Anonymous
06/03/2024 11:14
Subject: It's been 10 years since our oldest graduated from high school. The most successful are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think the fact that the op's "sample"of people are all married in their late 20s makes for a very narrow group she is referring to. Maybe 10 people tops.
Marriage trends among wealthy and/or smart kids are changing. Sophia Ritchie was 24 when she got married last year.
1 person does not equal a trend
You're in denial. Either you're projecting because you waited so long to marry or worried about your unmarried adult kids.
Nope. I married at 27 and my kids are teens/too young to marry. I just think it’s stupid to say something is a trend and cite “evidence” of 1 famous person who did it.
You are out of touch or in denial. Millie Bobby Brown, age 20, just married last month. It’s become cool to marry young.
No, I’m just smart enough to realize that 2-3 examples of people marrying young does not equal a trend. You need to look at some statistics. If you do, you’ll see that average age of first marriage in the US is in the early 30s for women w masters or professional degrees. I couldn’t find statistics that specifically broke down age at first marriage by income level or socioeconomic status but I thought education level often corresponds w income level so it’s a pretty reliable statistic for the purposes of this discussion.
Of course there are examples of upper class people marrying young as cited here w a few random famous people and some anecdotes about HYPS kids that posters knew marrying young that is not a “trend” and it’s certainly not the norm. It’s just a few outliers, statistically speaking.
Anonymous
06/03/2024 11:02
Subject: It's been 10 years since our oldest graduated from high school. The most successful are
Anonymous wrote:Are your kids married?
Is that ... some marker for success?
Anonymous
06/03/2024 11:01
Subject: It's been 10 years since our oldest graduated from high school. The most successful are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think the fact that the op's "sample"of people are all married in their late 20s makes for a very narrow group she is referring to. Maybe 10 people tops.
Marriage trends among wealthy and/or smart kids are changing. Sophia Ritchie was 24 when she got married last year.
1 person does not equal a trend
You're in denial. Either you're projecting because you waited so long to marry or worried about your unmarried adult kids.
Nope. I married at 27 and my kids are teens/too young to marry. I just think it’s stupid to say something is a trend and cite “evidence” of 1 famous person who did it.
You are out of touch or in denial. Millie Bobby Brown, age 20, just married last month. It’s become cool to marry young.
Just keep citing examples of individuals to prove a point about groups. You sound dumb.
Anonymous
06/03/2024 10:36
Subject: It's been 10 years since our oldest graduated from high school. The most successful are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The most successful young adults who are now 27 or 28 years old were the top students in their high school class, no matter where they went to undergrad. From Ivies to tiny liberal arts college to fairly regional public universities, they all zoomed through undergrad, sometimes in three years, many went to grad or professional school, and they all have great careers. It seems all of them are married.
The handful of middle of the pack students and student-athletes who surprised everyone when they got into elite T20s regressed to their mean and have totally normal careers, at best.
It seems smart ambitious highly-motivated teens become smart ambitious highly-motivated adults. And if your teen is not those things, Tiger Mom'ing them into an elite college probably isn't going to change anything about their life and professional trajectory.
All of them are married at 27? Do you live in the deep south or Pakistan?
lol
So true. The OP is a backwards provincial mom stuck on this board with grown and flown children….
Hmmm. What does that tell you.
The upper classes all over the US actually do marry in their mid to late 20s, statistically. It the middle and UMC that marry in their early to mid 30s. The LC marry young and multiple times.
This makes sense. Middle class kids tend to have students loans, rent, and can't even afford an engagement ring until they're making some real money. Trust fund kids don't have to save for or worry about any of those expenses.
Anonymous
06/03/2024 09:04
Subject: It's been 10 years since our oldest graduated from high school. The most successful are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The most successful young adults who are now 27 or 28 years old were the top students in their high school class, no matter where they went to undergrad. From Ivies to tiny liberal arts college to fairly regional public universities, they all zoomed through undergrad, sometimes in three years, many went to grad or professional school, and they all have great careers. It seems all of them are married.
The handful of middle of the pack students and student-athletes who surprised everyone when they got into elite T20s regressed to their mean and have totally normal careers, at best.
