Anonymous wrote:39 yr old dating a 57 yr old he seems really immature. It's bizarre to me. I'm going to end it.

Anonymous wrote:It happens. I know a psychiatrist in his mid-50s who left his wife last year for a 23-year-old employee. They had to keep it under wraps (Virginia), but they're still going strong one year later, and he's getting ready to introduce her to the kids.

People are trying to stay out of it and let them deal with it. It seems weird because a 23-year-old is supposed to still be an adolescent, and you would think a psychiatrist in particular would understand this. But the heart wants what the heart wants.

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Yes, young men don't have their shit together. An older man will pick her up, pay for parking, have reservations, and everything goes smoothly, usually ending up at his clean, comfortable place. A significant fraction of young women are attracted to fit older men.

Anonymous wrote:I will admit that when I was in my 20s I found 40 yr old men attractive: more wise and sophisticated.

But, at 40 I didn't feel the same about men in their 60s, and now in my 50s, I definitely don't feel the same about men in their 70s.

40 yr old men can be hot to a 20 year old, but 55 and beyond is definitely grandpa territory. You qualify for the senior specials.

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Anonymous wrote:in the vast majority of these 20-30 year age gaps, the man is frittering away the woman’s tiny window to ... [to] build a family. ... It’s cruel to waste her time.

You seem unfamiliar with Tinder-era recreational sex among 20-somethings. Hannah Rosin wrote about hook-up culture among women MBA students.
https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/09/boys-on-the-side/309062/

Professional students understandably choose temporary relationships because they plan to move for careers. But plenty of men and women waste their twenties aimlessly partying or socializing. There are Bohemian artists and hippies and "failures to launch" with no immediate goals of marriage and children. The average age of marriage in DC is around 30! So these young women hook-up with a bunch of fun young guys who don't want relationships either. Then they appreciate a cool older man who treats them well. These women routinely reject young nerds who seek relationships. There are worse fates than dating an older man.

This what makes the 50+year-old psychiatrist's employee so smart. She saw he could provide her professional opportunities and networking beyond what a 23-year-old would normally attain. When she recognized that he felt unappreciated, she made her move. She gets fun times now and a launching pad to prominence in her field. Smart.

Ew. UMC women are so conniving and gross.

This is much worse than when men use women for a one-night stand. At least in that case, it’s just the biology of having 20 times more testosterone flowing through his system than women do—and the correspondingly higher sex drive.

UMC women will form an intimate bond with someone for two years to extract every ounce of value they can from him—and then move on and repeat the process with a “higher-value” man.

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Anonymous wrote:in the vast majority of these 20-30 year age gaps, the man is frittering away the woman’s tiny window to ... [to] build a family. ... It’s cruel to waste her time.

You seem unfamiliar with Tinder-era recreational sex among 20-somethings. Hannah Rosin wrote about hook-up culture among women MBA students.
https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/09/boys-on-the-side/309062/

Professional students understandably choose temporary relationships because they plan to move for careers. But plenty of men and women waste their twenties aimlessly partying or socializing. There are Bohemian artists and hippies and "failures to launch" with no immediate goals of marriage and children. The average age of marriage in DC is around 30! So these young women hook-up with a bunch of fun young guys who don't want relationships either. Then they appreciate a cool older man who treats them well. These women routinely reject young nerds who seek relationships. There are worse fates than dating an older man.

This what makes the 50+year-old psychiatrist's employee so smart. She saw he could provide her professional opportunities and networking beyond what a 23-year-old would normally attain. When she recognized that he felt unappreciated, she made her move. She gets fun times now and a launching pad to prominence in her field. Smart.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 53, girlfriend is 34 and it’s the same as any other relationship. She’s wise beyond her years and I’m immature so we meet right in the middle. It’s going to end when she realizes she wants kids and it will hurt but for now we’re both very happy.

Oh hi, im 54F and bf34
All is well

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Anonymous wrote:in the vast majority of these 20-30 year age gaps, the man is frittering away the woman’s tiny window to ... [to] build a family. ... It’s cruel to waste her time.

You seem unfamiliar with Tinder-era recreational sex among 20-somethings. Hannah Rosin wrote about hook-up culture among women MBA students.
https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/09/boys-on-the-side/309062/

Professional students understandably choose temporary relationships because they plan to move for careers. But plenty of men and women waste their twenties aimlessly partying or socializing. There are Bohemian artists and hippies and "failures to launch" with no immediate goals of marriage and children. The average age of marriage in DC is around 30! So these young women hook-up with a bunch of fun young guys who don't want relationships either. Then they appreciate a cool older man who treats them well. These women routinely reject young nerds who seek relationships. There are worse fates than dating an older man.

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Anonymous wrote:in the vast majority of these 20-30 year age gaps, the man is frittering away the woman’s tiny window to ... [to] build a family. ... It’s cruel to waste her time.

You seem unfamiliar with Tinder-era recreational sex among 20-somethings. Hannah Rosin wrote about hook-up culture among women MBA students.
https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/09/boys-on-the-side/309062/

Professional students understandably choose temporary relationships because they plan to move for careers. But plenty of men and women waste their twenties aimlessly partying or socializing. There are Bohemian artists and hippies and "failures to launch" with no immediate goals of marriage and children. The average age of marriage in DC is around 30! So these young women hook-up with a bunch of fun young guys who don't want relationships either. Then they appreciate a cool older man who treats them well. These women routinely reject young nerds who seek relationships. There are worse fates than dating an older man.

Anonymous wrote:in the vast majority of these 20-30 year age gaps, the man is frittering away the woman’s tiny window to ... [to] build a family. ... It’s cruel to waste her time.

Anonymous wrote:in the vast majority of these 20-30 year age gaps, the man is frittering away the woman’s tiny window to ... [to] build a family. ... It’s cruel to waste her time.