Anonymous
07/22/2024 22:27
Subject: Re:At a breaking point in nearly sexless marriage
*Sorry wife (?)
Anonymous
07/22/2024 22:21
Subject: At a breaking point in nearly sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Open marriage. Easy solution.
Do you know anyone who has had an open marriage that lasted longer than 18 months (other than gay men)? There was a thread about this a few weeks back. Open marriages for heterosexual couples are just the first step towards divorce. Save yourself the time and money and just divorce if sex is that important to you.
Yeah that's pretty much my own personal experience...
If OP's spouse has no drive, it might work. But it's never 'easy'
They might not have drive, but they don't want their spouse emotionally involved with someone else.
I don't know why women can't comprehend this. Men can easily have sex with other people and never feel any emotions whatsoever. It is just about the romp.
So what's the big deal with an open marriage if you don't want sex? Let the other partner release. There's no emotion involved. No love. No cheating. You cannot tie someone down and torture them with no sex for life. What are you running, a convent?
Babies and STDs all are well known for not occurring in sexual intercourse where the man doesn’t feel any emotions whatsoever. The body has ways of shutting that whole thing down.
Just because there’s no love doesn’t mean there’s no 18 years of child support.
Anonymous
07/22/2024 22:11
Subject: Re:At a breaking point in nearly sexless marriage
❤️🩹 Am so sorry you are in this situation OP.
But to be realistic, a marriage w/o intimacy is not a marriage in the true definition of the word.
If you + your spouse are not showing any romantic affection then what would differentiate it from a friendship?
Just a little food for thought. 💭
In truth rightfully so > you crave human affection and no one can fault you for feeling this way.
If your husband is not being responsive to you (and even worse is insulting you when you reach out to him!?) then you should try marriage counseling to get to the bottom of this issue……
If your husband will not attend w/you then I advise you to seek individual therapy to see if this is the dynamic that you are willing to endure for the rest of your life.
Good luck!
But to be realistic, a marriage w/o intimacy is not a marriage in the true definition of the word.
If you + your spouse are not showing any romantic affection then what would differentiate it from a friendship?
Just a little food for thought. 💭
In truth rightfully so > you crave human affection and no one can fault you for feeling this way.
If your husband is not being responsive to you (and even worse is insulting you when you reach out to him!?) then you should try marriage counseling to get to the bottom of this issue……
If your husband will not attend w/you then I advise you to seek individual therapy to see if this is the dynamic that you are willing to endure for the rest of your life.
Good luck!
Anonymous
07/22/2024 22:07
Subject: At a breaking point in nearly sexless marriage
Anonymous wrote:Time for a new wifey!
exactly, but for some reason, the OP doesn't want to say he'll get a divorce. I think it's because he knows his behavior is wrong—he knows blowing up the marriage over sex is stupid, but he's desperate for someone to tell him an affair would be okay.