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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who doesn’t let the guy know where she lives so would never want a guy to pick her up or drive her home. Such an odd dating world where guys don’t want to take the girl out on a first date and women don’t want to get picked up on a date. It sure seems like an untrusting dating world who are very skeptical of the other.

If she's meeting up with strangers from the internet, of course she doesn't want them to know where she lives. Not safe.

So glad I’m not single. I’m not sure what the age group responding is. DH sounds freakin awesome compared to the duds on here.

I don't think it's an age thing; it's an online dating thing. It was easier to ask (or accept) a "real" date if you'd already met the person organically or if you were being set up by a friend. But for people meeting on the apps, nobody wants to invest any time or money until the guy figures out whether the woman actually looks like her pictures and/or the woman feels comfortable the guy isn't a creep.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who doesn’t let the guy know where she lives so would never want a guy to pick her up or drive her home. Such an odd dating world where guys don’t want to take the girl out on a first date and women don’t want to get picked up on a date. It sure seems like an untrusting dating world who are very skeptical of the other.

If she's meeting up with strangers from the internet, of course she doesn't want them to know where she lives. Not safe.

So glad I’m not single. I’m not sure what the age group responding is. DH sounds freakin awesome compared to the duds on here.

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who doesn’t let the guy know where she lives so would never want a guy to pick her up or drive her home. Such an odd dating world where guys don’t want to take the girl out on a first date and women don’t want to get picked up on a date. It sure seems like an untrusting dating world who are very skeptical of the other.

If she's meeting up with strangers from the internet, of course she doesn't want them to know where she lives. Not safe.

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Anonymous wrote:I think for women who don't like walking dates, it's a perceived value thing. Everybody knows if a dude matched with, say, Sydney Sweeney, he ain't asking her to take a walk or anything else low effort/low investment.

These women need to adjust their perceptions of themselves and their expectations. And I say that as a woman.

I look better than her and indeed, men always invite me for restaurants as first intro. I always decline and offer a coffee date

So you’ve got movie star looks and yet are still single. Guess it’s your personality, then…

I was married for almost 20 years. Was taken off market/married in my early 20s. Divorced in early 40s. Yes, I’m often told I look like some movie star and ageless (funny someone mentioned Kendall Jenner, as I’m her doppelgänger). Currently not single, but I prefer long term dating to remarriage.

Uh huh.

I have a friend who doesn’t let the guy know where she lives so would never want a guy to pick her up or drive her home. Such an odd dating world where guys don’t want to take the girl out on a first date and women don’t want to get picked up on a date. It sure seems like an untrusting dating world who are very skeptical of the other.

I went to school and worked in Boston and NYC, both places I walked and did not have a car. We would have had to walk no matter what. So yeah, if a guy asked me to walk to meet to go on a walk, I would think that is not worth it.

I clearly remember there were some guys who would want to meet closer to their place requiring me to travel and I declined. They would come to me.

I have had friends think living uptown vs downtown seemed far. If you don’t think traveling 2 miles in Manhattan to meet a guy is worth it, you are probably not very interested.

I guess this is the same equivalent of a guy not wanting to take a girl out for coffee or a meal. Probably just not into them.

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Anonymous wrote:It must suck to be that borderline girl who the guy wants to see if she is worth taking on a real date. I would hate dating in this world. I’m certain even if I were a divorced single woman, I would not accept a lowly walking date.

What’s “lowly” about it? Yiu could take him to a high end restaurant to see his acceptability, if it’s that important to you.

I had so many guys ask me out when I was younger. These are people I would meet on a daily basis. I had a lot of options so I guess I would just have picked what I would consider the better guy with the better outing. Many guys I went out with was because I was free and could meet up for lunch or dinner. If I didn’t like the guy or interested, I would rather just eat with my friends or eat by myself.

I guess maybe the initial ask out could have been the walking date. I would often be walking when the guy would walk with me to ask me out on an actual date. It would be odd if a guy asking me out would ask me to go on just a walk. Shrug.

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Anonymous wrote:I think for women who don't like walking dates, it's a perceived value thing. Everybody knows if a dude matched with, say, Sydney Sweeney, he ain't asking her to take a walk or anything else low effort/low investment.

These women need to adjust their perceptions of themselves and their expectations. And I say that as a woman.

