Anonymous wrote:I'm a mom to a boy and a girl. As a woman I know how stupid men are. Ergo, I worry about my son more. It's not that complicated.

Anonymous wrote:I believe these fears are real for the people like OP posting, but my advice is: if you have any, ask your friends of color how they raise their sons. I never expected the world to hand anything to my kids on a silver platter, or for them to be assumed to be the best for a job, or even to be assumed competent without proving it or treated fairly. There's a long line in other cultures of raising kids to work twice as hard, grind for every inch, and expect setbacks. I feel like these white moms are very overwhelmed by the idea of this mindset being necessary when it comes to their boys (but not girls, that's just the natural order of things or something her husband will sort out). You can either freak out at the idea that your sons are being born into a different social order than their fathers were born into, or you can try to actually learn from people who have achieved even though the world was not ever set up for them to coast.

Anonymous wrote:I worry a lot less about my daughter. I am not sure why.

Is it just because son is the first kid and bears the burden of all my hopes and expectations?

Part of me thinks it might be because I think it’s just harder for boys in the world in the long term. Girls mature faster and outperform boys so much in school, and also always have the option of an easier career or staying at home with the kids. To do well in a HCOL area like we do, boys eventually have to have a lucrative, high paying job and with that, there’s so much more stress on the academic and college front when they are younger.

And girls are just easier when younger based on what I hear. Fewer learning issues, therapies needed. Went past a speech therapy office recently and the 4 children in the waiting room were all boys.


Anyone relate?

Anonymous wrote:I worry a lot less about my daughter. I am not sure why.

Is it just because son is the first kid and bears the burden of all my hopes and expectations?

Part of me thinks it might be because I think it’s just harder for boys in the world in the long term. Girls mature faster and outperform boys so much in school, and also always have the option of an easier career or staying at home with the kids. To do well in a HCOL area like we do, boys eventually have to have a lucrative, high paying job and with that, there’s so much more stress on the academic and college front when they are younger.

And girls are just easier when younger based on what I hear. Fewer learning issues, therapies needed. Went past a speech therapy office recently and the 4 children in the waiting room were all boys.


Anyone relate?

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Anonymous wrote:I worry a lot less about my daughter. I am not sure why.

Is it just because son is the first kid and bears the burden of all my hopes and expectations?

Part of me thinks it might be because I think it’s just harder for boys in the world in the long term. Girls mature faster and outperform boys so much in school, and also always have the option of an easier career or staying at home with the kids. To do well in a HCOL area like we do, boys eventually have to have a lucrative, high paying job and with that, there’s so much more stress on the academic and college front when they are younger.

And girls are just easier when younger based on what I hear. Fewer learning issues, therapies needed. Went past a speech therapy office recently and the 4 children in the waiting room were all boys.


Anyone relate?

The world is made for white males.

Yes even in this very moment, the world is very much made for white males and just because now they are being called out on their incompetence and white privilege, they are throwing a hissy fit and seems like their parents are throwing one too. Please take a seat and let others also take charge.

Just out of curiosity, who or what exactly do you think made the world for white males?

Are you seriously asking me this question? The white males made this world for white males by perpetuating colonialism, oppression, racism and misogynistic behavior. No that doesn’t mean every white male is responsible and must suffer consequences but let’s at least acknowledge the basic fact that this world even today is a white man’s world and to say otherwise is downright foolish and ignorant.

So your official position is that white males “made the world” as it exists today, which is apparently good enough that you are desperate to not only be a part of but to be in charge of, therefore these same white males must “take a seat and let others take charge”…

Have you ever considered making your own sh!t rather than just demanding to take over and control what others (your contention) have made?

I am so sorry you have such poor comprehension skills. Are you living under a rock? The world as it exists today is not “good”. Women in this country are fighting to get back ownership of their bodies, climate change is routinely ignored, basic rights such as education and healthcare are being ignored in this country because they need to spend all our tax dollars on the military and need to keep sending weapons of war to countries all over the world to keep the war industry flourishing. Yeah that is all done by white men so they need to take a seat and let others take charge because they have failed miserably.

Well now you’re just being ridiculous. The world as it exists today has many problems and is far from perfect, but (at least for the Western world) this is a great time to be alive.

But if women and minorities (ie everyone who is not a white man) want to take over the power structure here you do realize they could easily accomplish that as white men are not a majority in this country? Stop waiting for white men to “take a seat” and just band together and TAKE control if that’s what you really want.

