You are clearly insane. Please do this man a favor and drop him before he gets too attached only to find out later how crazy and shallow you are.

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Am I crazy for this bothering me? Nice date and he pays. He uses a metallic card which caught my eye because it had shiny eye-catching flowers on it. I say that's a really pretty card, even the waitress noted it's a pretty card. I think he was embarrassed by us calling it pretty, because it's sort of feminine? Instead of admitting he ordered it, his face turned a little red and he says it's just the replacement version they sent them. I don't know if the feminine card bothered me or just his lack of agency. Whatever the case it's been bothering me all week.

You are not crazy for letting this bother you.

You are emotionally very immature and should be dating until you become more of an adult.

Making fun of a man (or, in the case of your target market, a boy) for having something that you perceive as "feminine" should have been left behind in grammar school.

This.

Do y'all have eyes? There's no perception, it is objectively a feminine card.

Do you know what that word even means? Do you know that pink used to be the color for boys and blue for girls? Do you know that it’s insanely misogynistic to believe that feminine things are inferior and stupid and not meant for men? This board makes me fear for humanity as much as watching Fox News does sometimes.

DP, but when and where was this. Genuinely curious.

I remember learning how high-heels were originally for European male royalty, so they could tower above their subjects while holding court, and was like "wow that's a plot twist!" but never heard about pink/blue thing. Purple was reserved for royalty as well. Commoners could be put to death for wearing purple in the past.

In the U.S. up until just before WWII, pink was absolutely a boy color. Source: father who was born in 1931 and wore pink as a baby and small child.

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Am I crazy for this bothering me? Nice date and he pays. He uses a metallic card which caught my eye because it had shiny eye-catching flowers on it. I say that's a really pretty card, even the waitress noted it's a pretty card. I think he was embarrassed by us calling it pretty, because it's sort of feminine? Instead of admitting he ordered it, his face turned a little red and he says it's just the replacement version they sent them. I don't know if the feminine card bothered me or just his lack of agency. Whatever the case it's been bothering me all week.

You are not crazy for letting this bother you.

You are emotionally very immature and should be dating until you become more of an adult.

Making fun of a man (or, in the case of your target market, a boy) for having something that you perceive as "feminine" should have been left behind in grammar school.

This.

Do y'all have eyes? There's no perception, it is objectively a feminine card.

Do you know what that word even means? Do you know that pink used to be the color for boys and blue for girls? Do you know that it’s insanely misogynistic to believe that feminine things are inferior and stupid and not meant for men? This board makes me fear for humanity as much as watching Fox News does sometimes.

I’m a marketing executive. Such a design is targeting women. Period.

This thread is making me laugh out loud. My DH has that card. He works closely with American Express at another large corporation, and he was encouraged to select from a few design choices when they were preparing to launch the flower one. My DD was early elementary at the time and so he let her pick, and he lectured her about visual brand identity and design cues. She didn’t listen to anything he said and chose the flowers.

It’s funny when he uses it because he’s a very strait laced, conformist person and his card doesn’t match his personality at all. At restaurants where they take away your card and bring it back for split checks, the waiters often pause before giving it to him. It looks like something a 7 year old would choose. Because one did.

Also it’s weirdly heavy and that bothers me.

Double check that your date does not have a 7 year old daughter that he isn’t telling you about.

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DCUM always tries to zag for an excuse to attack an OP. This shiny flowery Amex is a feminine girly card. He picked this card, which is abnormal but fine. Not fine is lying about picking the card and acting weird after compliments. Casually lying on a first date and becoming defensive and insecure over nothing are huge red flags.

My DH selected this card because of the artist rendering. We want to support the artist. But we're black so I guess it's fine.

Maybe your DH is down low.

lol

Anonymous wrote:It’s his mom’s card. Obviously

My first thought was his wife picked out & ordered the cards

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Anonymous wrote:He was probably surprised he was on a date with a LMC female who didn't know what a Platinum Card is and who has them. Was she the one asking about "cash back" lol. He realized she was a Discover Card date. 👻

It's a weird flex for a man though. Says he cannot gather wealth and must borrow it.

Tell me you aren't a Platinum Card holder without..

