Anonymous wrote:Some of these have sleeves for the pearl clutchers:

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/kayla-maxi-dress-pino

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/roberta-dress-abr

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/esmee-dress-evegr

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/emilyn-dress-blk

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/iridessa-velvet-dress-dkpas

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/tabitha-mesh-ruched-midi-dress-sphre

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/tre-midi-dress-sltbn

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/chantae-dress-mrlt

I love the paisley midi-length one with the fringe.

Here are some options under $250
It’s not necessary to spend more than that.



https://www.nordstromrack.com/s/marina-sequin-lace-long-sleeve-gown/5988930

https://www.nordstromrack.com/s/marina-beaded-v-neck-gown/7712144

https://www.nordstromrack.com/s/marina-scallop-lace-sleeveless-midi-dress/7747830

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Anonymous wrote:Here, OP, a few more specifically within your price range.

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-diana-fishtail-gown-in-black-mesh-nude/dp/NKAM-WD430

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-x-revolve-v-neck-rectangle-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD228 - This one at least has shoulders covered

https://www.revolve.com/michael-costello-x-revolve-cabra-maxi-dress-in-blue/dp/MELR-WD1187

OP, I think you should do the second one here with the shoulders covered. It's modest but sexy, elegant but trendy, and I think it would look good on an hourglass figure with scrappy sandals and perfect hair/makeup.

Why is everyone trying to dress OP “modest”?????

It would seem strange to dress otherwise in a winter church wedding.

Read the OP …

I did read the OP. Do you think the reception means you shouldn’t dress appropriately in a church building?

Some of these have sleeves for the pearl clutchers:

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/kayla-maxi-dress-pino

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/roberta-dress-abr

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/esmee-dress-evegr

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/emilyn-dress-blk

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/iridessa-velvet-dress-dkpas

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/tabitha-mesh-ruched-midi-dress-sphre

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/tre-midi-dress-sltbn

https://retrofete.com/collections/dresses/products/chantae-dress-mrlt

Other than the girl who posted Revolve/Shopbop links and the girl who posted the long reformation gown, and the girl who posted the one cute Anthro dress, do the rest of you understand there's a happy medium between dressing like a stripper and dressing like an orthodox grandma?

The black one people like comes in other colors:https://retrofete.com/products/kylie-mesh-midi-dress-corbl

other ideas:

https://www.nordstromrack.com/s/love-by-design-off-the-shoulder-mesh-panel-bodycon-dress/6408465?color=NAVY+BLAZER&size=small&utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=seo_shopping&utm_channel=low_nd_seo_shopping&srsltid=AfmBOorePNABXyeGUcgOssgrypuMK0xqBdLSUPHKcXzfmWBabbVfmhX9UPs

https://www.missmatchsd.com/products/margot-long-sleeve-mesh-bodycon-midi-dress-navy?variant=43446198173798&country=US¤cy=USD&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&srsltid=AfmBOor5HQSTDGnrZqoNqz0d3JhX_yaW-d_jv-gzNm_P6dajX_ACEfKeVGo

https://www.revolve.com/afrm-biona-maxi-dress-in-dark-clay/dp/AFFM-WD333/?d=F&tCurrency=USD&tCountryCode=US&tCurrency=USD&tCountryCode=US&deeplink=true&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=PMax:+Product+Listing+Ads+-+PLA+-+Smart+Shopping+-+Best+Sellers&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20278983060&gbraid=0AAAAAD9qhJjMQ8_8kJi3xsKRulkJupppV&gclid=Cj0KCQiAiKzIBhCOARIsAKpKLANiwDILdTsYtqZVmol-5uapk5qkH-WlGR_qodSW07KbjZPjF2S6uuMaAkxwEALw_wcB

https://www.pippaandpearl.com/products/mauve-mock-neck-sheer-mix-mesh-bodycon-midi-dress?variant=41641826451523¤cy=USD%3D+&utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=shopping&utm_content=Melissa+Mock+Neck+Sheer+Mix+Mesh+Bodycon+Midi+Dress&srsltid=AfmBOorDWBoWSqb98OySyei1VahfHHFIbPMRJ-r7WLgU_wr2Xt5L3s5-dg8

