Anonymous
Post 06/05/2025 05:27     Subject: Re:Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
Anonymous wrote:I'd be concerned that he has a history of cheating and using sex to cope. This isn't something that just disappears. Is he doing anything to address the root cause of why this happened? Because just avoiding sex doesn't really address the root of the problem.

Also, if he’s saying he doesn’t want to get married for several years and is already putting major restrictions on intimacy, it sounds like a relationship where his needs and timeline are being prioritized—not yours. That kind of dynamic can easily become one-sided. Too much compromising on your end. I think you can do better.


This.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2025 00:26     Subject: Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
If he was truthful about this he would be concerned about sex during the marriage and want to address it after having a sex addiction and he'd not have this long timetable. He'd be interested in preparing himself for marriage.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2025 00:01     Subject: Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Who wants to get married without sampling the goods?


Plenty of people, for a variety of reasons. Not everyone is a slut (not that there's anything wrong with being a slut, but not everyone is).


Can we stop with this? Ok, so he wants to save himself after sleeping with others? He is a weirdo. Move on. And no slut shaming is NOT ok. For men or women. Sex should be a postive thing with two consenting adults.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2025 23:18     Subject: Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Who wants to get married without sampling the goods?

People with morals


it’s 2025. Give me a break.

You bible thumpers live in your own world. Maybe the evangelical women stay in it, but the men eventually need a release.


Neither men nor women "need" other humans to provide "a release".


Says the person that has never had great sex or is not sexual. Being sexual is a natural part of being a human being.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2025 23:15     Subject: Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Who wants to get married without sampling the goods?

People with morals


it’s 2025. Give me a break.

You bible thumpers live in your own world. Maybe the evangelical women stay in it, but the men eventually need a release.


Neither men nor women "need" other humans to provide "a release".
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2025 23:14     Subject: Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
Anonymous wrote:If a young man isn't sexual he is weak/gay/weird. When the same man gets to 50 and has ED issues he is no longer desired.


And we wonder why men are angry af and most of them understand the incel mentality, or even outright subscribe to it
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2025 23:02     Subject: Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
Anonymous wrote:If a young man isn't sexual he is weak/gay/weird. When the same man gets to 50 and has ED issues he is no longer desired.


Yup
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2025 23:02     Subject: Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Who wants to get married without sampling the goods?

People with morals


it’s 2025. Give me a break.

You bible thumpers live in your own world. Maybe the evangelical women stay in it, but the men eventually need a release.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2025 22:43     Subject: Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
If a young man isn't sexual he is weak/gay/weird. When the same man gets to 50 and has ED issues he is no longer desired.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2025 22:42     Subject: Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
Anonymous wrote:Maybe he is gay and just scared to admit it?


Why are there some people who can't wait to spit out "he's gay"? It's so bizarre.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2025 22:27     Subject: Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Who wants to get married without sampling the goods?

People with morals

Fools.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2025 21:53     Subject: Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
Anonymous wrote:Who wants to get married without sampling the goods?


Plenty of people, for a variety of reasons. Not everyone is a slut (not that there's anything wrong with being a slut, but not everyone is).
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2025 21:35     Subject: Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
Anonymous wrote:Who wants to get married without sampling the goods?

People with morals
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2025 21:32     Subject: Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
This is really going to hurt when you find out he’s relapsed along the course of your engagement.

I think this is one to let go. Throw him back into the pond.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2025 21:01     Subject: Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Maybe he is gay and just scared to admit it?


He is not gay. He said he used sex a lot as an escape and decided he would celibate until marriage.


wtf OP troll.

What was he escaping from?

How much sex was he previously having, and with whom?

When did this celibacy thing start?


I’m not a troll.

To answer your questions

He said he used sex an escape. When he was happy, bored, or stressed. He slept with a lot of random women. Lots of one night stands and casual sex. He’s cheated. He even slept with married women in the past. He said his body count is 100+. He just did it because it was there.

He had a std scare and that whipped him into shape. Then a family loss. He decided he didn’t want to live his life like that. He decided he wanted to wait for marriage because he made a choice to reserve sex the way god intended. He wants to be in love and do it the right away.



This all came after he decided to turn to the faith he was raised in. He has since found god and the right way. He wants to live the way god intended.


What faith is it that teaches chastity through a TWO TO THREE YEAR interval before marriage?

This man is bs’ing you, OP. I don’t know what part of it is BS, exactly, but there is BS here.