I do realize that endless complaining is much easier than accountability and risk-taking, but at some point you need to put up or shut up.

You are either extremely naive or being facetioues. It’s probably a great time for you to be alive because you are a white male. Ask the women who are trying to cross state lines to get an abortion because the state insists on controlling their bodies. And it’s not as if women and minorities can create an insurrection and take over lol. That’s what white men do remember? They might be in the minority but they are very much in control and they quash down anyone who questions their authority. Seriously take a seat and shut up.

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Anonymous wrote:I worry a lot less about my daughter. I am not sure why.

Is it just because son is the first kid and bears the burden of all my hopes and expectations?

Part of me thinks it might be because I think it’s just harder for boys in the world in the long term. Girls mature faster and outperform boys so much in school, and also always have the option of an easier career or staying at home with the kids. To do well in a HCOL area like we do, boys eventually have to have a lucrative, high paying job and with that, there’s so much more stress on the academic and college front when they are younger.

And girls are just easier when younger based on what I hear. Fewer learning issues, therapies needed. Went past a speech therapy office recently and the 4 children in the waiting room were all boys.


Anyone relate?

The world is made for white males.

Yes even in this very moment, the world is very much made for white males and just because now they are being called out on their incompetence and white privilege, they are throwing a hissy fit and seems like their parents are throwing one too. Please take a seat and let others also take charge.

Just out of curiosity, who or what exactly do you think made the world for white males?

Are you seriously asking me this question? The white males made this world for white males by perpetuating colonialism, oppression, racism and misogynistic behavior. No that doesn’t mean every white male is responsible and must suffer consequences but let’s at least acknowledge the basic fact that this world even today is a white man’s world and to say otherwise is downright foolish and ignorant.

So your official position is that white males “made the world” as it exists today, which is apparently good enough that you are desperate to not only be a part of but to be in charge of, therefore these same white males must “take a seat and let others take charge”…

Have you ever considered making your own sh!t rather than just demanding to take over and control what others (your contention) have made?

DP. No they didn't make the world, they made the power structures that ruled the world (made by every living person) and were designed to give only white men all the credit, power, and prestige for the unpaid labor of others. I bet you think that white men built the US economy, not the African people they kidnapped and enslaved so they could sit on their asses and tell their sons not to let anyone "steal" credit for their ingenuity. Logic is so hard for some people.

While true, the reality is that slavery has always existed and today exists in many different countries.

The only reason that you think slavery is bad is because white Christian men who ruled most of the wealthy world chose to fight to abolish slavery.

LOL I am sorry to burst your bubble but white Christian men didn’t fight to ‘abolish slavery.’ Please stop with whitewashing history. If you actually were well versed in history, you would know the civil war didn’t start to ‘abolish slavery’. It was started to protect white men’s labor in the west and to prevent slaves from taking the white men’s economic opportunities. Of course slavery was way cheaper than employing white men so
slave owners kept resorting to this cheaper option.

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Anonymous wrote:I worry a lot less about my daughter. I am not sure why.

Is it just because son is the first kid and bears the burden of all my hopes and expectations?

Part of me thinks it might be because I think it’s just harder for boys in the world in the long term. Girls mature faster and outperform boys so much in school, and also always have the option of an easier career or staying at home with the kids. To do well in a HCOL area like we do, boys eventually have to have a lucrative, high paying job and with that, there’s so much more stress on the academic and college front when they are younger.

And girls are just easier when younger based on what I hear. Fewer learning issues, therapies needed. Went past a speech therapy office recently and the 4 children in the waiting room were all boys.


Anyone relate?

The world is made for white males.

Yes even in this very moment, the world is very much made for white males and just because now they are being called out on their incompetence and white privilege, they are throwing a hissy fit and seems like their parents are throwing one too. Please take a seat and let others also take charge.

Just out of curiosity, who or what exactly do you think made the world for white males?

Are you seriously asking me this question? The white males made this world for white males by perpetuating colonialism, oppression, racism and misogynistic behavior. No that doesn’t mean every white male is responsible and must suffer consequences but let’s at least acknowledge the basic fact that this world even today is a white man’s world and to say otherwise is downright foolish and ignorant.

