Anonymous wrote:I'm the one who brought cold sore herpes into the marriage, and I had it before being sexually active. Caught it drinking from someone else's glass at school, I suppose. I assume my husband is now positive for it, but he's never gotten tested.

Do you think there could that sort of explanation?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here...thank you all for the laughs.

Your STD is the most curable and not something you can easily go after in a divorce.

Anonymous wrote:OP here...thank you all for the laughs.

Anonymous wrote:I had a partner who came back positive for gonorrhea and became very upset. She got tested after suffering from what seemed like a very painful UTI. We had been on a break and I had slept with other women during the break, so we both figured I got gonorrhea from. One of them. She had no symptoms before we got back together.

Then something unexpected happened. I tested negative! We never knew whether I had a false negative or she had a false positive. Obviously one of the tests was wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:What I thought was a run of the mill yeast infection turned out positive for an std. I've been monogamous and married for 10 yrs, together for 12. We have been quite detached and I've been unhappy but this has really taken me by surprise. We share a child who is 5. What would you do? My DH is generally dismissive and in denial on most things so I imagine he'll gaslit me and deny it when I broach the topic. It's a nightmare to think of co parenting and sharing my time with my child. Can I ask him to move out? Should I call a divorce lawyer before even bringing it up? There is no chance of reconciliation as far as im concerned.

And to preempt what I know at least one person will say, yes I know and am aware I need to now get a full panel std test. Believe me, I know.

Have you gotten tested for TV (Trich) when you’ve had “yeast infections” previously? Maybe your “yeast infections” have always been TV and your husband had nothing to do with it. Even if he’s infected he might well have zero symptoms.

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A sexually transmitted infection caused by a parasite.
Trichomoniasis is among the most common sexually transmitted infections. Risk factors include multiple sexual partners and not using condoms during sex.

And dirty towels

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Anonymous wrote:So what does dh say op?

Do not mention this to dh yet. You need more info and to have a plan before you utter a word.

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Anonymous wrote:The STD is TV.

Oh dear. I’ve had that when celibate. Had it once when a virgin. It’s not just sexually transmitted.

Do you know how you got it? Please share more as this may save OPs marriage.

I've posted this about 100 times on this site but you can get it from a towel and I do know a couple that thought each other cheated because they had this STI.

What was crazy is the doctor was like, yea somebody cheated.

Then the dad cried at his son's pediatrician appointment, and he told the pediatrician what was going on and the pediatrician is like dude do you throw a towel on the floor and reuse it, that's the problem... and if you use the towel to wipe then have s@x again.

Nobody cheated.

Did not happen.

HA. This is the old 'got in a hot tub' stupidity. You aren't getting STDs from towels. It is the longest shot out there.

What I see are a whole lot of guilty people or people in complete denial or a whole lot of people willing to believe the most absurd scenario.

I work in the field. Nobody is getting STIs from towels that dropped on the floor. Omg.

Yes they do and this is why I told OP you can’t trust “Dr/nurse” in the field because most of you are ignorant.

If you “work in the field” and don’t know that you can get this many ways youre Daf.

Trich lives only for 45 minutes on wet surfaces outside human body. So while theoretically possible he got it in a gym, very few people use someone's wet towels, sit with their naked genitalia on dirty toilets etc. I would say, chances are 99.9% that he cheated

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Anonymous wrote:The STD is TV.

Oh dear. I’ve had that when celibate. Had it once when a virgin. It’s not just sexually transmitted.

Do you know how you got it? Please share more as this may save OPs marriage.

I've posted this about 100 times on this site but you can get it from a towel and I do know a couple that thought each other cheated because they had this STI.

What was crazy is the doctor was like, yea somebody cheated.

Then the dad cried at his son's pediatrician appointment, and he told the pediatrician what was going on and the pediatrician is like dude do you throw a towel on the floor and reuse it, that's the problem... and if you use the towel to wipe then have s@x again.

Nobody cheated.

Did not happen.

HA. This is the old 'got in a hot tub' stupidity. You aren't getting STDs from towels. It is the longest shot out there.

What I see are a whole lot of guilty people or people in complete denial or a whole lot of people willing to believe the most absurd scenario.

I work in the field. Nobody is getting STIs from towels that dropped on the floor. Omg.

Yes they do and this is why I told OP you can’t trust “Dr/nurse” in the field because most of you are ignorant.

If you “work in the field” and don’t know that you can get this many ways youre Daf.

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Anonymous wrote:The STD is TV.

Oh dear. I’ve had that when celibate. Had it once when a virgin. It’s not just sexually transmitted.

Do you know how you got it? Please share more as this may save OPs marriage.

I've posted this about 100 times on this site but you can get it from a towel and I do know a couple that thought each other cheated because they had this STI.

What was crazy is the doctor was like, yea somebody cheated.

Then the dad cried at his son's pediatrician appointment, and he told the pediatrician what was going on and the pediatrician is like dude do you throw a towel on the floor and reuse it, that's the problem... and if you use the towel to wipe then have s@x again.

Nobody cheated.

Did not happen.

HA. This is the old 'got in a hot tub' stupidity. You aren't getting STDs from towels. It is the longest shot out there.

What I see are a whole lot of guilty people or people in complete denial or a whole lot of people willing to believe the most absurd scenario.

I work in the field. Nobody is getting STIs from towels that dropped on the floor. Omg.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of false information on here.

Trich is an STD.
Sounds like OP has been with her husband long enough that if it predated the relationship she’d have had serious health consequences of trich (infertility, preterm labor)
So it’s probably unfortunately her husband having an affair

For more information on trich - see this: https://www.health.ny.gov/publications/3839/

more information showing you can get it from a towel.

https://www.healthline.com/health/how-can-you-get-trichomoniasis-if-no-one-cheats

trichomoniasis can be treated NON SEXUALLY