My mother and MIL both leave nearby. It's a power struggle. MIL always tries to usurp Mother's Day by sending a group text saying she is thinking of supper (her word, not mine) at her house. Then my mother texts me privately to either say no or that she wants to do the same thing at her house. Then I insist on a compromise, which is breakfast or lunch at a restaurant. It's exhausting because it happens at every holiday (except Thanksgiving/Christmas which are separate and alternated).

Bittttttter Old Betties! When my children have families of their own, I 100% hope their focus is on their own family on Mother's Day and on Father's Day. If they call me or send me a card, that would be lovely. If they sent me a small gift, that would be lovely, too.

I will always give them the gift of supporting their parenting journey and their marriage/partnership, without getting in the way or trying to make things about me.

I'm in my mid-40s, my kids are 10 and 12, and I've already had so many lovely Mother's Days! I don't need more more more forever.

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Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

When and where did it become young Mother’s Day?

When the old women start getting called grandmothers!

When a young woman becomes a parent, they become the center of the family and universe (in their mind).

As they should be, as they're taking care of the young. The whole purpose of any living creature is to procreate. It's only possible if you continue having offspring. The ones who take care of said offspring and continue the bloodline should be celebrated, because the survival of the offspring depends on them. These out of touch old women here who think they're the center of the universe are laughable. You're old news. If you drop dead tomorrow, nothing happens, life goes on. Many young families will be relieved they don't have to deal with you any more. However, if the parents of your grandkids drop dead tomorrow, what then? These old women would be happiest if they don't have any grandkids, as then they can keep demanding their adult kids circle around them ad infinitum.

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Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

When and where did it become young Mother’s Day?

When the old women start getting called grandmothers!

When a young woman becomes a parent, they become the center of the family and universe (in their mind).

0 star capability, 5 star aspirations.

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Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

When and where did it become young Mother’s Day?

Look up the definition of mothering. Mothering is the process of caring for children as their mother. This is what is done when the children are young. Once your children are adults, you're no longer mothering.

This is not Mothering Day, it is Mother's Day. .

However, I see you and I hear you. How about we make it into Breast-Feeding Mother's Day. Only celebrate moms who are breastfeeding their kids? Active mothering and active nursing?

Otherwise, include your Nanny and Daycare workers in the Mothering Day!! Because y'all are not taking care of your brats - someone else is.

Effing lunatic!!

Mother is the one who is mothering End of story. The same as runner is the one who is running, cook is the one who is cooking etc. If you cooked 50 years ago, doesn't mean you're still a cook!

Nope. You do not get to distort the universal truth because your life experiences has been not optimum and you are a toxic person. Maybe it works with your dumb family.

If it is the women who are providing care then all the childcare providers should also be celebrated. Because they are certainly doing more mothering that most mothers. And they are following at least some standard of care.

Happy Mother's Day to all the nannies, childcare providers, family members who are mothering, and mothers who are breastfeeding. All the adoptive moms, stepmoms, foster moms, got kid from rent-a-womb mom, give kids formula moms - should also be celebrated if there is some level of care providing.

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Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

When and where did it become young Mother’s Day?

When the old women start getting called grandmothers!

When a young woman becomes a parent, they become the center of the family and universe (in their mind).

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Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

The senior mothers are still yo mama. Even if you are someone's mama.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't read through this whole thread, only the first couple of pages, but OP, please think about how you will feel in 25 years when your kids do not want to visit you on Mother's Day. Have a little empathy. Or do you want to instill in your kids once they have their own family that they should not visit you on MD? And the fact that they are your in-laws should not matter. If you have sons, just think this one out. You reap what you sow.

If you have sons, the best you can do is teach them how to celebrate the mother of HIS children on Mother's Day. No, they should not visit you. They can visit you another day. You should not be so self-centered, needy and immature. It seems you lack empathy as you only care about yourself. You should do everything you can to make a memorable day possible for your DIL and DD instead. Obviously with women like you, demanding Mother's Day visits is just one example, and I'm sure there are many others where you make young family's life complicated, instead of offering support and understanding.

My grandmother would agree with this.

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Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

When and where did it become young Mother’s Day?

Look up the definition of mothering. Mothering is the process of caring for children as their mother. This is what is done when the children are young. Once your children are adults, you're no longer mothering.

I can only hope that the children of these people advocating only celebrating young mothers have the same level of disdain toward them as these mothers have for anyone not currently parenting a toddler.

My kids are young but I appreciate my mom now more than ever. I am truly starting to understand everything she did for me and my siblings.

It's not about disdain. What an immature take. It's about supporting young mothers who are in the process of mothering. Once you're old, you don't need to take attention away from young mothers, your mothering days are over. Instead, you should support the young mothers as a matriarch. Maybe your mother hasn't grown into the position of matriarch when it's not about you, but your legacy?

What’s ironic is that what’s most immature is going on and on about how Mother’s Day is only to celebrate mothers of children within a very small age range.

My mother and MIL have never once demanded anything from anyone on Mother’s Day and certainly have more of a legacy than being a mother. What an odd take some of the posters hating older women have.

Our family is happy to celebrate all of the mothers in it. Some of you have main character syndrome.