Anonymous
Post 12/27/2025 16:22     Subject: Perfect on paper guy but he’s…5’4

He's not really perfect on paper if he's 5'4.
No woman will respect or envy you when you walk down the aisle with him.
It would be a textbook case of settling if you go through with it and you will quickly begin to resent him.
You will be apprehensive about having kids with him because your kids will likely be short and disadvantaged in life, particularly if you have a son.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 22:36     Subject: Perfect on paper guy but he’s…5’4

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don't do affirmative action for men. He's not the perfect man. He's missing a key element important to you: height. Imagine if you were 250lbs, but everything else about you was unchanged. He wouldn't give you the time of day long enough to make out your hair color, much less actually date you long enough to think of you as the perfect woman who just happens to be fat. You'd just be another fat chick he passed on. He wouldn't feel a bit of guilt about it either because no one expects men to downgrade their standards.

Think of it this way: How mad would you be if this midget cheated on you? It would sting that much more because you lowered your standards for him. Yet, this guy is every bit as likely to cheat as his 6'4 counterpart because men don't do gratitude. Move on.


X 1,000. Would OP get called shallow if they were a man who didn’t want to date a 5’ 300 pound woman? People are attracted to what they’re attracted to. Short men are to women what fat women with small bust sizes and flat butts are to men. It is what it is. Deal.


And every single time this comes up - you can't change your height. You CAN change your weight/workout etc.

So what? Get in where you fit in. Your short ass doesn't fit in here.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 15:20     Subject: Perfect on paper guy but he’s…5’4

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don't do affirmative action for men. He's not the perfect man. He's missing a key element important to you: height. Imagine if you were 250lbs, but everything else about you was unchanged. He wouldn't give you the time of day long enough to make out your hair color, much less actually date you long enough to think of you as the perfect woman who just happens to be fat. You'd just be another fat chick he passed on. He wouldn't feel a bit of guilt about it either because no one expects men to downgrade their standards.

Think of it this way: How mad would you be if this midget cheated on you? It would sting that much more because you lowered your standards for him. Yet, this guy is every bit as likely to cheat as his 6'4 counterpart because men don't do gratitude. Move on.


X 1,000. Would OP get called shallow if they were a man who didn’t want to date a 5’ 300 pound woman? People are attracted to what they’re attracted to. Short men are to women what fat women with small bust sizes and flat butts are to men. It is what it is. Deal.


And every single time this comes up - you can't change your height. You CAN change your weight/workout etc.

Actually you can change your height with surgery, just as you’re suggesting with breast implants.


Not really. You’re comparing a relatively minor operation vs an extremely radical and painful one that also happens to be expensive, only adds 2-3 inches at best, and will cripple you for life.

Yes, 2-3 inches makes this factual.
No one actually thinks breast augmentation is a minor surgery. You just like boobs and are biased, you don’t actually care about the recovery or the woman behind them.


NP - Stop! please tell me how many breast augmentations there are vs these "height surgeries". You and other poster want to dig in an "win" an argument you can't win. You don't have to date short guys and that's your prerogative, but I still think you're an ahole for suggesting height alone is a disqualifier when it's literally the one thing that you can't change (the "height surgeries are total bs and not performed by any real Dr.)


Please. No surgery nor hundreds of surgeries can fix ugly. Look at Chloe kardashian. You’re just a hypocrite.

Furthermore even if you are short, if you are a man and have rizz and money, many women will date you. I’d suggest focusing your energy there instead mommy forums.

Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 14:34     Subject: Perfect on paper guy but he’s…5’4

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don't do affirmative action for men. He's not the perfect man. He's missing a key element important to you: height. Imagine if you were 250lbs, but everything else about you was unchanged. He wouldn't give you the time of day long enough to make out your hair color, much less actually date you long enough to think of you as the perfect woman who just happens to be fat. You'd just be another fat chick he passed on. He wouldn't feel a bit of guilt about it either because no one expects men to downgrade their standards.

Think of it this way: How mad would you be if this midget cheated on you? It would sting that much more because you lowered your standards for him. Yet, this guy is every bit as likely to cheat as his 6'4 counterpart because men don't do gratitude. Move on.