It seems smart ambitious highly-motivated teens become smart ambitious highly-motivated adults. And if your teen is not those things, Tiger Mom'ing them into an elite college probably isn't going to change anything about their life and professional trajectory.
Parents want their kids at elite colleges so they meet a (wealthy/ambitious) spouse. If your kid goes to Yale but returns home without a serious bf or gf, it was pointless.
Only grandma voices this.
You do you, sweetie. You're free to tell your children, if you have any, to enjoy being renters and using dating apps into their 30s.
Anonymous
06/03/2024 08:32
Subject: It's been 10 years since our oldest graduated from high school. The most successful are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This thread is so surreal and f'd up and full of crazy posters, its like watching a Beckett play.
Maybe we should go.
(They don’t move.)
Anonymous
06/03/2024 08:27
Subject: It's been 10 years since our oldest graduated from high school. The most successful are
My daughter (27) recently graduated from an East Coast medical school and it's wedding after wedding after wedding for her lately.
Anonymous
06/03/2024 08:15
Subject: It's been 10 years since our oldest graduated from high school. The most successful are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The most successful young adults who are now 27 or 28 years old were the top students in their high school class, no matter where they went to undergrad. From Ivies to tiny liberal arts college to fairly regional public universities, they all zoomed through undergrad, sometimes in three years, many went to grad or professional school, and they all have great careers. It seems all of them are married.
The handful of middle of the pack students and student-athletes who surprised everyone when they got into elite T20s regressed to their mean and have totally normal careers, at best.
It seems smart ambitious highly-motivated teens become smart ambitious highly-motivated adults. And if your teen is not those things, Tiger Mom'ing them into an elite college probably isn't going to change anything about their life and professional trajectory.
All of them are married at 27? Do you live in the deep south or Pakistan?
Most high school class of 2014 are age 28 right now. And yes, high value smart couples are marrying in their early and mid 20s. We know a Yale '23 & Harvard '23 couple who got married last fall.
If this is true, it’s a change. Most successful professional women marry later.
Rich trust funders are the trendsetters.
Anonymous
06/03/2024 08:06
Subject: It's been 10 years since our oldest graduated from high school. The most successful are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The most successful young adults who are now 27 or 28 years old were the top students in their high school class, no matter where they went to undergrad. From Ivies to tiny liberal arts college to fairly regional public universities, they all zoomed through undergrad, sometimes in three years, many went to grad or professional school, and they all have great careers. It seems all of them are married.
The handful of middle of the pack students and student-athletes who surprised everyone when they got into elite T20s regressed to their mean and have totally normal careers, at best.
It seems smart ambitious highly-motivated teens become smart ambitious highly-motivated adults. And if your teen is not those things, Tiger Mom'ing them into an elite college probably isn't going to change anything about their life and professional trajectory.
Parents want their kids at elite colleges so they meet a (wealthy/ambitious) spouse. If your kid goes to Yale but returns home without a serious bf or gf, it was pointless.
Only grandma voices this.
Anonymous
06/03/2024 07:54
Subject: It's been 10 years since our oldest graduated from high school. The most successful are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The most successful young adults who are now 27 or 28 years old were the top students in their high school class, no matter where they went to undergrad. From Ivies to tiny liberal arts college to fairly regional public universities, they all zoomed through undergrad, sometimes in three years, many went to grad or professional school, and they all have great careers. It seems all of them are married.
The handful of middle of the pack students and student-athletes who surprised everyone when they got into elite T20s regressed to their mean and have totally normal careers, at best.
It seems smart ambitious highly-motivated teens become smart ambitious highly-motivated adults. And if your teen is not those things, Tiger Mom'ing them into an elite college probably isn't going to change anything about their life and professional trajectory.
All of them are married at 27? Do you live in the deep south or Pakistan?
Most high school class of 2014 are age 28 right now. And yes, high value smart couples are marrying in their early and mid 20s. We know a Yale '23 & Harvard '23 couple who got married last fall.
If this is true, it’s a change. Most successful professional women marry later.
Anonymous
06/03/2024 07:43
Subject: It's been 10 years since our oldest graduated from high school. The most successful are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Every single person I knew at Brown. who married before 30, is divorced.
I went to Brown. I'm sure you had a more eclectic circle of friends. Most people I knew married between 27-33ish and almost all of them are still together. the divorce rates for the upper middle classes is fairly low.
