Anonymous wrote:I have an understated yellow gold-citrine ring by Marco Bicego. It’s not flashy in the least, but I’ve received compliments on it in the past, so it doesn’t go completely unnoticed.

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Anonymous wrote:So I just tried to resell my engagement ring (vintage Edwardian which I got because it was pretty, "craftsmanship", sustainable, and didn't care about brands) and it was worth almost nothing. After some internet sleuthing I'm now in the name-brand camp because of resale value in the event I need to resell.

I think from people I know, a pricey and basic-but-not-too-basic IYKYK brand would be Temple St Clair, Cartier, Chopard, Bulgari.

Isn't that the point though? People who are really IYKYK don't care what the resale value of their jewelry is because they will never care.

the only reason to ask for tips on buying jewelry that will signal to people that you have a certain amount of money, is because you are seeking to project a very specific image to those people. The kind of person who wants people to think they have money doesn't care if the jewelry is actually cool or interesting or unique. It's like people who buy a white range rover or lexus SUV. It's for one reason and one reason only and serves the same purpose as wearing a t shirt that says 'hi! I want you to think i have money'.

Yes! We have 3 flash" autos and 5 "beater" ones that we drive personally. The flash ones DH or our driver drives. The regular ones (one is a jeep gladiator mojave, with customizations my DH did) I and DH and our older children drive. One kid wanted a Lexus..whatever. I prefer the Jeep!

Are you on the spectrum?

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Anonymous wrote:So I just tried to resell my engagement ring (vintage Edwardian which I got because it was pretty, "craftsmanship", sustainable, and didn't care about brands) and it was worth almost nothing. After some internet sleuthing I'm now in the name-brand camp because of resale value in the event I need to resell.

I think from people I know, a pricey and basic-but-not-too-basic IYKYK brand would be Temple St Clair, Cartier, Chopard, Bulgari.

Isn't that the point though? People who are really IYKYK don't care what the resale value of their jewelry is because they will never care.

the only reason to ask for tips on buying jewelry that will signal to people that you have a certain amount of money, is because you are seeking to project a very specific image to those people. The kind of person who wants people to think they have money doesn't care if the jewelry is actually cool or interesting or unique. It's like people who buy a white range rover or lexus SUV. It's for one reason and one reason only and serves the same purpose as wearing a t shirt that says 'hi! I want you to think i have money'.

Yes! We have 3 flash" autos and 5 "beater" ones that we drive personally. The flash ones DH or our driver drives. The regular ones (one is a jeep gladiator mojave, with customizations my DH did) I and DH and our older children drive. One kid wanted a Lexus..whatever. I prefer the Jeep!

love our jeep.
grew up in the uk and went to school with a lot of minor aristos. All their families drove classic beaters - volvos, subarus, 10+ year old bmws and the occasional jaguar bc uk.
no one would be seen dead in a white range rover unless they were a WAG.

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Anonymous wrote:Irene Neuwirth

Love love.

How do all these people have so much $? We have $750-1m (depending on year) hhi - but two kids in private and live in nyc and I would never spend this much on a ring that was just for fun.

They don't. People who spend this kind of money on brand name jewelry are all flash and no cash.

So not true. We have plenty of liquid assets and sent our children to private schools/college (they picked the college that fit them best). Some people just have a lot of generational AND self-created wealth. Generational helped get us started, self-made got us our home, vacation home, nice family trips and all the extras like nice cars, gifts, private school, superior health care, good diets, gym/sports memberships, home assistants.

literally want to throw up. just the way you wrote this is so insufferably smug.
I will inherit prob $15-20m, and make high six figures myself, and would never write this - just - so cringe.

But you kinda just did? So cringe.

i didn't and you know that.
you're defending yourself to a stranger who has no idea who you are and just called you out.
i'm not lying but literally wouldn't matter if i was. your whole attitude is gross and people can see right through it IRL.

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Anonymous wrote:So I just tried to resell my engagement ring (vintage Edwardian which I got because it was pretty, "craftsmanship", sustainable, and didn't care about brands) and it was worth almost nothing. After some internet sleuthing I'm now in the name-brand camp because of resale value in the event I need to resell.

I think from people I know, a pricey and basic-but-not-too-basic IYKYK brand would be Temple St Clair, Cartier, Chopard, Bulgari.

Isn't that the point though? People who are really IYKYK don't care what the resale value of their jewelry is because they will never care.

the only reason to ask for tips on buying jewelry that will signal to people that you have a certain amount of money, is because you are seeking to project a very specific image to those people. The kind of person who wants people to think they have money doesn't care if the jewelry is actually cool or interesting or unique. It's like people who buy a white range rover or lexus SUV. It's for one reason and one reason only and serves the same purpose as wearing a t shirt that says 'hi! I want you to think i have money'.