X 1,000. Would OP get called shallow if they were a man who didn’t want to date a 5’ 300 pound woman? People are attracted to what they’re attracted to. Short men are to women what fat women with small bust sizes and flat butts are to men. It is what it is. Deal.


And every single time this comes up - you can't change your height. You CAN change your weight/workout etc.

Actually you can change your height with surgery, just as you’re suggesting with breast implants.


Not really. You’re comparing a relatively minor operation vs an extremely radical and painful one that also happens to be expensive, only adds 2-3 inches at best, and will cripple you for life.

Yes, 2-3 inches makes this factual.
No one actually thinks breast augmentation is a minor surgery. You just like boobs and are biased, you don’t actually care about the recovery or the woman behind them.


NP - Stop! please tell me how many breast augmentations there are vs these "height surgeries". You and other poster want to dig in an "win" an argument you can't win. You don't have to date short guys and that's your prerogative, but I still think you're an ahole for suggesting height alone is a disqualifier when it's literally the one thing that you can't change (the "height surgeries are total bs and not performed by any real Dr.)

Height surgeries are real and exist. Your denial of reality doesn’t concern me. Sorry you’re short and don’t want to get surgery, but at least stop complaining that you have no options.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 14:07     Subject: Perfect on paper guy but he’s…5’4

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don't do affirmative action for men. He's not the perfect man. He's missing a key element important to you: height. Imagine if you were 250lbs, but everything else about you was unchanged. He wouldn't give you the time of day long enough to make out your hair color, much less actually date you long enough to think of you as the perfect woman who just happens to be fat. You'd just be another fat chick he passed on. He wouldn't feel a bit of guilt about it either because no one expects men to downgrade their standards.

Think of it this way: How mad would you be if this midget cheated on you? It would sting that much more because you lowered your standards for him. Yet, this guy is every bit as likely to cheat as his 6'4 counterpart because men don't do gratitude. Move on.


X 1,000. Would OP get called shallow if they were a man who didn’t want to date a 5’ 300 pound woman? People are attracted to what they’re attracted to. Short men are to women what fat women with small bust sizes and flat butts are to men. It is what it is. Deal.


And every single time this comes up - you can't change your height. You CAN change your weight/workout etc.

Actually you can change your height with surgery, just as you’re suggesting with breast implants.


Not really. You’re comparing a relatively minor operation vs an extremely radical and painful one that also happens to be expensive, only adds 2-3 inches at best, and will cripple you for life.

Yes, 2-3 inches makes this factual.
No one actually thinks breast augmentation is a minor surgery. You just like boobs and are biased, you don’t actually care about the recovery or the woman behind them.


NP - Stop! please tell me how many breast augmentations there are vs these "height surgeries". You and other poster want to dig in an "win" an argument you can't win. You don't have to date short guys and that's your prerogative, but I still think you're an ahole for suggesting height alone is a disqualifier when it's literally the one thing that you can't change (the "height surgeries are total bs and not performed by any real Dr.)
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 13:49     Subject: Re:Perfect on paper guy but he’s…5’4

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Never start or continue a romantic relationship w/a person that you are not physically attracted to.

It will NEVER bode well for the future in any way, shape or form.
Otherwise how would we differentiate between a friend + and lover??


But why couldn’t she settle? Neither of them are getting younger.

Why *should* she settle? Do you tell men to date fat ugly women and they should settle for them because they’re not getting younger?


Actually I do, because they are probably equally desirable this point.

Older men aren't a great catch unless they have a decent personality and a lot of money.

Someone who is 5'4" is pretty tall compared to someone who is 5'1". I would at least give it a shot if I was OP and see what happens.

Women don’t need to date people they aren’t attracted to because you think 3” is pretty big…
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 13:46     Subject: Re:Perfect on paper guy but he’s…5’4

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Never start or continue a romantic relationship w/a person that you are not physically attracted to.

It will NEVER bode well for the future in any way, shape or form.
Otherwise how would we differentiate between a friend + and lover??