So your official position is that white males “made the world” as it exists today, which is apparently good enough that you are desperate to not only be a part of but to be in charge of, therefore these same white males must “take a seat and let others take charge”…

Have you ever considered making your own sh!t rather than just demanding to take over and control what others (your contention) have made?

I am so sorry you have such poor comprehension skills. Are you living under a rock? The world as it exists today is not “good”. Women in this country are fighting to get back ownership of their bodies, climate change is routinely ignored, basic rights such as education and healthcare are being ignored in this country because they need to spend all our tax dollars on the military and need to keep sending weapons of war to countries all over the world to keep the war industry flourishing. Yeah that is all done by white men so they need to take a seat and let others take charge because they have failed miserably.

Well now you’re just being ridiculous. The world as it exists today has many problems and is far from perfect, but (at least for the Western world) this is a great time to be alive.

But if women and minorities (ie everyone who is not a white man) want to take over the power structure here you do realize they could easily accomplish that as white men are not a majority in this country? Stop waiting for white men to “take a seat” and just band together and TAKE control if that’s what you really want.

I do realize that endless complaining is much easier than accountability and risk-taking, but at some point you need to put up or shut up.

You are either extremely naive or being facetioues. It’s probably a great time for you to be alive because you are a white male. Ask the women who are trying to cross state lines to get an abortion because the state insists on controlling their bodies. And it’s not as if women and minorities can create an insurrection and take over lol. That’s what white men do remember? They might be in the minority but they are very much in control and they quash down anyone who questions their authority. Seriously take a seat and shut up.

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Anonymous wrote:I worry a lot less about my daughter. I am not sure why.

Is it just because son is the first kid and bears the burden of all my hopes and expectations?

Part of me thinks it might be because I think it’s just harder for boys in the world in the long term. Girls mature faster and outperform boys so much in school, and also always have the option of an easier career or staying at home with the kids. To do well in a HCOL area like we do, boys eventually have to have a lucrative, high paying job and with that, there’s so much more stress on the academic and college front when they are younger.

And girls are just easier when younger based on what I hear. Fewer learning issues, therapies needed. Went past a speech therapy office recently and the 4 children in the waiting room were all boys.


Anyone relate?

The world is made for white males.

Yes even in this very moment, the world is very much made for white males and just because now they are being called out on their incompetence and white privilege, they are throwing a hissy fit and seems like their parents are throwing one too. Please take a seat and let others also take charge.

Just out of curiosity, who or what exactly do you think made the world for white males?

Are you seriously asking me this question? The white males made this world for white males by perpetuating colonialism, oppression, racism and misogynistic behavior. No that doesn’t mean every white male is responsible and must suffer consequences but let’s at least acknowledge the basic fact that this world even today is a white man’s world and to say otherwise is downright foolish and ignorant.

So your official position is that white males “made the world” as it exists today, which is apparently good enough that you are desperate to not only be a part of but to be in charge of, therefore these same white males must “take a seat and let others take charge”…

Have you ever considered making your own sh!t rather than just demanding to take over and control what others (your contention) have made?

I am so sorry you have such poor comprehension skills. Are you living under a rock? The world as it exists today is not “good”. Women in this country are fighting to get back ownership of their bodies, climate change is routinely ignored, basic rights such as education and healthcare are being ignored in this country because they need to spend all our tax dollars on the military and need to keep sending weapons of war to countries all over the world to keep the war industry flourishing. Yeah that is all done by white men so they need to take a seat and let others take charge because they have failed miserably.

Well now you’re just being ridiculous. The world as it exists today has many problems and is far from perfect, but (at least for the Western world) this is a great time to be alive.

But if women and minorities (ie everyone who is not a white man) want to take over the power structure here you do realize they could easily accomplish that as white men are not a majority in this country? Stop waiting for white men to “take a seat” and just band together and TAKE control if that’s what you really want.

I do realize that endless complaining is much easier than accountability and risk-taking, but at some point you need to put up or shut up.

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Anonymous wrote:I worry a lot less about my daughter. I am not sure why.

Is it just because son is the first kid and bears the burden of all my hopes and expectations?

Part of me thinks it might be because I think it’s just harder for boys in the world in the long term. Girls mature faster and outperform boys so much in school, and also always have the option of an easier career or staying at home with the kids. To do well in a HCOL area like we do, boys eventually have to have a lucrative, high paying job and with that, there’s so much more stress on the academic and college front when they are younger.

