elevator. I have taken to giving my daughter piggy back rides and taking the stairs to avoid her.

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Not the PP but if you don't own a TV, I think the chances that your kid won't recognize a TV character at a birthday party are pretty high. We don't have one because if we did, DH & I would never talk; once it's on, we just zone out of everything else, which clearly not everyone experiences but for those of us who do, it's not some mommy crusade, it's just a lifestyle choice. PP could very well raise her child without TV. It's not that crazy of an idea IMO.

No, the chances aren't pretty high. Characters are on clothing, toys, valentine day cards, birthday invitations, gift bags, books at the library, glittery tattoos, hair bows, lunch boxes....It takes one person, telling a child one time, that is Dora or Spiderman and they will know it. Doesn't mean they watch the shows but they will know it is a fictional character.