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Anonymous wrote:Teachers aren’t griping about parents like you PP. I think the replies make that very clear. There are a large percentage of children who are raising themselves for whatever reason. When you have a large percentage of your class with kids who have never been taught anything at home, the classroom environment is negatively affected for every student.

This. And its way more students than can be explained by SN.

Exactly. I see behaviors in my kindergarten students that are more typical of toddlers-3 yr olds. Many of them have never heard the word "no" before and they react in meltdowns, similar to a toddler. Teachers shouldn't be the first limits kids have.

Exactly this. And it’s difficult to deal with in the kindergarten context. In preschool you might have 12 kids and 2 teachers. In K we have 18 kids and 1 teacher. Tantrums are really not practical.

when you think about it, some of the current 5 year olds were in utero during stay at home orders and it was a period of very high stress for pregnant women.

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Anonymous wrote:Teachers aren’t griping about parents like you PP. I think the replies make that very clear. There are a large percentage of children who are raising themselves for whatever reason. When you have a large percentage of your class with kids who have never been taught anything at home, the classroom environment is negatively affected for every student.

This. And its way more students than can be explained by SN.

Exactly. I see behaviors in my kindergarten students that are more typical of toddlers-3 yr olds. Many of them have never heard the word "no" before and they react in meltdowns, similar to a toddler. Teachers shouldn't be the first limits kids have.

Exactly this. And it’s difficult to deal with in the kindergarten context. In preschool you might have 12 kids and 2 teachers. In K we have 18 kids and 1 teacher. Tantrums are really not practical.

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Anonymous wrote:Teachers aren’t griping about parents like you PP. I think the replies make that very clear. There are a large percentage of children who are raising themselves for whatever reason. When you have a large percentage of your class with kids who have never been taught anything at home, the classroom environment is negatively affected for every student.

This. And its way more students than can be explained by SN.

Exactly. I see behaviors in my kindergarten students that are more typical of toddlers-3 yr olds. Many of them have never heard the word "no" before and they react in meltdowns, similar to a toddler. Teachers shouldn't be the first limits kids have.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is behaviorally challenging and I'll tell you why. We lost several family members due to COVID and I am an ICU nurse so she didn't see me much. It wasn't just the screens. Maybe for the banana bread crew, but not all of us were.

If true, your case is a rare unicorn. That is NOT the cause of ill-behaved kids in school in 99.9999999% of cases. No.

Check yourself

https://www.nih.gov/news-events/news-releases/more-140000-us-children-lost-primary-or-secondary-caregiver-due-covid-19-pandemic

DP. The average poster HERE is not in that cohort and we all goddamned know it. Signed - someone who lost a grandparent to COVID, and yet managed to parent a child in K at the start of the pandemic with zero of the generalized jerkoff behaviors identified by the OP and others willing to call it what it is.

Oh im sorry. I didn’t realize you did a census of DCUM posters and compared them to the study

And btw, based on your response, your kids clearly were exposed to some toxicity by you

Oh no, let me apologize! Did your kids lose your husband and both sets of grandparents? I’m so sorry, I didn’t realize that you weren’t just argumentative and excuse-making but a poor and suffering soul.

I don’t know if you realize this - you could parent your sh!tbeasts, it’ll be an amazing change of pace. You wouldn’t get pissy about people describing horrendous kids because it might not describe yours for once.

First lost a grandparent. Now it's husband and both sets of grandparents. Oh ok. got it.

I didn’t say that was my situation, ya utter gobshite. (“Now you’re posting like you’re from abroad huhhhhhh??”) Is it your situation? Of course not. Did you lose anyone? No. Oh, so you were part of a cohort where most were essential workers without redundancy in childcare? No. But…you think *this* parenting board is largely frequented by people in professions deemed essential? No, unless you’re an absolute idiot. So, you’re offended because you know you don’t have COVID as a basis for lazy-assed parenting to a wack-assed kid or kids. Oh, ok.

And one wonders why kids are behaving poorly. You e got trashy parents raising them like this poster

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is behaviorally challenging and I'll tell you why. We lost several family members due to COVID and I am an ICU nurse so she didn't see me much. It wasn't just the screens. Maybe for the banana bread crew, but not all of us were.

If true, your case is a rare unicorn. That is NOT the cause of ill-behaved kids in school in 99.9999999% of cases. No.

Check yourself

https://www.nih.gov/news-events/news-releases/more-140000-us-children-lost-primary-or-secondary-caregiver-due-covid-19-pandemic

DP. The average poster HERE is not in that cohort and we all goddamned know it. Signed - someone who lost a grandparent to COVID, and yet managed to parent a child in K at the start of the pandemic with zero of the generalized jerkoff behaviors identified by the OP and others willing to call it what it is.

Oh im sorry. I didn’t realize you did a census of DCUM posters and compared them to the study

And btw, based on your response, your kids clearly were exposed to some toxicity by you

Oh no, let me apologize! Did your kids lose your husband and both sets of grandparents? I’m so sorry, I didn’t realize that you weren’t just argumentative and excuse-making but a poor and suffering soul.

I don’t know if you realize this - you could parent your sh!tbeasts, it’ll be an amazing change of pace. You wouldn’t get pissy about people describing horrendous kids because it might not describe yours for once.

First lost a grandparent. Now it's husband and both sets of grandparents. Oh ok. got it.

