Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm back with some updates. DD ended up Venmoing us the money back (so no jail), but unfortunately, she begged money from DS (who works a high-paying tech job in SF) to buy plane tickets for her to go to her roommates's parents' house over winter break (not OUR house). When I asked her why she wouldn't come to her own flesh and blood -- her family! -- over her friend's family for Christmas, she FLIPPED OUT at us and started cussing us out. She kept yelling at DH and I that we were "controlling her financially all throughout college by making college funding contingent on me attending church when I don't believe in God" and that we "only know how to control her financially and don't have any real relationship with your only daughter except for one that consists of financial control" and that we've "ruined her with generational trauma" and all this ridiculous psychobabble that she unfortunately has picked up from her therapist (who is convinced, wrongly, that we're the root of all of her problems, but I digress).

Oh, and she's still unemployed and "searching for a job." Like she has been since May

I emphasized to her that maybe 9 months of "searching for a job" has shown that her strategy has been ineffective, and she needs to go back to school for a more lucrative degree than her BA in English if she wants a chance of getting a normal office job. But she REFUSES, because she's entitled, delusional, and extremely narcissistic.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is her rent so expensive? She should move to a cheaper place or location if she can't find work other than as a barista.

Read the thread. She only pays $600 in rent. She STOLE 5 months’ worth of advance rent.

I don’t understand why people are coming to DD’s defense. OP may be problematic as a mom in many ways, but there is absolutely no excuse for stealing 5 months of rent in advance and then also paying for plane tickets.

My mother was an emotional black hole. So when I got away for college, I got AWAY. I drew boundaries. I didn’t steal from her.

OP may totally suck. But that doesn’t excuse the daughter’s crimes.

+1 I’m having a hard time deciding who I hate more. It’s neck and neck at this point

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is her rent so expensive? She should move to a cheaper place or location if she can't find work other than as a barista.

Read the thread. She only pays $600 in rent. She STOLE 5 months’ worth of advance rent.

I don’t understand why people are coming to DD’s defense. OP may be problematic as a mom in many ways, but there is absolutely no excuse for stealing 5 months of rent in advance and then also paying for plane tickets.

My mother was an emotional black hole. So when I got away for college, I got AWAY. I drew boundaries. I didn’t steal from her.

OP may totally suck. But that doesn’t excuse the daughter’s crimes.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm back with some updates. DD ended up Venmoing us the money back (so no jail), but unfortunately, she begged money from DS (who works a high-paying tech job in SF) to buy plane tickets for her to go to her roommates's parents' house over winter break (not OUR house). When I asked her why she wouldn't come to her own flesh and blood -- her family! -- over her friend's family for Christmas, she FLIPPED OUT at us and started cussing us out. She kept yelling at DH and I that we were "controlling her financially all throughout college by making college funding contingent on me attending church when I don't believe in God" and that we "only know how to control her financially and don't have any real relationship with your only daughter except for one that consists of financial control" and that we've "ruined her with generational trauma" and all this ridiculous psychobabble that she unfortunately has picked up from her therapist (who is convinced, wrongly, that we're the root of all of her problems, but I digress).

Oh, and she's still unemployed and "searching for a job." Like she has been since May

I emphasized to her that maybe 9 months of "searching for a job" has shown that her strategy has been ineffective, and she needs to go back to school for a more lucrative degree than her BA in English if she wants a chance of getting a normal office job. But she REFUSES, because she's entitled, delusional, and extremely narcissistic.