Anonymous wrote:Have you read the book Unorthodox? What are your thoughts?

I havent read it, but I read about it. She sounds like she had a very difficult life in a very insular community. People have difficult lives in every type of community.

Anonymous wrote:Question re intermarriage: would it be preferable for a Jewish man to not marry and have no children than to marry a shiksa?

It is preferable that a Jewish man marry a Jewish woman. There are no additional tiers of whats better or worse beyond that.

Anonymous wrote:I was speaking about pregnancy and conception and it was mentioned that that mother would know her due date better then her doctor would because she would know when she conceived. But there was also something said about seeing the rabbi afterwords (after she conceived?) like it had something to do with purity? Can you make sense of this?

There is no requirement to see a Rabbi after you have conceived. Women who practice the laws of ritual purity generally know when they conceive as there are only limited days each month when they are having sex.

Anonymous wrote:Why would you own a lingerie business but fire an employee for being too haut?
Fired for being "too hot," New Jersey woman claims
http://www.reuters.com/article/idUSBRE84K18220120521

Just because you sell lingerie, doesnt mean that its appropriate to dress provocatively in the workplace. I dont think the people who work at Playboy walk around the office naked (although I could e wrong). Offices are free to set whatever dress code they see fit and employees have to abide by that. If an orthodox jew went to work at Hooters and dressed all covered up, she'd probably get fired from there too.

Anonymous wrote: What are your thoughts on this recent rally?

http://jezebel.com/5912029/the-religious-fanatics-who-want-to-protect-men-from-women-online

I think it was a colassal waste of money and very ironic that a rally against the internet was livestreamed on twitter. I also think there are way more important issues plaguing both general society and the orthodox community. On the other hand, they werent hurting anyone, it wasnt a negative message, just one based in a deep-seated need for insulation and protection. They werent dictating what general society should do, just what other orthodox jews are obligated to do.

It also made me look a little at my own life and how I am consumed by social media and its hard for me to put down my phone/laptop and I should really make an effort to do so far more often - one of my favorite things about Shabbat (Sabbath) is that I see and talk with my friends in person, rather than in the digital world.

Why would you own a lingerie business but fire an employee for being too haut?
Fired for being "too hot," New Jersey woman claims
http://www.reuters.com/article/idUSBRE84K18220120521

Anonymous wrote:OP, thanks for this thread. You remind me of a friend of mine from school who was very open about being orthodox, and answered a lot of these questions for me and others very graciously. Our wedding was her and her husband's first non-Jewish wedding, and we provided a catered kosher meal for them and it was such a nice experience...I hope for everyone. That said, I know she was lonely here without a strong community like she had back home - they've since moved.

Anyway, my question is, do you ever feel left out or behind at work, since you can't do work on late Fridays or Saturdays and on many religious holidays, while your non-orthodox colleagues can? Do they resent picking up slack? Or does your job facilitate this kind of lifestyle? Thanks.

Thanks for liking the thread! I was surprised it as resurrected, but I'll go back and see if I can answer any of the recent questions.

I felt out when I was young and single, but now that I am married with kids, I do go out much and wouldnt work weekends anyway. My job also doesnt require it. DH often has deadlines and works late Saturday nights and Sundays to meet them. He's only had one boss who gave him a problem about leaving before sundown on Fridays (in the winter, it can be at 4:30 or even earlier), otherwise, everyone has been very understanding.

This thread makes me glad I am an atheist. I will be happy with whomever my children marry (re: religion), and they are free to practice any religion they choose.

OP, thanks for this thread. You remind me of a friend of mine from school who was very open about being orthodox, and answered a lot of these questions for me and others very graciously. Our wedding was her and her husband's first non-Jewish wedding, and we provided a catered kosher meal for them and it was such a nice experience...I hope for everyone. That said, I know she was lonely here without a strong community like she had back home - they've since moved.

Anyway, my question is, do you ever feel left out or behind at work, since you can't do work on late Fridays or Saturdays and on many religious holidays, while your non-orthodox colleagues can? Do they resent picking up slack? Or does your job facilitate this kind of lifestyle? Thanks.

What are your thoughts on this recent rally?

http://jezebel.com/5912029/the-religious-fanatics-who-want-to-protect-men-from-women-online

I was speaking about pregnancy and conception and it was mentioned that that mother would know her due date better then her doctor would because she would know when she conceived. But there was also something said about seeing the rabbi afterwords (after she conceived?) like it had something to do with purity? Can you make sense of this?

Question re intermarriage: would it be preferable for a Jewish man to not marry and have no children than to marry a shiksa?

Have you read the book Unorthodox? What are your thoughts?

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Anonymous wrote:How do you get through life without bacon or lobster?

I've had beef bacon and lamb bacon and wasnt really impressed with either. Lobsters and shrimp totally freak me out. I would really like to try a cheeseburger and a scallop. I watch all the cooking shows but I'd never be able to even try 99% of the food. Thats the real tragedy.

There's nothing like real bacon, unfortunately.


~ a poster who converted to Islam and dearly misses bacon.

If you get the turkey bacon really crispy it can come close...

Also, not being able to have sex during period (if that is what I am understanding correctly from the previous posts) and going to speak to a rabbi about it--how is it any of his business what a married couple does and how will anyone find out when in the cycle of a woman sex is had?