You pay it off in full. Each month. And get the points, lounges, etc. Cash doesn't do that.

Anonymous wrote:When little things like this bug you about a date, it's a sign you aren't particularly interested in them. If this was a guy that you were excited to see, you would have laughed and moved on or not noticed at all.

Getting "the ick" is just your brain looking for reasons to stop seeing someone. But here's the trick: you don't need a reason! You don't have to date anyone you're not excited about! But try not to be a child and create a narrative where he was feminine or insufficiently owning up to some flaw so that no longer seeing him is somehow his "fault." It's not, you're just not feeling him. Take ownership of your own lack of interest, and move on.

Brilliant post. Release the poor guy, OP. He deserves to be with someone who’s thrilled to be with him.

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lol I think he was embarrassed for you because you didn’t realize it was an Amex Platinum. They don’t hand these out to everyone. The annual fee is $700.

That's just crazy. What is the advantage of that? Do you get more cash back or something? If so it's a push unless you use it a lot.
Many places don't like taking Amex either cause they have to pay higher fees as vendors.

I have this same card, flowers and all. It’s a great travel card.
Advantages are it pays for our clear membership, airline credit, uber credit, lounges (including two guests - sadly not OP), credit towards streaming services plus earn points. It’s an expensive and desirable card and the guy was probably surprised to be teased about it.

When was the guy teased?

The insecure guy got embarrassed when two women called his pretty credit card pretty. That is not being teased, that’s a compliment.

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Am I crazy for this bothering me? Nice date and he pays. He uses a metallic card which caught my eye because it had shiny eye-catching flowers on it. I say that's a really pretty card, even the waitress noted it's a pretty card. I think he was embarrassed by us calling it pretty, because it's sort of feminine? Instead of admitting he ordered it, his face turned a little red and he says it's just the replacement version they sent them. I don't know if the feminine card bothered me or just his lack of agency. Whatever the case it's been bothering me all week.

You are not crazy for letting this bother you.

You are emotionally very immature and should be dating until you become more of an adult.

Making fun of a man (or, in the case of your target market, a boy) for having something that you perceive as "feminine" should have been left behind in grammar school.

This.

Do y'all have eyes? There's no perception, it is objectively a feminine card.

Do you know what that word even means? Do you know that pink used to be the color for boys and blue for girls? Do you know that it’s insanely misogynistic to believe that feminine things are inferior and stupid and not meant for men? This board makes me fear for humanity as much as watching Fox News does sometimes.

I’m a marketing executive. Such a design is targeting women. Period.

I get it OP. I once stopped seeing a guy because he wore hideous sandals to our date and had troll feet. The ick is millions of years of evolution keeping us safe. It's not just the card or the sandals. It's multiple tiny data points that culminate in some seemingly petty detail that gives us the ick. Trust your instincts.

So stay safe and drop him. Simple.

Why post about it?

Anonymous wrote:He was probably surprised he was on a date with a LMC female who didn't know what a Platinum Card is and who has them. Was she the one asking about "cash back" lol. He realized she was a Discover Card date. 👻

+1. Lipstick on a pig.

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Anonymous wrote:He was probably surprised he was on a date with a LMC female who didn't know what a Platinum Card is and who has them. Was she the one asking about "cash back" lol. He realized she was a Discover Card date. 👻

It's a weird flex for a man though. Says he cannot gather wealth and must borrow it.

You don't use credit cards? Smart people use credit cards and pay them off every month.

Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. I once stopped seeing a guy because he wore hideous sandals to our date and had troll feet. The ick is millions of years of evolution keeping us safe. It's not just the card or the sandals. It's multiple tiny data points that culminate in some seemingly petty detail that gives us the ick. Trust your instincts

What does evolution have to do with a design on a Platinum AMEX?

Anonymous wrote:He was probably surprised he was on a date with a LMC female who didn't know what a Platinum Card is and who has them. Was she the one asking about "cash back" lol. He realized she was a Discover Card date. 👻

It's a weird flex for a man though. Says he cannot gather wealth and must borrow it.

He was probably surprised he was on a date with a LMC female who didn't know what a Platinum Card is and who has them. Was she the one asking about "cash back" lol. He realized she was a Discover Card date. 👻