Anonymous
Post 08/28/2012 14:07     Subject: Re:DH is taking unpaid vacation

Anonymous wrote:Really?

All the same person?

CL Lady
handicapped tags/w psoriasis
safety concerns in area like Tysons
watering upstairs neighbor dripping on balcony
unpaid vacation


All the same. THey all sounded the same. THat's what I've gleaned from this thread. Am I missing any?


There was something about an MRI and falling asleep during it..
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2012 14:04     Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Listen twatwaffle, it's easy. Here, let me educate you on saving money:

Tip 1) MAKE money. You not working? Your husband taking unpaid leave? Both of these things go against this rule.
Tip 2) Cut cable. Either cut it drastically, or go to internet and get netflix/hulu.
Tip 3) Eat out less. This includes Chipotle.
Tip 4) Don't send your DC to "school" a few mornings a week. I don't care how cheap it is; if neither you nor your husband is earning ANY money, then that school is an unnecessary expense.

There. The idiot's guide to saving money. If you'd like to go for the advanced class, you can look into tips such as:
-selling items around the house that you don't need. Garage sales, ebay, craigslist
-coupon clipping. Careful! This requires scissors. Not sure you have the brain power for this one.


Do you have kids?
Poor them!

I bet you're divorced.


Poor them? Is it because I said to stop going to Chipotle?
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2012 14:01     Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No. I can't work.


I think if you just say why you can't work, that will help. At this point, people are just thinking it is because of your psoriasis. But as many have tried to point out, you can work part-time, prn, whatever, from home. You spend enough time on this forum that you could squeeze in a part-time job from home. If you cannot work because you do not have a visa, just say so!! Then people will stop giving you crap for ignoring any helpful suggestions they try to give you. I mean, I understand you want to keep some things private. But let's face it, you've been outed. And I don't think saying that you cannot work because of a visa issue will out you anymore.


Lots of people work without visas, so not sure even that would save her at this point. Although she certainly can't nanny/clean/landscape with psoriasis and 2 kids.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2012 13:59     Subject: Re:DH is taking unpaid vacation

Really?

All the same person?

CL Lady
handicapped tags/w psoriasis
safety concerns in area like Tysons
watering upstairs neighbor dripping on balcony
unpaid vacation


All the same. THey all sounded the same. THat's what I've gleaned from this thread. Am I missing any?
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2012 13:57     Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation

Anonymous wrote:No. I can't work.


I think if you just say why you can't work, that will help. At this point, people are just thinking it is because of your psoriasis. But as many have tried to point out, you can work part-time, prn, whatever, from home. You spend enough time on this forum that you could squeeze in a part-time job from home. If you cannot work because you do not have a visa, just say so!! Then people will stop giving you crap for ignoring any helpful suggestions they try to give you. I mean, I understand you want to keep some things private. But let's face it, you've been outed. And I don't think saying that you cannot work because of a visa issue will out you anymore.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2012 13:55     Subject: Re:DH is taking unpaid vacation

Anonymous wrote:I'm the poster that thought your DH's boss would still be bothering him during his vacation, but the clients thing makes sense - hopefully he'll get some relief without all the client calls.

The idea to drop cable for Netflix is great! Thanks!

The school thing I'm not sure. Hiring a mothers helper for those 3 hours a day would cost me the same and besides so needs the interaction and I'm not being able to give it to her.

We don't pay mortgage and right now moving is impossible. The fines for breaking the lease are just too much.

We don't have a car but we use rentals on DH's points so has is a small expense.

I really appreciate you taking the time to share your suggestions.


I agree with dropping cable.

Another thought about the school and mother's helpers. You really should look at the numbers again. If you're truly talking about a mother's helper (and not babysitter) it shouldn't cost you more than about $10 an hour - I can't imagine there's a school that is that cheap. If the school tuition is a big expense, you should consider getting together with other SAHMs in the area and doing a babysitting coop. You take their kid 2 mornings a week and they take your kid 2 mornings a week. Your child will get the needed socialization and it won't cost you anything (but time to take care of another toddler on your days).

there are also other more formalized babysitting coops where you earn "points" for babysitting - then you cash in those points to get babysitting. You could babysit some kids on weekend nights to earn a lot of points (and you usually get more points for more kids) and you could babysit older kids, which can be a little easier. Then cash in those points by having your kid go to someone's house (with similar aged kids) for babysitting. Again - totally free.

If your DH is on sabatical - I'm guessing he won't need to rent cars as much, so there's another savings.

Another suggestion (I'm assuming you can't work because of Visa issues and not physical issues) but are you good at crafts? You could make a few things and try and sell them on etsy or ebay - it may not bring in a ton of money, but it could be some exra cash for miscellaneous things you might want.