Yes! We have 3 flash" autos and 5 "beater" ones that we drive personally. The flash ones DH or our driver drives. The regular ones (one is a jeep gladiator mojave, with customizations my DH did) I and DH and our older children drive. One kid wanted a Lexus..whatever. I prefer the Jeep!

Anonymous wrote:Yep. Vintage is pretty, but it's literally not collectible. Not now. Not ever. Never! I just threw out a bunch of Victorian era Cameos bc no one wanted them. After I check with relatives, asked around, and finally got appraisals. Nothing. Times have changed and I do not see them going back.

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Anonymous wrote:Irene Neuwirth

Love love.

How do all these people have so much $? We have $750-1m (depending on year) hhi - but two kids in private and live in nyc and I would never spend this much on a ring that was just for fun.

They don't. People who spend this kind of money on brand name jewelry are all flash and no cash.

So not true. We have plenty of liquid assets and sent our children to private schools/college (they picked the college that fit them best). Some people just have a lot of generational AND self-created wealth. Generational helped get us started, self-made got us our home, vacation home, nice family trips and all the extras like nice cars, gifts, private school, superior health care, good diets, gym/sports memberships, home assistants.

literally want to throw up. just the way you wrote this is so insufferably smug.
I will inherit prob $15-20m, and make high six figures myself, and would never write this - just - so cringe.

But you kinda just did? So cringe.

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Anonymous wrote:So I just tried to resell my engagement ring (vintage Edwardian which I got because it was pretty, "craftsmanship", sustainable, and didn't care about brands) and it was worth almost nothing. After some internet sleuthing I'm now in the name-brand camp because of resale value in the event I need to resell.

I think from people I know, a pricey and basic-but-not-too-basic IYKYK brand would be Temple St Clair, Cartier, Chopard, Bulgari.

Isn't that the point though? People who are really IYKYK don't care what the resale value of their jewelry is because they will never care.

the only reason to ask for tips on buying jewelry that will signal to people that you have a certain amount of money, is because you are seeking to project a very specific image to those people. The kind of person who wants people to think they have money doesn't care if the jewelry is actually cool or interesting or unique. It's like people who buy a white range rover or lexus SUV. It's for one reason and one reason only and serves the same purpose as wearing a t shirt that says 'hi! I want you to think i have money'.

Yes! We have 3 flash" autos and 5 "beater" ones that we drive personally. The flash ones DH or our driver drives. The regular ones (one is a jeep gladiator mojave, with customizations my DH did) I and DH and our older children drive. One kid wanted a Lexus..whatever. I prefer the Jeep!

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Anonymous wrote:So I just tried to resell my engagement ring (vintage Edwardian which I got because it was pretty, "craftsmanship", sustainable, and didn't care about brands) and it was worth almost nothing. After some internet sleuthing I'm now in the name-brand camp because of resale value in the event I need to resell.

I think from people I know, a pricey and basic-but-not-too-basic IYKYK brand would be Temple St Clair, Cartier, Chopard, Bulgari.

Isn't that the point though? People who are really IYKYK don't care what the resale value of their jewelry is because they will never care.

the only reason to ask for tips on buying jewelry that will signal to people that you have a certain amount of money, is because you are seeking to project a very specific image to those people. The kind of person who wants people to think they have money doesn't care if the jewelry is actually cool or interesting or unique. It's like people who buy a white range rover or lexus SUV. It's for one reason and one reason only and serves the same purpose as wearing a t shirt that says 'hi! I want you to think i have money'.

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Anonymous wrote:Irene Neuwirth

Love love.

How do all these people have so much $? We have $750-1m (depending on year) hhi - but two kids in private and live in nyc and I would never spend this much on a ring that was just for fun.

They don't. People who spend this kind of money on brand name jewelry are all flash and no cash.

So not true. We have plenty of liquid assets and sent our children to private schools/college (they picked the college that fit them best). Some people just have a lot of generational AND self-created wealth. Generational helped get us started, self-made got us our home, vacation home, nice family trips and all the extras like nice cars, gifts, private school, superior health care, good diets, gym/sports memberships, home assistants.

literally want to throw up. just the way you wrote this is so insufferably smug.
I will inherit prob $15-20m, and make high six figures myself, and would never write this - just - so cringe.

But you kinda just did? So cringe.

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Anonymous wrote:Irene Neuwirth

Love love.

How do all these people have so much $? We have $750-1m (depending on year) hhi - but two kids in private and live in nyc and I would never spend this much on a ring that was just for fun.

They don't. People who spend this kind of money on brand name jewelry are all flash and no cash.

So not true. We have plenty of liquid assets and sent our children to private schools/college (they picked the college that fit them best). Some people just have a lot of generational AND self-created wealth. Generational helped get us started, self-made got us our home, vacation home, nice family trips and all the extras like nice cars, gifts, private school, superior health care, good diets, gym/sports memberships, home assistants.

literally want to throw up. just the way you wrote this is so insufferably smug.
I will inherit prob $15-20m, and make high six figures myself, and would never write this - just - so cringe.