But why couldn’t she settle? Neither of them are getting younger.

Why *should* she settle? Do you tell men to date fat ugly women and they should settle for them because they’re not getting younger?


Actually I do, because they are probably equally desirable this point.

Older men aren't a great catch unless they have a decent personality and a lot of money.

Someone who is 5'4" is pretty tall compared to someone who is 5'1". I would at least give it a shot if I was OP and see what happens.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 13:35     Subject: Re:Perfect on paper guy but he’s…5’4

I'm barely 5'. I got married at 33. So, maybe I might've felt differently if I were 39, but I also would not date a 5'4" man. I don't find short men attractive.

I'm sure there are average/tall men who don't find petite women like me attractive, either, and that's ok.

For every pot, there is a lid.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 12:30     Subject: Re:Perfect on paper guy but he’s…5’4

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Never start or continue a romantic relationship w/a person that you are not physically attracted to.

It will NEVER bode well for the future in any way, shape or form.
Otherwise how would we differentiate between a friend + and lover??


But why couldn’t she settle? Neither of them are getting younger.

Why *should* she settle? Do you tell men to date fat ugly women and they should settle for them because they’re not getting younger?
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 12:29     Subject: Perfect on paper guy but he’s…5’4

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don't do affirmative action for men. He's not the perfect man. He's missing a key element important to you: height. Imagine if you were 250lbs, but everything else about you was unchanged. He wouldn't give you the time of day long enough to make out your hair color, much less actually date you long enough to think of you as the perfect woman who just happens to be fat. You'd just be another fat chick he passed on. He wouldn't feel a bit of guilt about it either because no one expects men to downgrade their standards.

Think of it this way: How mad would you be if this midget cheated on you? It would sting that much more because you lowered your standards for him. Yet, this guy is every bit as likely to cheat as his 6'4 counterpart because men don't do gratitude. Move on.


X 1,000. Would OP get called shallow if they were a man who didn’t want to date a 5’ 300 pound woman? People are attracted to what they’re attracted to. Short men are to women what fat women with small bust sizes and flat butts are to men. It is what it is. Deal.


And every single time this comes up - you can't change your height. You CAN change your weight/workout etc.

Actually you can change your height with surgery, just as you’re suggesting with breast implants.


Not really. You’re comparing a relatively minor operation vs an extremely radical and painful one that also happens to be expensive, only adds 2-3 inches at best, and will cripple you for life.

Yes, 2-3 inches makes this factual.
No one actually thinks breast augmentation is a minor surgery. You just like boobs and are biased, you don’t actually care about the recovery or the woman behind them.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 09:15     Subject: Perfect on paper guy but he’s…5’4

Anonymous wrote:I met this great guy on the apps. Great career, smart and nice personality and emotionally available! however he’s 5’4.

I’m 5’1 and don’t find such short men to be attractive! We have great conversations and connect on a lot so I met him 3 times …but don’t know what to do now.


Is he well equipped in other places? It’s an honest question in less than honest times.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 08:25     Subject: Perfect on paper guy but he’s…5’4

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think MAGA women are the ones who come across as vain


Really? Care to re-think that??







Its kinda true lol
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 08:24     Subject: Re:Perfect on paper guy but he’s…5’4

Anonymous wrote:Never start or continue a romantic relationship w/a person that you are not physically attracted to.

It will NEVER bode well for the future in any way, shape or form.
Otherwise how would we differentiate between a friend + and lover??


But why couldn’t she settle? Neither of them are getting younger.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 05:22     Subject: Re:Perfect on paper guy but he’s…5’4

Never start or continue a romantic relationship w/a person that you are not physically attracted to.

It will NEVER bode well for the future in any way, shape or form.
Otherwise how would we differentiate between a friend + and lover??
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 00:34     Subject: Perfect on paper guy but he’s…5’4

Anonymous wrote:I met this great guy on the apps. Great career, smart and nice personality and emotionally available! however he’s 5’4.

I’m 5’1 and don’t find such short men to be attractive! We have great conversations and connect on a lot so I met him 3 times …but don’t know what to do now.


Move along. You don't like or want him.