Anonymous wrote:Have you checked her registry? For my shower my MIL gave me my kitchen aid mixer and my mother gave me 2 Le Creuset pots. I still use them both regularly 15 years later. In my experience women who don't like jewelry will probably not like a Chanel bag. My ILs paid for our rehearsal dinner but I don't think they gave us a wedding gift. My parents paid for the wedding then purchased the china and crystal pieces that were left on our registry so that we had a complete set.

I would much prefer a mixer over jewelry.

My MIL didn't have much money but she'd pay attention and get me really nice practical gifts, many I still use many years after she passed. Silly stuff but things like her favorite can opener, some ice tea spoons, and other things.

I stopped wearing jewelry years ago. I didn't want to wear it at work and later when I had a young child who would pull at it and I just never went back to wearing it.

I would hate art, I would hate a fancy purse and be scared to use it and ruin it, etc.

How about some new furniture? I would have liked something like my dress and vail if her mom isn't doing it.

My nephew and his new wife just moved twice in a year. They will tell you exactly what they would like, if anything, because moving makes you anti-clutter. I would give them a gift card for the photographer they used in the wedding for a future portrait.

Marie Kondo's KonMari website has several gardening items that might fit the bill of a small useful gift. I liked the Japanese shears, ikebana supplies and the Verdigris birdhouse.

My mil got mea gorgeous vintage crystal vase that I use all the time and love.

Newly married/young couples/families with kids still at home, at least in metropolitan areas generally are stuck renting until much later in life than prior generations or if they do own their homes, they simple aren't that big. My MIL is very sweet and generous, but I think she forgets that we do not have a sprawling 5 bedroom ranch with finished basement, 2 car garage, on 1.2 acres.

All that to say, steer away from things, steer toward experiences/gift card type options like those suggested (spa, plant nursery, etc).

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Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some

This is why Boomers need to really just stop.

That's a shower gift between women.

Boomer MIL: But *I’m* a woman! Surely DIL will want our family’s generational quilted Fertility Neglige. It still smells of Great Grandma Betty’s White Shoulders perfume!

Of course she is, and may decide to give her something feminine for a bridal shower. However, OP is specifically asking for a "welcome to the family" wedding day gift.

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Anonymous wrote:Rolex. Even if she doesn’t wear jewelry, she most certainly wears a watch?

Only if the Rolex can connect to her smart phone.

Rolexes are pretentious and could set her up to be mugged.

Check the registry. Truly. If there isn't one, or if it's only a cash fund of some kind, then she really doesn't want STUFF.

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Anonymous wrote:Rolex. Even if she doesn’t wear jewelry, she most certainly wears a watch?

OP said she already helped DS pick a watch out for his bride.

I haven't worn a watch in a decade - since I started carrying around an iPhone.

Ovens have clocks so women don’t need watches

How clever you are! Yes, OP should buy her an oven.

Anonymous wrote:The only good answer in this thread is the tree. But don't pick the tree out for this woman, let them pick it out.

The seed gift was recommended by Oprah.

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Anonymous wrote:Rolex. Even if she doesn’t wear jewelry, she most certainly wears a watch?

OP said she already helped DS pick a watch out for his bride.

I haven't worn a watch in a decade - since I started carrying around an iPhone.

Ovens have clocks so women don’t need watches

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Anonymous wrote:I’m old fashioned (but not a Boomer - Gen X) and think that heavy Cranes stationery with “The Lastnames” on it would be nice, if they are sharing a name. Or their combined names, if that’s what they are doing.

I'm also a GenXer (1965). This would never get used in my house and I'd find a way to recycle it as soon as possible.

Yep (1979). Maybe if it were Jane Smith, but not The Smiths. I don’t handle correspondence for my husband like a secretary.

Anonymous wrote:I’m old fashioned (but not a Boomer - Gen X) and think that heavy Cranes stationery with “The Lastnames” on it would be nice, if they are sharing a name. Or their combined names, if that’s what they are doing.

I'm also a GenXer (1965). This would never get used in my house and I'd find a way to recycle it as soon as possible.

Anonymous wrote:Rolex. Even if she doesn’t wear jewelry, she most certainly wears a watch?

Only if the Rolex can connect to her smart phone.

Anonymous wrote:OP said she likes to garden- I'd do a gift card do a local nursery and let her pick out some plants for the garden. Or perhaps something to plant to commemorate the wedding like trees? We did something similar when my grandfather died and planted his favorite type of tree where he liked to sit in the lawn.

Thank you for chiming in on page 10 to “contribute” an idea already shared and discuss.