I look better than her and indeed, men always invite me for restaurants as first intro. I always decline and offer a coffee date

So you’ve got movie star looks and yet are still single. Guess it’s your personality, then…

I was married for almost 20 years. Was taken off market/married in my early 20s. Divorced in early 40s. Yes, I’m often told I look like some movie star and ageless (funny someone mentioned Kendall Jenner, as I’m her doppelgänger). Currently not single, but I prefer long term dating to remarriage.

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Anonymous wrote:I think for women who don't like walking dates, it's a perceived value thing. Everybody knows if a dude matched with, say, Sydney Sweeney, he ain't asking her to take a walk or anything else low effort/low investment.

I’m the pp who said women are willing to accept not being treated well.

I’m pretty if a guy matched with someone who looked like Kendall Jenner, he is not taking her on some walking date. It is the girl who is borderline that he may or may not think will be worth sitting with and spending that $20 or $50 or $100 would be a waste of money.

Or.. he has some self respect and knows he’s a catch, and isn’t interested in being a doormat. A woman who wants to date him will date him, it shouldn’t require only the man jumping through flaming hoops and laying out money to impress a woman.

DP. That's all fine, he doesn't have to jump through any hoops or spend any money if he doesn't want to, just trust and believe that beautiful women have no shortage of men tripping over themselves to plan fun dates and treat to dinners.

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Anonymous wrote:I think for women who don't like walking dates, it's a perceived value thing. Everybody knows if a dude matched with, say, Sydney Sweeney, he ain't asking her to take a walk or anything else low effort/low investment.

These women need to adjust their perceptions of themselves and their expectations. And I say that as a woman.

I look better than her and indeed, men always invite me for restaurants as first intro. I always decline and offer a coffee date

So you’ve got movie star looks and yet are still single. Guess it’s your personality, then…

Anonymous wrote:It must suck to be that borderline girl who the guy wants to see if she is worth taking on a real date. I would hate dating in this world. I’m certain even if I were a divorced single woman, I would not accept a lowly walking date.

What’s “lowly” about it? Yiu could take him to a high end restaurant to see his acceptability, if it’s that important to you.

I actually think if BIL matched with some perfect person, he would take her on a proper date but those girls are all taken and not online looking for a date. They were all snatched up in college, grad school, from a bar, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I think for women who don't like walking dates, it's a perceived value thing. Everybody knows if a dude matched with, say, Sydney Sweeney, he ain't asking her to take a walk or anything else low effort/low investment.

I’m the pp who said women are willing to accept not being treated well.

I’m pretty if a guy matched with someone who looked like Kendall Jenner, he is not taking her on some walking date. It is the girl who is borderline that he may or may not think will be worth sitting with and spending that $20 or $50 or $100 would be a waste of money.

Or.. he has some self respect and knows he’s a catch, and isn’t interested in being a doormat. A woman who wants to date him will date him, it shouldn’t require only the man jumping through flaming hoops and laying out money to impress a woman.

I’m the pp who said my single BIL doesn’t take girls out on a real date when meeting online despite his high income. Yes, he has an effort problem. That is his her problem. He always puts in very little effort for all women he dates whether it is a first date or girlfriend. The girl is always the one doing things for him, the one who wants to get married and he doesn’t. He doesn’t jump through hoops and that is why he is still single. He thinks he is better than everyone. If the girl is hot, she isn’t smart enough. Or the smart well educated ones are kind of boring or not that hot.

It must suck to be that borderline girl who the guy wants to see if she is worth taking on a real date. I would hate dating in this world. I’m certain even if I were a divorced single woman, I would not accept a lowly walking date.

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Anonymous wrote:I think for women who don't like walking dates, it's a perceived value thing. Everybody knows if a dude matched with, say, Sydney Sweeney, he ain't asking her to take a walk or anything else low effort/low investment.

I’m the pp who said women are willing to accept not being treated well.

I’m pretty if a guy matched with someone who looked like Kendall Jenner, he is not taking her on some walking date. It is the girl who is borderline that he may or may not think will be worth sitting with and spending that $20 or $50 or $100 would be a waste of money.

Or.. he has some self respect and knows he’s a catch, and isn’t interested in being a doormat. A woman who wants to date him will date him, it shouldn’t require only the man jumping through flaming hoops and laying out money to impress a woman.