Anonymous wrote:OP, what state are you in?

OP had bailed on the thread because she didn’t want to give any details.

Annie.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband has absolutely no sense of humor. I like to be silly and have fun. It’s boring but he makes good money.

Well, all the women I know who married silly and fun men ended up resenting them because they aren't serious enough. No one is perfect.

+1 You either have an anti-social misanthrope or you have to worry about cheating with the charismatic, social ones. There’s a middle-ground, I suppose, but I suspect it is sparsely populated.

Anonymous wrote:My husband has absolutely no sense of humor. I like to be silly and have fun. It’s boring but he makes good money.

Well, all the women I know who married silly and fun men ended up resenting them because they aren't serious enough. No one is perfect.

Maybe he’s on the spectrum.

LOL I spent the 4th at a community pool reading as my DH went around talking to all the other folks and parents he knows.

Thank God he accepts me how I am and focuses on what I bring to our relationship rather than how he wishes I would change.

I was reading a book related to my profession which I am passionate about. That’s my idea of fun and my spouse gets it.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, American women are terrible, Europe and Asians woman would be jumping at the chance to be with your husband as he doesn't sound like an alcoholic, abuser and is level headed. Go ahead and cheat you dumb American, he can get someone younger and nicer than you.

If you don’t like Americans then get the f*ck off this Board you racist ahole

American is not a race you complete idiot.

My husband has absolutely no sense of humor. I like to be silly and have fun. It’s boring but he makes good money.

OP, what state are you in?

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Anonymous wrote:Op is Annie

Why would I do that?? I SUSPECT the OP is an air-headed, narcissistic twat, but would simply like to hear more.

Annie.

What a non-witty example of just that "Annie"!

namecalling, accusing others of what you are, bullying people to do what you want.

Excellent case in point of an "air-headed, narc twat who 'simply' demands their queries be answered now."

My request isn’t narcissistic. I’m not making the conversation about me. I’m very, very happy to make it about her, since that’s what this thread is about. But now she doesn’t want to discuss how horrible her life is anymore. Hm.

I didn’t say “now”. It’s been a day or so, and she has probably abandoned the thread. These are very simple questions and she’s unwilling to come back and tell us details.

You’d think I was asking for her social security number or bra cup size or something. Jeez… I just would like details about the nature of her oh-so-riveting poolside conversations and the husband’s book.

Annie.

That's comforting to anti-social types.
Just having someone else in the house with them silently. That security blanket validates their existence and importance. Meanwhile, it invalidates a neurotypical person, since they are neglected and ignored.

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I have not read all of the comments but understand that your husband bagged the deer when he married you and no longer has to work at having "fun" in your relationship.

I'd tell him you want to start a date night every week where he plans the evening out, he picks the restaurant, and he picks the entertainment.


+1

I too am an extrovert married to an introvert who has not initiated or planned a date night in 15 years, even if requested to do so. Now that we are approaching empty nesthood, I find myself just scheduling things to do with friends by myself. Spouse doesn't like that either. Apparently I am supposed to sit at home downstairs watching TV while spouse reads a book upstairs. Have gotten to point of DGAF. Would suggest counseling but that would require me to plan that too.

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Yes! If he can’t even play along on a holiday that doesn’t require much effort (no religious services, no elaborate meal expectations, no office obligations), then how can I count on him to show even a minimum of effort or enthusiasm for interacting with me as a human being on the harder, regular days?

You obviously have no idea how much effort it takes for an introvert to make small talk with strangers. We hate it. It's exhausting.

But interacting with you sounds exhausting too, tbh.

God, you whiny “OMG iM aN iNtRoVErT” people are so ridiculous. You really don’t need to go home and collapse dramatically on your fainting couch every time you make polite conversation with other adults.

Goes hand in hand with total self-centeredness too.

I feel bad for kids with a parent like that.

Rarely connecting, begging for attention, no social activities (because Dad doesn’t do those and who cares!), loss of conversation skills.

Other parent had better over-compensate.

+1

How often is this guy never actually talking or interacting with his family in the house or out of it? Weird.

Anonymous wrote:I have not read all of the comments but understand that your husband bagged the deer when he married you and no longer has to work at having "fun" in your relationship.

I'd tell him you want to start a date night every week where he plans the evening out, he picks the restaurant, and he picks the entertainment.

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op is Annie

Why would I do that?? I SUSPECT the OP is an air-headed, narcissistic twat, but would simply like to hear more.

Annie.

What a non-witty example of just that "Annie"!

namecalling, accusing others of what you are, bullying people to do what you want.

Excellent case in point of an "air-headed, narc twat who 'simply' demands their queries be answered now."