And girls are just easier when younger based on what I hear. Fewer learning issues, therapies needed. Went past a speech therapy office recently and the 4 children in the waiting room were all boys.


Anyone relate?

The world is made for white males.

Yes even in this very moment, the world is very much made for white males and just because now they are being called out on their incompetence and white privilege, they are throwing a hissy fit and seems like their parents are throwing one too. Please take a seat and let others also take charge.

Just out of curiosity, who or what exactly do you think made the world for white males?

Are you seriously asking me this question? The white males made this world for white males by perpetuating colonialism, oppression, racism and misogynistic behavior. No that doesn’t mean every white male is responsible and must suffer consequences but let’s at least acknowledge the basic fact that this world even today is a white man’s world and to say otherwise is downright foolish and ignorant.

So your official position is that white males “made the world” as it exists today, which is apparently good enough that you are desperate to not only be a part of but to be in charge of, therefore these same white males must “take a seat and let others take charge”…

Have you ever considered making your own sh!t rather than just demanding to take over and control what others (your contention) have made?

I am so sorry you have such poor comprehension skills. Are you living under a rock? The world as it exists today is not “good”. Women in this country are fighting to get back ownership of their bodies, climate change is routinely ignored, basic rights such as education and healthcare are being ignored in this country because they need to spend all our tax dollars on the military and need to keep sending weapons of war to countries all over the world to keep the war industry flourishing. Yeah that is all done by white men so they need to take a seat and let others take charge because they have failed miserably.

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Anonymous wrote:I worry a lot less about my daughter. I am not sure why.

Is it just because son is the first kid and bears the burden of all my hopes and expectations?

Part of me thinks it might be because I think it’s just harder for boys in the world in the long term. Girls mature faster and outperform boys so much in school, and also always have the option of an easier career or staying at home with the kids. To do well in a HCOL area like we do, boys eventually have to have a lucrative, high paying job and with that, there’s so much more stress on the academic and college front when they are younger.

And girls are just easier when younger based on what I hear. Fewer learning issues, therapies needed. Went past a speech therapy office recently and the 4 children in the waiting room were all boys.


Anyone relate?

Yes, completely.

DD is my oldest; I signed her up for many supportive, affirming groups like Girls on the Run (then Heart and Sole), Coding for Girls, the Girl Scouts. Each group has its own empowering messages to encourage and motivate her through our male-dominated culture. She’s responded by working hard, excelling, and has such a bright future!

DS I enrolled in Cubs, then Boy Scouts (now renamed again Scouting USA) and it’s now co-ed; the subtle message to the boys has been “you were wrong to exclude girls; you should be ashamed). There was no boys on the run. All his classes are co-ed; all the history lessons in school are all about colonialism and oppression (and the subtle message is always: the oppressors are cisgender white males).

As an 8th grader, the books he’s assigned are all things like George Takei’s They Called us Enemy or, Things Fall Apart (same messages about oppressors: males. Whites).

We listen to NPR in the car and read the Post at home: same messages and none of it is good when it comes to males, who are the ones who created and perpetuate patriarchal culture.

It’s no wonder he and most other teen boys around here feel depressed. Look at the messages we are sending?

Umm because colonialism and oppression has historically always been carried out by cis gender white men…are we supposed to change historical facts to make your little boy comfortable? Jeez.

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Anonymous wrote:I worry a lot less about my daughter. I am not sure why.

Is it just because son is the first kid and bears the burden of all my hopes and expectations?

Part of me thinks it might be because I think it’s just harder for boys in the world in the long term. Girls mature faster and outperform boys so much in school, and also always have the option of an easier career or staying at home with the kids. To do well in a HCOL area like we do, boys eventually have to have a lucrative, high paying job and with that, there’s so much more stress on the academic and college front when they are younger.

And girls are just easier when younger based on what I hear. Fewer learning issues, therapies needed. Went past a speech therapy office recently and the 4 children in the waiting room were all boys.


Anyone relate?

The world is made for white males.

Yes even in this very moment, the world is very much made for white males and just because now they are being called out on their incompetence and white privilege, they are throwing a hissy fit and seems like their parents are throwing one too. Please take a seat and let others also take charge.

Just out of curiosity, who or what exactly do you think made the world for white males?