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Anonymous wrote:Okay how do the naysayers feel about heading in this direction:

https://www.neimanmarcus.com/p/seroya-kylie-mesh-midi-dress-prod281850006?pimId=401258908214&site_refer=SOC_BEH_NMG_KC_FBIG_Sales_Q325_MultiOmniOptimization_Broad_AutoP_oCPM_SingleImage_SAID%3D6877967516545&utm_medium=paid&utm_source=fb&utm_id=6865925026145&utm_content=6877967516545&utm_term=6877967515345&utm_campaign=6865925026145&fbclid=IwY2xjawN4m2dleHRuA2FlbQEwAGFkaWQAAAZBdpEIwXNydGMGYXBwX2lkEDIyMjAzOTE3ODgyMDA4OTIAAR7zINWhL9DHvVWNrfT75z8s70NlRfhir2QH28xL5v79lZYf0Q6I700AVeD74A_aem_J--4LmqAl2OUW8w8nuGr-A

I like this a lot. It is very sexy but doesn’t scream “look at me,” and also appropriate for the event/venue.

https://ta3swim.com/products/sweetie-mesh-column-dress-soft-tropical

You have got to be kidding me. What about that says appropriate for a church ceremony and swanky restaurant reception?

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Anonymous wrote:Okay how do the naysayers feel about heading in this direction:

https://www.neimanmarcus.com/p/seroya-kylie-mesh-midi-dress-prod281850006?pimId=401258908214&site_refer=SOC_BEH_NMG_KC_FBIG_Sales_Q325_MultiOmniOptimization_Broad_AutoP_oCPM_SingleImage_SAID%3D6877967516545&utm_medium=paid&utm_source=fb&utm_id=6865925026145&utm_content=6877967516545&utm_term=6877967515345&utm_campaign=6865925026145&fbclid=IwY2xjawN4m2dleHRuA2FlbQEwAGFkaWQAAAZBdpEIwXNydGMGYXBwX2lkEDIyMjAzOTE3ODgyMDA4OTIAAR7zINWhL9DHvVWNrfT75z8s70NlRfhir2QH28xL5v79lZYf0Q6I700AVeD74A_aem_J--4LmqAl2OUW8w8nuGr-A

I like this a lot. It is very sexy but doesn’t scream “look at me,” and also appropriate for the event/venue.

https://ta3swim.com/products/sweetie-mesh-column-dress-soft-tropical

No. The dress from Neiman Marcus is sexy but modest enough for a wedding. What you posted looks like something a hooker would wear.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay how do the naysayers feel about heading in this direction:

https://www.neimanmarcus.com/p/seroya-kylie-mesh-midi-dress-prod281850006?pimId=401258908214&site_refer=SOC_BEH_NMG_KC_FBIG_Sales_Q325_MultiOmniOptimization_Broad_AutoP_oCPM_SingleImage_SAID%3D6877967516545&utm_medium=paid&utm_source=fb&utm_id=6865925026145&utm_content=6877967516545&utm_term=6877967515345&utm_campaign=6865925026145&fbclid=IwY2xjawN4m2dleHRuA2FlbQEwAGFkaWQAAAZBdpEIwXNydGMGYXBwX2lkEDIyMjAzOTE3ODgyMDA4OTIAAR7zINWhL9DHvVWNrfT75z8s70NlRfhir2QH28xL5v79lZYf0Q6I700AVeD74A_aem_J--4LmqAl2OUW8w8nuGr-A

I like this a lot. It is very sexy but doesn’t scream “look at me,” and also appropriate for the event/venue.

https://ta3swim.com/products/sweetie-mesh-column-dress-soft-tropical

Anonymous wrote:Okay how do the naysayers feel about heading in this direction:

https://www.neimanmarcus.com/p/seroya-kylie-mesh-midi-dress-prod281850006?pimId=401258908214&site_refer=SOC_BEH_NMG_KC_FBIG_Sales_Q325_MultiOmniOptimization_Broad_AutoP_oCPM_SingleImage_SAID%3D6877967516545&utm_medium=paid&utm_source=fb&utm_id=6865925026145&utm_content=6877967516545&utm_term=6877967515345&utm_campaign=6865925026145&fbclid=IwY2xjawN4m2dleHRuA2FlbQEwAGFkaWQAAAZBdpEIwXNydGMGYXBwX2lkEDIyMjAzOTE3ODgyMDA4OTIAAR7zINWhL9DHvVWNrfT75z8s70NlRfhir2QH28xL5v79lZYf0Q6I700AVeD74A_aem_J--4LmqAl2OUW8w8nuGr-A

I like this a lot. It is very sexy but doesn’t scream “look at me,” and also appropriate for the event/venue.

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Anonymous wrote:Here, OP, a few more specifically within your price range.

