OP- If you are in FFX the Office for children has a subsidy program for childcare. If both kids go to school I think the county covers almost all. I'm surprised the school didnt sen a homebound teacher for the mom for the 6 weeks of school. I got 6 weeks of tutors that came to my house and I did make honor roll junior year BTW.

Anonymous wrote:I'd say you have a moral obligation to help your son, his partner, and the baby. The most important thing is the baby.

If I could help my kid get his act together, finish school, go to college, get a decent job, AND learn to be a good father, then, hell, I'd feel very proud. VERY proud.

Counselling, support, assistance. Yes. But you can put some very serious strings on everything, not to bend him or her to your will, but to help the kids make the best out of the situation.

Being a parent is no effin' joke. It is HARD. And being a teenager is HARD. Being a teen parent is insanely insanely HARD.

It is not all doom and gloom either.
And in a way we are meant to have children when we are young. Being a parent is wonderful. And it is great when you are young enough to enjoy a child that wants to go to the park to kick a ball with you. Not something a parent going through menopause would wish

Congrats OP! I'm definitely with you on how exhausting childcare can be. I did not meet my wife until we were both later in life (second marriage for her, but first for me). Due to various family issues, we had to wait to have children and we had our 13 month toddlers when we were in our late 40's (yes, I know that I'm old enough to be my children's grandfather, thankyouverymuch). It's a lot of work, exhausting, but so worth it. From someone who has been there, the road was long and hard. When it was finally right for us to have a family, we had many medical issues and it was an expensive and costly (in other ways) journey to get where we are. I'm so glad that both families are so supportive in carrying this baby to term and welcoming him into both families. This little guy is very lucky to have such a loving family.

OP, and the girl's parents kudos to all of you for making the best of a difficult situation. Are they still sexually active as a couple or have new partners? What happens if she gets pregnant again by your son or another boy,?

Anonymous wrote:
I agree with this. I would much rather have an abortion than to go through pregnancy and childbirth only to give the baby up myself, and if the girl strongly wishes to keep the baby, I would never "make" her give it up.

This is a happy thread and everything has worked out well for the OP. Take your blood thirsty rants somewhere else you selfish cow.

You'd rather kill a baby, than to let someone else have the chance to love it. Good for you. Go run over some puppies with your SUV and have a nice day.

I'd say you have a moral obligation to help your son, his partner, and the baby. The most important thing is the baby.

If I could help my kid get his act together, finish school, go to college, get a decent job, AND learn to be a good father, then, hell, I'd feel very proud. VERY proud.

Counselling, support, assistance. Yes. But you can put some very serious strings on everything, not to bend him or her to your will, but to help the kids make the best out of the situation.

Being a parent is no effin' joke. It is HARD. And being a teenager is HARD. Being a teen parent is insanely insanely HARD.

Congratulations, and hats off to all of you for handling this so well! Your kids (and grand-kid) are very lucky to have such wonderful supportive parents!

Anonymous wrote:OP here-

Thank you everyone for your well wishes. I am hopeful that all will work out for their little family. The little guy is adorable but I am tired. I forgot how much work newborns can be! All the grandparents are alternating taking time off from work to watch him until he is 6 weeks old and can go to daycare because we wanted the kids in school for the beginning of senior year. They say it takes a village and in our case, they are right.

Hats off to you guys. It will be a long road, but it will all be worth it.

-PP whose husband was a teen dad and graduated college with the support of his parents. DD (it looks like is on the path to do the same, hopefully sans baby this generation around!

OP here-

Thank you everyone for your well wishes. I am hopeful that all will work out for their little family. The little guy is adorable but I am tired. I forgot how much work newborns can be! All the grandparents are alternating taking time off from work to watch him until he is 6 weeks old and can go to daycare because we wanted the kids in school for the beginning of senior year. They say it takes a village and in our case, they are right.

OP - Thanks for the update! Please keep us posted.

Anonymous wrote:Well done OP to both families, sounds like you have done a great job being supportive of your children and your new grandchild!

+1

Well done OP to both families, sounds like you have done a great job being supportive of your children and your new grandchild!

People, this is an old thread that OP revived to give an update. OP, I am glad things are working out so well and wish you and your family the best.

To new posters: read OP's update in September: they had the baby and worked out living arrangements.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and I don't know what your financial situation is OP. I can pay for my kids' college but I wouldn't be able to pay for college and another $15,000 a year for day care. Id look into the financial benefits of having your son file to be an emancipated minor. That could be helpful for him in terms of financial aid in college.

Hello???? The kid is 18. He's not a minor. He cannot be emancipated. He is legally able to enter into contracts at age 18.

This kid is UNDER 18!!! Aren't people reading the posts?? OP said they are both 17, so no statutory rape there.