She knows how to make magnets.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2012 13:52     Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think most of the commenters are just bored and finding entertainment in how wacky she is. I know that's not right, but reading all these threads has provided entertainment. Plus it seems like she gets off on the drama etc.


Actually, it seems kind of sad...


I'd agree if she didn't bring it all on herself with the insults and excuses.


Insults and excuses? You're kidding me! Everybody is pilling up while I'm saying I'm not comfortable sharing specific details. People called me crazy, lazy, incompetent, unfit to be a parent, immature and I'm the one insulting people because I called one poster a bitch?

You're a joker!


I'll agree that people are being especially mean on this one, but do you not understand it is because they are just adding it onto your countless other threads that are also full of insults and excuses? I think this post is just an accumulation of how most people feel about you when you add in all the other ones as well. But seriously, if you have this much time to devote to responding to posts and coming up with them, you should look at a part-time at home job. You can transcribe dictations from law offices, medical offices, etc which you can do on your own time and pick how many projects you want to do at any point.


+1.


See 13:45. And this, OP, is why no one wants to help you. Suggestions are made, you dismiss them without explanation, and then you go on the attack. Also, and I say this without reservation, you are failing at the one important thing you have to do in life right now - taking care of your kids. When you find yourself alone, which you undoubtedly will if you act anything like this with your husband, you will be completely and utterly unable to survive alone. And that should scare the hell out of you.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2012 13:48     Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think most of the commenters are just bored and finding entertainment in how wacky she is. I know that's not right, but reading all these threads has provided entertainment. Plus it seems like she gets off on the drama etc.


Actually, it seems kind of sad...


I'd agree if she didn't bring it all on herself with the insults and excuses.


Insults and excuses? You're kidding me! Everybody is pilling up while I'm saying I'm not comfortable sharing specific details. People called me crazy, lazy, incompetent, unfit to be a parent, immature and I'm the one insulting people because I called one poster a bitch?

You're a joker!


I'll agree that people are being especially mean on this one, but do you not understand it is because they are just adding it onto your countless other threads that are also full of insults and excuses? I think this post is just an accumulation of how most people feel about you when you add in all the other ones as well. But seriously, if you have this much time to devote to responding to posts and coming up with them, you should look at a part-time at home job. You can transcribe dictations from law offices, medical offices, etc which you can do on your own time and pick how many projects you want to do at any point.


+1.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2012 13:45     Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation

No. I can't work.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2012 13:42     Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation

OP - can you or can you not get a part-time, work-from-home job and use the time you spend on DCUM doing that job? Yes or no.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2012 13:39     Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think most of the commenters are just bored and finding entertainment in how wacky she is. I know that's not right, but reading all these threads has provided entertainment. Plus it seems like she gets off on the drama etc.


Actually, it seems kind of sad...


I'd agree if she didn't bring it all on herself with the insults and excuses.


Insults and excuses? You're kidding me! Everybody is pilling up while I'm saying I'm not comfortable sharing specific details. People called me crazy, lazy, incompetent, unfit to be a parent, immature and I'm the one insulting people because I called one poster a bitch?

You're a joker!


I'll agree that people are being especially mean on this one, but do you not understand it is because they are just adding it onto your countless other threads that are also full of insults and excuses? I think this post is just an accumulation of how most people feel about you when you add in all the other ones as well. But seriously, if you have this much time to devote to responding to posts and coming up with them, you should look at a part-time at home job. You can transcribe dictations from law offices, medical offices, etc which you can do on your own time and pick how many projects you want to do at any point.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2012 13:28     Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation

Hey OP, just forget about this thread. People can be really cruel when they are hiding behind a computer (me included at times). Why don't you go to some money saving blogs that could possibly help?
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2012 13:21     Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation

Anonymous wrote:All this to be told to 1. Make money/get a job 2. cancel cable 3. clip coupons

OP is too stupid to do any of these things... STUPID, you forgot STUUUPPPPIIIIIIDDDDD.


Clearly she's not the only one.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2012 13:18     Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation

All this to be told to 1. Make money/get a job 2. cancel cable 3. clip coupons

OP is too stupid to do any of these things... STUPID, you forgot STUUUPPPPIIIIIIDDDDD.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2012 13:11     Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think most of the commenters are just bored and finding entertainment in how wacky she is. I know that's not right, but reading all these threads has provided entertainment. Plus it seems like she gets off on the drama etc.


Actually, it seems kind of sad...


I'd agree if she didn't bring it all on herself with the insults and excuses.


Insults and excuses? You're kidding me! Everybody is pilling up while I'm saying I'm not comfortable sharing specific details. People called me crazy, lazy, incompetent, unfit to be a parent, immature and I'm the one insulting people because I called one poster a bitch?

You're a joker!