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I took advantage of a "Valentine's Day offer" and bought myself stuff from Dior, then announced to my husband this afternoon that his gift was being delivered today. I will order sushi for tomorrow and we'll have a nice family dinner at home. He's relieved with this arrangement. It's been going on for years.

Life can be very simple if you make it so.

My god this soynds so pretentious!

I buy from Dior about once every 10 years, PP. I don't think I'm very pretentious. If you substitute your favorite thing you were planning to buy anyway, but take advantage of a little discount or bundle of services for Valentine's Day... is that really pretentious?

No.

But buying yourself something expensive that you wouldn’t otherwise buy, instead of your spouse buying it, and thinking you have a Valentine’s Day present, is really sad and depressing. The fact that it’s Dior doesn’t make it any less so.

Anonymous wrote:Married 25 years. Dh is sick this weekend and I’m handling all kid stuff plus have a super busy job so realized Friday I didn’t have a card but didn’t sweat it. Took kid to all day sports event yesterday and came home and dh had made a heart shaped cake with pink frosting - my favorite. He felt bad he was sick. No cards no gifts. we usually but not always do cards but no one cares if we don’t. I made our 20 year tradition of old El Paso tacos, which we started because we had no money. We both separately make over seven figures now, but not into junk. We always get each other nice gifts for bdays and Xmas, but even then we’ve never been a house where the man buys his wife obligatory expensive things to show his love. We’re pretty good about doing kind acts for each other daily. Had nothing been done yesterday, I would not have batted an eye, but the cake warmed my heart a little.

Anonymous wrote:My fed husband is going on a job interview tomorrow evening. As far as I’m concerned, that’s the best gift I could have received.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s the same if you have to send your husband a link to get you flowers. That’s almost worse than nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it everyone gets super defensive about how Valentines is made up but still gets gifts of Christmas (“made up” gifting) birthdays (“made up” gifting) and gives out candy on Halloween (incredibly “made up” candy gifting!). A made up holiday which celebrates your partner is a million times better than any of the above.

We get small, meaningful things (I suspect I’m getting a silver photo frame of a photo he took on a trip recently) but we would never miss the opportunity.

Not "everyone" gets super defensive about how Valentine's is made up, lol. It's just the people who either 1) have no one because they can't get anyone, or 2) have someone who doesn't really even like them all that much and therefore isn't going to get them sh!t.

The people pounding away at their keyboards about flowers being "so overpriced"? They have a DH who won't get them anything but will spend the evening in the basement leaning into his identity as a super-wizard on some online game -- probably all night because he doesn't have to get up because he's unemployed.

Anonymous wrote:I think dh and I went out on our first valentines in the same city. We were so poor I doubt we even ordered wine. We’ve been eating old El Paso veggie tacos every year since. We usually exchange a card. I think he forgot last year and no hard feelings. Going on 25 years strong. We are very doting on each other through the year - not materially though. Just with kindness.

Anonymous wrote:Me. He will be spending all his efforts on his affair partner/ girlfriend.

I’ll be spending mine having a wonderful day with my DD and enjoying my own peace.

Anonymous wrote:He’ll probably give me something small when we land in St Barts.