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-diana-fishtail-gown-in-black-mesh-nude/dp/NKAM-WD430

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-x-revolve-v-neck-rectangle-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD228 - This one at least has shoulders covered

https://www.revolve.com/michael-costello-x-revolve-cabra-maxi-dress-in-blue/dp/MELR-WD1187

OP, I think you should do the second one here with the shoulders covered. It's modest but sexy, elegant but trendy, and I think it would look good on an hourglass figure with scrappy sandals and perfect hair/makeup.

Why is everyone trying to dress OP “modest”?????

Because this forum is filled with 50 year old women who weren't fashionable when they were 30, and mostly just troll the Beauty and Fashion Forum to, ironically, tell every poster that you shouldn't try to dress fashionably or flatteringly, but instead should aspire to not care about fashion at all. Mostly, they seem to think that wanting to look nice is a vice.

I've spent a lot of time on the dcum fashion forum over many many years, not because i've ever gotten any fashion advice, but because these nutty frumps are just as entertaining as the Relationships forum.

Yeah I'm always astounded at the frumpy recommendations. None of these will impress men. Men like dresses that the women here would hate-- cocktail mini sheaths, bandage dresses. Leaving nothing to the imagination. Think of a sorority party in 2006 and wear that.

this is why several of us suggested Reformation dresses

Except you suggested the frumpiest dress on reformations website

this is what I suggested : https://www.thereformation.com/products/briony-dress/1317086OXE.html?dwvar_1317086OXE_color=OXE

Posters have criticized it as too summery (I don’t agree) and not enough structure (I also don’t agree, and if one has a problem area, just wear some shapewear) but no one called it frumpy. I also suggested that OP peruse the Reformation website since she knows what styles look best on her, and to bring her BF with her and try some on to get a man’s opinion. But you know better.

That one is OK but maxi dress with a big floral pattern can definitely read as frumpy even with that neckline.

omg, i swear some posters just want to jump in to critique anything - the floral is just one of the colorways, it comes in several solid colors, too.

Anonymous wrote:OP, what are your thoughts on all these?

OP hasn't posted in days because everyone arguing over an Adrianna Effing Papell dress in the year of our lord 2025 probably scared her off.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay how do the naysayers feel about heading in this direction:

https://www.neimanmarcus.com/p/seroya-kylie-mesh-midi-dress-prod281850006?pimId=401258908214&site_refer=SOC_BEH_NMG_KC_FBIG_Sales_Q325_MultiOmniOptimization_Broad_AutoP_oCPM_SingleImage_SAID%3D6877967516545&utm_medium=paid&utm_source=fb&utm_id=6865925026145&utm_content=6877967516545&utm_term=6877967515345&utm_campaign=6865925026145&fbclid=IwY2xjawN4m2dleHRuA2FlbQEwAGFkaWQAAAZBdpEIwXNydGMGYXBwX2lkEDIyMjAzOTE3ODgyMDA4OTIAAR7zINWhL9DHvVWNrfT75z8s70NlRfhir2QH28xL5v79lZYf0Q6I700AVeD74A_aem_J--4LmqAl2OUW8w8nuGr-A

Yep!!

I am the PP of the 1-shoulder green anthro dress people liked as well as this bodycon dress. To me, this body con dress is so boring and expected, where as I think the anthro one is turn-heads stunning. IMO, the bodycon dress, depending on the wedding of course, will make you disappear into the crowd it's so boring. I also posted a few of the silky options, one from reformation with a very low back, because I think that's a good middle ground, but those got a lot of flack. Ultimately, OP needs to weigh in here to give some direction. Is your goal here how skanky am I allowed to dress at a nice wedding? Or do you want more of a show stopping dress that gets attention in a more sophisticated way?

Anonymous wrote:Okay how do the naysayers feel about heading in this direction:

https://www.neimanmarcus.com/p/seroya-kylie-mesh-midi-dress-prod281850006?pimId=401258908214&site_refer=SOC_BEH_NMG_KC_FBIG_Sales_Q325_MultiOmniOptimization_Broad_AutoP_oCPM_SingleImage_SAID%3D6877967516545&utm_medium=paid&utm_source=fb&utm_id=6865925026145&utm_content=6877967516545&utm_term=6877967515345&utm_campaign=6865925026145&fbclid=IwY2xjawN4m2dleHRuA2FlbQEwAGFkaWQAAAZBdpEIwXNydGMGYXBwX2lkEDIyMjAzOTE3ODgyMDA4OTIAAR7zINWhL9DHvVWNrfT75z8s70NlRfhir2QH28xL5v79lZYf0Q6I700AVeD74A_aem_J--4LmqAl2OUW8w8nuGr-A

Yep!!

OP, what are your thoughts on all these?