Anonymous
Post 09/18/2012 14:42     Subject: Re:Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, why didn't you offer to switch with the person seated next to your husband in the row without the extra space?


This has been covered. 3 seat row, 2 people sitting next to the husband were a couple. We done now?


No, not done. Why didn't OPs DH ask the person sitting in the window seat of Ops aisle? Why did they target aisle-man instead of window-man?


Because husband was in an aisle seat and window-person probably wanted to stay in a window seat. So the best thing is to ask the person also in an aisle seat, because presumably that person wanted an aisle and will remain in an aisle.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2012 14:39     Subject: Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here again. I neglected to mention something about the whole thing - at the time when DH asked the man if he would mind switching, neither of us realized that I (and the man) was seated in the 'economy plus' legroom seats or whatever. (as a PP mentioned, there isn't much difference between those seats and regular seats. If we had realized that my row had extra legroom (even though it's such a slight increase in space that it hardly makes a difference), we probably would not have asked the man if he would mind switching.
But anyway, now I would like to ask you - suppose that The man and I had been seated in a regular row. In your opinion, would it have still been rude to ask him to switch? And if we did ask in that scenario, and he did decline, does your opinion change with respect to his refusal? It would have been an aisle seat to aisle seat switch, BTW.


Regardless of what kind of row you are seated in: You are not rude to ask him to switch, and he is not rude for refusing. Let. It. Go.


Yes, yes and yes. We done now?
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2012 14:34     Subject: Re:Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, why didn't you offer to switch with the person seated next to your husband in the row without the extra space?


This has been covered. 3 seat row, 2 people sitting next to the husband were a couple. We done now?


No, not done. Why didn't OPs DH ask the person sitting in the window seat of Ops aisle? Why did they target aisle-man instead of window-man?
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2012 14:26     Subject: Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
Anonymous wrote:I don't think "being nice" means "allow others to take advantage of you at every opportunity."


Seriously!
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2012 14:24     Subject: Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
I don't think "being nice" means "allow others to take advantage of you at every opportunity."
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2012 14:23     Subject: Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
Being honest isn't especially harsh; actually, it's good to have a way to find out how other people see our behavior. (Cue Robert Burns)
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2012 14:19     Subject: Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
come on, people...don't be so harsh to OP.

OP, the passenger wasn't a jerk for refusing and neither was your husband for asking. Some people will give a seat up and others prefer not to.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2012 14:15     Subject: Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
Anonymous wrote:

When did you men become such delicate little flowers?


Men have been more fragile than women -- shorter-lived, for example -- ever since women quit dying in childbirth. For example, many middle-aged and older men have circulatory issues that make it dangerous for them to sit long in a cramped position.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2012 14:12     Subject: Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
Anonymous wrote:
In your opinion, would it have still been rude to ask him to switch? And if we did ask in that scenario, and he did decline, does your opinion change with respect to his refusal? It would have been an aisle seat to aisle seat switch, BTW.


13:19 here.

The polite thing to do is to ask a flight attendant to help you and your husband to find other seats, not to put another passenger -- one who may have health problems of his own -- in an awkward position. That's if you need an accommodation; if, for instance, "being nervous" means that you've been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. If you do feel excessively anxious but don't have a diagnosis, please talk to your primary-care physician and/or your obstetrician; even if you can't take medication while pregnant, there are other approaches that might help.

Anonymous
Post 09/18/2012 14:10     Subject: Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
Anonymous wrote:OP here again. I neglected to mention something about the whole thing - at the time when DH asked the man if he would mind switching, neither of us realized that I (and the man) was seated in the 'economy plus' legroom seats or whatever. (as a PP mentioned, there isn't much difference between those seats and regular seats. If we had realized that my row had extra legroom (even though it's such a slight increase in space that it hardly makes a difference), we probably would not have asked the man if he would mind switching.
But anyway, now I would like to ask you - suppose that The man and I had been seated in a regular row. In your opinion, would it have still been rude to ask him to switch? And if we did ask in that scenario, and he did decline, does your opinion change with respect to his refusal? It would have been an aisle seat to aisle seat switch, BTW.


In your opinion, would it have still been rude to ask him to switch? Yes
And if we did ask in that scenario, and he did decline, does your opinion change with respect to his refusal? No


Anonymous
Post 09/18/2012 14:05     Subject: Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
So OP, you wanted to move because you were afraid of crashing, right? How is being pregnant relevant to this scenario?
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2012 14:04     Subject: Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
OK ALL, now suppose you were in line waiting to clear immigration and someone asked to borrow your EXPENSIVE pen..................
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2012 14:03     Subject: Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:not jerky. Even if you didn't pay more for the seat. Pregnant or not, it won't kill a husband and wife to sit apart for 2 hours.


Nobody's suggesting that this was a life or dearh situation. BUT, if the man wanted to do a good deed, he would have switched.


But he didn't, and he really wasn't obligated to. Maybe he had already done a good deed for the day, and didn't want to do another.



Yes, yes, of course. He wasn't obligated to switch seats. Still, the nice thing to do would have been to switch seats. Do people here acknowledge that this would have been the nice thing to do?


Is it nice for the man to have sore knees?


When did you men become such delicate little flowers? Poor babies.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2012 14:02     Subject: Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
Anonymous wrote:OP here again. I neglected to mention something about the whole thing - at the time when DH asked the man if he would mind switching, neither of us realized that I (and the man) was seated in the 'economy plus' legroom seats or whatever. (as a PP mentioned, there isn't much difference between those seats and regular seats. If we had realized that my row had extra legroom (even though it's such a slight increase in space that it hardly makes a difference), we probably would not have asked the man if he would mind switching.
But anyway, now I would like to ask you - suppose that The man and I had been seated in a regular row. In your opinion, would it have still been rude to ask him to switch? And if we did ask in that scenario, and he did decline, does your opinion change with respect to his refusal? It would have been an aisle seat to aisle seat switch, BTW.


If you normally wouldn't have asked him had you realized that this was an economy plus seat, I don't understand why you thought you should ask if he had acted "like a jerk in this situation". You knew the answer. what a ridiculous post.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2012 13:59     Subject: Re:Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
Anonymous wrote:
OP here again. I neglected to mention something about the whole thing - at the time when DH asked the man if he would mind switching, neither of us realized that I (and the man) was seated in the 'economy plus' legroom seats or whatever. (as a PP mentioned, there isn't much difference between those seats and regular seats. If we had realized that my row had extra legroom (even though it's such a slight increase in space that it hardly makes a difference), we probably would not have asked the man if he would mind switching.
But anyway, now I would like to ask you - suppose that The man and I had been seated in a regular row. In your opinion, would it have still been rude to ask him to switch? And if we did ask in that scenario, and he did decline, does your opinion change with respect to his refusal? It would have been an aisle seat to aisle seat switch, BTW.


No, OP, it's not rude to ask, nor is it rude for him to decline. It doesn't matter what row or what type of seat. He didn't want to move and that is OK.


+1.