Are you seriously asking me this question? The white males made this world for white males by perpetuating colonialism, oppression, racism and misogynistic behavior. No that doesn’t mean every white male is responsible and must suffer consequences but let’s at least acknowledge the basic fact that this world even today is a white man’s world and to say otherwise is downright foolish and ignorant.

So your official position is that white males “made the world” as it exists today, which is apparently good enough that you are desperate to not only be a part of but to be in charge of, therefore these same white males must “take a seat and let others take charge”…

Have you ever considered making your own sh!t rather than just demanding to take over and control what others (your contention) have made?

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Anonymous wrote:I worry a lot less about my daughter. I am not sure why.

Is it just because son is the first kid and bears the burden of all my hopes and expectations?

Part of me thinks it might be because I think it’s just harder for boys in the world in the long term. Girls mature faster and outperform boys so much in school, and also always have the option of an easier career or staying at home with the kids. To do well in a HCOL area like we do, boys eventually have to have a lucrative, high paying job and with that, there’s so much more stress on the academic and college front when they are younger.

And girls are just easier when younger based on what I hear. Fewer learning issues, therapies needed. Went past a speech therapy office recently and the 4 children in the waiting room were all boys.


Anyone relate?

The world is made for white males.

Yes even in this very moment, the world is very much made for white males and just because now they are being called out on their incompetence and white privilege, they are throwing a hissy fit and seems like their parents are throwing one too. Please take a seat and let others also take charge.

Just out of curiosity, who or what exactly do you think made the world for white males?

Are you seriously asking me this question? The white males made this world for white males by perpetuating colonialism, oppression, racism and misogynistic behavior. No that doesn’t mean every white male is responsible and must suffer consequences but let’s at least acknowledge the basic fact that this world even today is a white man’s world and to say otherwise is downright foolish and ignorant.

So your official position is that white males “made the world” as it exists today, which is apparently good enough that you are desperate to not only be a part of but to be in charge of, therefore these same white males must “take a seat and let others take charge”…

Have you ever considered making your own sh!t rather than just demanding to take over and control what others (your contention) have made?

DP. No they didn't make the world, they made the power structures that ruled the world (made by every living person) and were designed to give only white men all the credit, power, and prestige for the unpaid labor of others. I bet you think that white men built the US economy, not the African people they kidnapped and enslaved so they could sit on their asses and tell their sons not to let anyone "steal" credit for their ingenuity. Logic is so hard for some people.

While true, the reality is that slavery has always existed and today exists in many different countries.

The only reason that you think slavery is bad is because white Christian men who ruled most of the wealthy world chose to fight to abolish slavery.

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Anonymous wrote:I worry a lot less about my daughter. I am not sure why.

Is it just because son is the first kid and bears the burden of all my hopes and expectations?

Part of me thinks it might be because I think it’s just harder for boys in the world in the long term. Girls mature faster and outperform boys so much in school, and also always have the option of an easier career or staying at home with the kids. To do well in a HCOL area like we do, boys eventually have to have a lucrative, high paying job and with that, there’s so much more stress on the academic and college front when they are younger.

And girls are just easier when younger based on what I hear. Fewer learning issues, therapies needed. Went past a speech therapy office recently and the 4 children in the waiting room were all boys.


Anyone relate?

The world is made for white males.

Yes even in this very moment, the world is very much made for white males and just because now they are being called out on their incompetence and white privilege, they are throwing a hissy fit and seems like their parents are throwing one too. Please take a seat and let others also take charge.

Just out of curiosity, who or what exactly do you think made the world for white males?

Are you seriously asking me this question? The white males made this world for white males by perpetuating colonialism, oppression, racism and misogynistic behavior. No that doesn’t mean every white male is responsible and must suffer consequences but let’s at least acknowledge the basic fact that this world even today is a white man’s world and to say otherwise is downright foolish and ignorant.

So your official position is that white males “made the world” as it exists today, which is apparently good enough that you are desperate to not only be a part of but to be in charge of, therefore these same white males must “take a seat and let others take charge”…

Have you ever considered making your own sh!t rather than just demanding to take over and control what others (your contention) have made?

DP. No they didn't make the world, they made the power structures that ruled the world (made by every living person) and were designed to give only white men all the credit, power, and prestige for the unpaid labor of others. I bet you think that white men built the US economy, not the African people they kidnapped and enslaved so they could sit on their asses and tell their sons not to let anyone "steal" credit for their ingenuity. Logic is so hard for some people.