Brown kids are marrying even younger now. It's hip and trendy to marry after college. Hookup culture and using dating apps into your mid and late 20s is cringe.
And yet, every single study shows females are not only marrying in numbers much less than before, but later if at all. And none of them are having kids. In other words, you are FOS.
Anonymous
06/03/2024 04:59
Subject: It's been 10 years since our oldest graduated from high school. The most successful are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The most successful young adults who are now 27 or 28 years old were the top students in their high school class, no matter where they went to undergrad. From Ivies to tiny liberal arts college to fairly regional public universities, they all zoomed through undergrad, sometimes in three years, many went to grad or professional school, and they all have great careers. It seems all of them are married.
The handful of middle of the pack students and student-athletes who surprised everyone when they got into elite T20s regressed to their mean and have totally normal careers, at best.
It seems smart ambitious highly-motivated teens become smart ambitious highly-motivated adults. And if your teen is not those things, Tiger Mom'ing them into an elite college probably isn't going to change anything about their life and professional trajectory.
All of them are married at 27? Do you live in the deep south or Pakistan?
lol
So true. The OP is a backwards provincial mom stuck on this board with grown and flown children….
Hmmm. What does that tell you.
The upper classes all over the US actually do marry in their mid to late 20s, statistically. It the middle and UMC that marry in their early to mid 30s. The LC marry young and multiple times.
Makes sense. The upper class young do not worry about money, and establishing themselves before marriage, and they tend to marry those they’ve known through the same circles - or heard of through the clubs.
Anonymous
06/03/2024 04:53
Subject: It's been 10 years since our oldest graduated from high school. The most successful are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The most successful young adults who are now 27 or 28 years old were the top students in their high school class, no matter where they went to undergrad. From Ivies to tiny liberal arts college to fairly regional public universities, they all zoomed through undergrad, sometimes in three years, many went to grad or professional school, and they all have great careers. It seems all of them are married.
The handful of middle of the pack students and student-athletes who surprised everyone when they got into elite T20s regressed to their mean and have totally normal careers, at best.
It seems smart ambitious highly-motivated teens become smart ambitious highly-motivated adults. And if your teen is not those things, Tiger Mom'ing them into an elite college probably isn't going to change anything about their life and professional trajectory.
All of them are married at 27? Do you live in the deep south or Pakistan?
Most high school class of 2014 are age 28 right now. And yes, high value smart couples are marrying in their early and mid 20s. We know a Yale '23 & Harvard '23 couple who got married last fall.
High value smart couples? Sounds like a product description.
Anonymous
06/02/2024 23:17
Subject: It's been 10 years since our oldest graduated from high school. The most successful are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think the fact that the op's "sample"of people are all married in their late 20s makes for a very narrow group she is referring to. Maybe 10 people tops.
Marriage trends among wealthy and/or smart kids are changing. Sophia Ritchie was 24 when she got married last year.
1 person does not equal a trend
You're in denial. Either you're projecting because you waited so long to marry or worried about your unmarried adult kids.
Nope. I married at 27 and my kids are teens/too young to marry. I just think it’s stupid to say something is a trend and cite “evidence” of 1 famous person who did it.
You are out of touch or in denial. Millie Bobby Brown, age 20, just married last month. It’s become cool to marry young.
Millie Bobbie Brown doesn’t go to college. Kate Hudson also married very young, so did Lisa Marie Presley, both marriages ended in divorce.
Anonymous
06/02/2024 23:15
Subject: It's been 10 years since our oldest graduated from high school. The most successful are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think the fact that the op's "sample"of people are all married in their late 20s makes for a very narrow group she is referring to. Maybe 10 people tops.
Marriage trends among wealthy and/or smart kids are changing. Sophia Ritchie was 24 when she got married last year.
1 person does not equal a trend
You're in denial. Either you're projecting because you waited so long to marry or worried about your unmarried adult kids.
Nope. I married at 27 and my kids are teens/too young to marry. I just think it’s stupid to say something is a trend and cite “evidence” of 1 famous person who did it.
+1. Oh by all means if Sofia Ritchie did it, everyone else must be doing it!
/s
Sofia is married WITH a baby at 25.