Bless your heart does not mean bless your heart. It could be an insult. Same with calling someone honey or sweetie.

Anonymous wrote:Southern women are aggresively "sweet" and two-faced. I'd rather someone be honest and blunt than to deal with that. -- reformed southerner who tells it like it is

Here here. I grew up in the South. Deep South. It's exhausting.

Research on high context vs. low context communication styles explains alot of this.

I'm a proud Southern my great great grandpa lost his life in Gettysburg any of y'all ain't below the Mason Dixie line
y'all can kiss my ass with a Southern pride

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Anonymous wrote:Southern manners? Passive aggressive bullying.

This.

The fake niceties are vomit worthy. Be real, be true and don't blanket your nastiness with catchy phrases that you call "politeness".

Part of the problem here is that you're assuming the niceties are fake. Usually, people see what they want to see. Your own beliefs and actions influence how you perceive others.

Not assuming, it's already been clearly stated what statements such as "bless your heart", etc are code for some foul thoughts and passive aggressive 'politeness'.

Part of the problem is that you don't want to acknowledge it as nasty and fake, but wrap it up as "being polite".

Just because some DCUM posters "clearly stated" how they feel does not make it a fact. I say, "Bless your heart" when I'm expressing sympathy for certain circumstances. Not nasty or fake at all.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Southern manners? Passive aggressive bullying.

This.

The fake niceties are vomit worthy. Be real, be true and don't blanket your nastiness with catchy phrases that you call "politeness".

Part of the problem here is that you're assuming the niceties are fake. Usually, people see what they want to see. Your own beliefs and actions influence how you perceive others.

Not assuming, it's already been clearly stated what statements such as "bless your heart", etc are code for some foul thoughts and passive aggressive 'politeness'.

Part of the problem is that you don't want to acknowledge it as nasty and fake, but wrap it up as "being polite".

Three southern belles, in fact, sorority sisters, are in rocking chairs on the veranda, passing a hot summer day bysipping mint juleps and talking about presents that they got for college graduation.

The first keeps prattling on about her daddy, Beauregard, taking her on a tour of Europe. The third girl said: "That's nice...."

The second belle said her Daddy bought her a diamond necklace, and a new sports car. The third girl responded with, "That's nice..."

The first asks, "Well, what did your Daddy do for you?"
The third replies, "He sent me to finishing school."

The second belle asks, "Finishing school? What did you need with finishing school after college?"
The third replies, "That's where they taught me to say 'That's nice...' instead of 'Fuck you.'"

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Southern manners? Passive aggressive bullying.

This.

The fake niceties are vomit worthy. Be real, be true and don't blanket your nastiness with catchy phrases that you call "politeness".

Part of the problem here is that you're assuming the niceties are fake. Usually, people see what they want to see. Your own beliefs and actions influence how you perceive others.