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Anonymous wrote:Ah. This brings back memories. Of the BF's dad and stepmom who warned him that I was "a nobody" who was "beautiful but going nowhere." The bf was selling houses (new home sales, didn't even have a realtor's license) for context.

I was trying to figure out what to do in my late 20s and was modeling a tiny bit (I never got much work, but got some) and cocktail waitressing in a club on weekends. After he broke up with me I ended up going to law school, have had an amazing career, and made a lot of money. He's now divorced from a woman he met at a Pizza Hut and has had a string of long-term GFs since, none of them particularly impressive career-wise. I follow it on FB and laugh.

My niece has been modeling since toddler-hood and at 27 owns a house in LA. No college. Straight A's from private school K-12. Her mom (my gorgeous sister) paid for that schooling with her cocktail waitressing job in Vegas. She has 160 college credits, 3.8GPA while working full-time but no degree.

Some people have no clue there are imaginative ways of life to be successful.

I don’t understand the comment.

Everyone knows you can become a multi millionaire as an actor, but less than 1% achieve that status.

Same for musicians, models and other similar professions. College doesn’t help you in any way in these professions, so nobody cares about it.

I will comment that rarely do successful artists want their kids to pursue the same path with no college. Hence why Paltrow’s kids are in college…Affleck’s kids…etc.

They realize how hard a business it is and how unique a person you need to be successful.

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Is it money or career that bothers you?

My son's girlfriend is getting her PHD in art history. She said she would never make more than 50K in her life. I found it refreshing.

Possibly it’s just lack of any fire/ambition while young.

There are of course a number of Art History PhD’s that make more than $50k…my cousin who is a university professor is one. Not that they are getting filthy rich, but they now have tenure.

I get that jobs in Art History that pay a ton aren’t just sitting there…but it seems odd to aim low at so young.

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Anonymous wrote:I always made less money than my husband, but I was a better investor, and always saved more (before we married and after). I have more money in my IRA accounts than he does.

It doesn't matter to me because we've been married for a while and we each have our strengths. MIL has no clue about our finances, but maybe she complains to her friends that I'm not her son's financial equal!

Having less money is one thing. Not having career goals to be able to stand on your own two feet is another.

Raising a family is a career.

+100
Loving children into responsible adults is a very meaningful and important career.

You need to look up what the word means.

I think raising a child is the most important role that one can take on.

It is not a career, however. And it is not a full time job for very long (unless you are really trying to milk it).

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Anonymous wrote:How would you feel about your son (who has a semi lucrative career but nothing crazy) marrying a woman who is college educated but makes close to minimum wage in her late 20’s? This is my son. She’s pretty and nice but has no career or money of her own. They’re both the same age.

Tell him to prepare to toil until he drops dead. She will stop working the remaining of his days the minute that pregnancy test pops positive. Probably demand 3-4 kids so "it would be too expensive to go back to work".

Her plan is man, which, in this case, is your son.

+1 I tell both my kids -- DS and DD-- that a man is not a plan.

I would seriously be worried for my DS in this situation. If the situation was reversed, everyone on here would call the underemployed man a bum.

-signed a mom

Wish someone would start a thread with DD with a lucrative career marrying a man making minimum wage to see the differences in response.

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Anonymous wrote:How would you feel about your son (who has a semi lucrative career but nothing crazy) marrying a woman who is college educated but makes close to minimum wage in her late 20’s? This is my son. She’s pretty and nice but has no career or money of her own. They’re both the same age.

Tell him to prepare to toil until he drops dead. She will stop working the remaining of his days the minute that pregnancy test pops positive. Probably demand 3-4 kids so "it would be too expensive to go back to work".

Her plan is man, which, in this case, is your son.

+1 I tell both my kids -- DS and DD-- that a man is not a plan.

I would seriously be worried for my DS in this situation. If the situation was reversed, everyone on here would call the underemployed man a bum.

-signed a mom

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Anonymous wrote:Ah. This brings back memories. Of the BF's dad and stepmom who warned him that I was "a nobody" who was "beautiful but going nowhere." The bf was selling houses (new home sales, didn't even have a realtor's license) for context.

I was trying to figure out what to do in my late 20s and was modeling a tiny bit (I never got much work, but got some) and cocktail waitressing in a club on weekends. After he broke up with me I ended up going to law school, have had an amazing career, and made a lot of money. He's now divorced from a woman he met at a Pizza Hut and has had a string of long-term GFs since, none of them particularly impressive career-wise. I follow it on FB and laugh.

My niece has been modeling since toddler-hood and at 27 owns a house in LA. No college. Straight A's from private school K-12. Her mom (my gorgeous sister) paid for that schooling with her cocktail waitressing job in Vegas. She has 160 college credits, 3.8GPA while working full-time but no degree.

Some people have no clue there are imaginative ways of life to be successful.

Who's gonna tell her?

Anonymous wrote:I am a former private school teacher, now doing something else. I only took two years off to sah, but I have always been a very low earner. I'm also a frugal diy type of person, my job provides us with health insurance, and I have always been very helpful to my dh's career, managing all kid responsibilities so he was free to work long hours when he needed to to advance his career (he has much more flexibility now). My feeling is that income is only a part of finances for a couple. How you spend and how you save matter just as much. And of course that is only the financial part of a marriage. There is so much more to it.

Anonymous wrote:So confused
Are yall rich? Does he make good money?

She’s going to end up being a SHM anyway

What’s the problem?