I didn’t say that was my situation, ya utter gobshite. (“Now you’re posting like you’re from abroad huhhhhhh??”) Is it your situation? Of course not. Did you lose anyone? No. Oh, so you were part of a cohort where most were essential workers without redundancy in childcare? No. But…you think *this* parenting board is largely frequented by people in professions deemed essential? No, unless you’re an absolute idiot. So, you’re offended because you know you don’t have COVID as a basis for lazy-assed parenting to a wack-assed kid or kids. Oh, ok.

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Anonymous wrote:Teachers aren’t griping about parents like you PP. I think the replies make that very clear. There are a large percentage of children who are raising themselves for whatever reason. When you have a large percentage of your class with kids who have never been taught anything at home, the classroom environment is negatively affected for every student.

This. And its way more students than can be explained by SN.

Anonymous wrote:Teachers aren’t griping about parents like you PP. I think the replies make that very clear. There are a large percentage of children who are raising themselves for whatever reason. When you have a large percentage of your class with kids who have never been taught anything at home, the classroom environment is negatively affected for every student.

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes you just get stuck with a really bad cohort and the terrible thing is that it lasts for six years in elementary school. Third grade in my school is particularly bad too. I definitely think it’s some lingering Covid effects.

I don’t buy Covid excuses. These third graders have been in school for over 2 years now

But the 3rd graders missed out on K, where the majority of behavioral expectations are set. They likely didn’t learn much in K either, so 1st and 2nd were a lot of catch up work. If you consider that they missed K, and then 1st was a bunch of makeup work and basic expectation setting for kids who hadn’t been in a group setting in many months … they’re probably still dealing with some after effects and will continue to do so.

The COVID card is expired, folks. You’re going to have to find a new excuse. DP

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Anonymous wrote:The behavior was going south pre-pandemic. Don't blame it on Covid.

As a teacher I wholeheartedly agree. So many kids we get have clearly never heard, or at least never had enforced prior to K:

1. Be quiet, someone else is talking or its not time for talking
2. Wait, its not your turn
3. Multistep directions (ie: do X first, and only do Y after doing X.)

Parents, this is on you.

I have 2 NT kids who do well in school, whose teachers gush about their behavior, and are just generally overall polite kids. And one kid with fairly severe ADHD and possible ASD who gets dysregulated and can be disruptive in class.

So which outcome is on me as a parent? Do you really think we’re parenting just one kid differently?

FWIW, we do have good relationships with his teachers, always answer school phone calls, attend frequent IEP meetings, are doing therapies and meds, and try to reinforce things at home the school is working on. But it’s hard and depressing to hear a teacher lay blame on parents entirely.

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Anonymous wrote:The behavior was going south pre-pandemic. Don't blame it on Covid.

As a teacher I wholeheartedly agree. So many kids we get have clearly never heard, or at least never had enforced prior to K:

1. Be quiet, someone else is talking or its not time for talking
2. Wait, its not your turn
3. Multistep directions (ie: do X first, and only do Y after doing X.)

Parents, this is on you.

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Anonymous wrote:Teacher here: most kids lack good families to raise them…this is the result.

So are millennial/Gen-X parents just really poor parents compared to their boomer parents? Is that really what it comes down to? I just don't recall my friends parents being super-involved in the 80s either, there were lots of latchkey kids. But the vast majority weren't going apesh-t at school.

This is what I don't get. My parents were SUPER lax in the 80s. They didn't teach me manners, they hardly taught me anything. We had a "go outside and play and come home when it gets dark" upbringing. I feel like I learned manners sort of through osmosis at school? Also there were strict expectations at school -- you had to say please and thank you, you couldn't talk back, if you fought with other kids, you'd get in trouble. Not corporal punishment but like detention or sent to the principal. We didn't want those things so we complied.

I think one reason my parents did so little parenting is that we got it at school. I remember being taught to tie my shoes and brush my teeth in preschool. My parents definitely didn't teach me those things. My parents were so lax that stuff the schools didn't teach me (like swimming and riding a bike), I simply didn't learn. But I have good manners. Though not with my parents! I used to talk back to my parents so much! Never to teachers, but my parents were so lax I could say anything to them and never really got in trouble. Or sometimes I'd get in trouble but only after they said worse things to me than I said them, so I didn't learn anything. Again, I learned it at school.

Not saying millennial/Gen X parents don't have issues with parenting. But I can tell you I spend way more time actually parenting than my parents did. I've tought my kid all kinds of stuff that my parents never discussed with me, including stuff like polite manners, keeping hands to yourself, walking away from conflicts rather than engaging, being respectful to teachers and other minders, etc. Also practical things like how to brush teeth or tie shoes. Schools don't teach this stuff anymore, not even the expensive private preschool I sent my kid to for ages 3 and 4. Schools want kids to show up with this knowledge. They also expected my kid to show up with basic literacy skills for K, so I taught that too.

Not the PP, but I definitely think the shifting expectations at school has not helped. In the 80s we all went to half day kindergarten and spent most of the day playing, not sitting. Those who complain about kids not being able to sit still should take a step back and ask how we got here rather than just blame it on parents. Maybe kindergarten and 1st grade shouldn’t be so intense to begin with.

No, sorry. Plenty of kids are succeeding in kindergarten. They aren’t asked to “sit still” nonstop all day. Many kids can do and are doing what the teacher asks of them.

It’s parenting.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I just volunteered in my kids' 3rd grade and K classrooms in APS and it seemed pretty buttoned up. Could I do it everyday? Naw. Was it what I expected for a bunch of kids during a party? Yes, it seemed well within the realm of normal.

Like PP, I think I would look into moving my kid if it was as wild as you describe.

Anonymous wrote:The behavior was going south pre-pandemic. Don't blame it on Covid.