Anonymous
02/01/2023 11:08
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
what's your rain plan?
i ask because we went to a wedding in a tent where the bathrooms were a walk away from a tent - maybe like a 2 min walk to the main bathroom. it was windy, started raining, and it was miserable having to go to the bathroom in my very nice gown and shoes.
i ask because we went to a wedding in a tent where the bathrooms were a walk away from a tent - maybe like a 2 min walk to the main bathroom. it was windy, started raining, and it was miserable having to go to the bathroom in my very nice gown and shoes.
Anonymous
02/01/2023 11:05
Subject: Re:Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We did this with our guests. Catholic wedding so needed a church for the ceremony. It was in the middle of Manhattan so transportation didn’t make sense for a few blocks.
....................I may have attended this wedding. Catholic Church to fancy club in NYC? Not arranging for transport was a sh*tshow. We couldnt' get ubers and we all wound up walking for blocks in heels and dresses we did not want sweaty. It was incredibly annoying.
Pay for transport. Economize elsewhere if you need to
Ha, not that was not my wedding. Mine was in the fall on a cool day and we walked along with our guests through Grand Central Station. Only thing we heard was that I walked too fast (nervous energy!) a guest with a double stroller couldn't get through a door and needed help.
We had arranged for cars for the older guests, but if I remember correctly, everyone ended up walking. It was a fun memory.
NP. Yeah, my friend did something similar. It was fun for her, not the rest of us. She was so excited about how cool and fun it was to have a mini parade that we all smiled and agreed. My other friends and I weren't going to burst her bubble but we all thought it was not only cheap but rude. We would have preferred to take cabs/Uber but we felt guilted into having to walk with the bride and groom.
It's another example of the "My Special Day" mentality in many brides in recent years. A parade with me in my gorgeous dress, leading it! So people who are total strangers to me can see Me and My Parade.
+1
Anything for social media!
To add: My cousin just had a wedding a few months ago. At the start of the ceremony, the officiant stated that the bride and groom requested all phones be put away for the evening. Every single guest complied. It was amazing - seeing everyone dancing and singing and laughing - and not one phone. There was nothing "for show", no demands, no slights, no weirdness, no leaving anyone out, no snark - just genuine happiness for the couple.
I think more brides and their families could take note.
Yuck. I am paying for transport, hotel, childcare for my kids, gift for the bride and groom. Don't tell me I can't snap a couple pix at the reception when I'm getting to see old friends and would love some photo memories of us all dressed up together.
I loved seeing ppl's pix from my own wedding, it's of them and other guests. Different focus than the prof photog.
Anonymous
02/01/2023 11:03
Subject: Re:Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Is the first venue a church or other religious place? Otherwise I would find two separate venues to be annoying as a guest.
Fine not to provide transport as long as you let people know and plan. They can take Ubers etc. Let them know if parking is available for ppl who want to drive. Try to make some arrangement for elderly guests
Fine not to provide transport as long as you let people know and plan. They can take Ubers etc. Let them know if parking is available for ppl who want to drive. Try to make some arrangement for elderly guests
Anonymous
02/01/2023 10:26
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is why I like the ceremony and reception to be held in the same place. It avoids all this whining!
Not possible if you are getting married in a church.
Most people under 40 do not get married in a church these days, especially if it is not the grandparents' church and/or denomination.
Anonymous
02/01/2023 10:24
Subject: Re:Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We did this with our guests. Catholic wedding so needed a church for the ceremony. It was in the middle of Manhattan so transportation didn’t make sense for a few blocks.
....................I may have attended this wedding. Catholic Church to fancy club in NYC? Not arranging for transport was a sh*tshow. We couldnt' get ubers and we all wound up walking for blocks in heels and dresses we did not want sweaty. It was incredibly annoying.
Pay for transport. Economize elsewhere if you need to
Ha, not that was not my wedding. Mine was in the fall on a cool day and we walked along with our guests through Grand Central Station. Only thing we heard was that I walked too fast (nervous energy!) a guest with a double stroller couldn't get through a door and needed help.
We had arranged for cars for the older guests, but if I remember correctly, everyone ended up walking. It was a fun memory.
NP. Yeah, my friend did something similar. It was fun for her, not the rest of us. She was so excited about how cool and fun it was to have a mini parade that we all smiled and agreed. My other friends and I weren't going to burst her bubble but we all thought it was not only cheap but rude. We would have preferred to take cabs/Uber but we felt guilted into having to walk with the bride and groom.
It's another example of the "My Special Day" mentality in many brides in recent years. A parade with me in my gorgeous dress, leading it! So people who are total strangers to me can see Me and My Parade.
+1
Anything for social media!
To add: My cousin just had a wedding a few months ago. At the start of the ceremony, the officiant stated that the bride and groom requested all phones be put away for the evening. Every single guest complied. It was amazing - seeing everyone dancing and singing and laughing - and not one phone. There was nothing "for show", no demands, no slights, no weirdness, no leaving anyone out, no snark - just genuine happiness for the couple.
I think more brides and their families could take note.
Also, no drama!
Anonymous
02/01/2023 10:19
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:This is why I like the ceremony and reception to be held in the same place. It avoids all this whining!
Not possible if you are getting married in a church.
Anonymous
02/01/2023 10:13
Subject: Re:Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We did this with our guests. Catholic wedding so needed a church for the ceremony. It was in the middle of Manhattan so transportation didn’t make sense for a few blocks.
....................I may have attended this wedding. Catholic Church to fancy club in NYC? Not arranging for transport was a sh*tshow. We couldnt' get ubers and we all wound up walking for blocks in heels and dresses we did not want sweaty. It was incredibly annoying.
Pay for transport. Economize elsewhere if you need to
Ha, not that was not my wedding. Mine was in the fall on a cool day and we walked along with our guests through Grand Central Station. Only thing we heard was that I walked too fast (nervous energy!) a guest with a double stroller couldn't get through a door and needed help.
We had arranged for cars for the older guests, but if I remember correctly, everyone ended up walking. It was a fun memory.
NP. Yeah, my friend did something similar. It was fun for her, not the rest of us. She was so excited about how cool and fun it was to have a mini parade that we all smiled and agreed. My other friends and I weren't going to burst her bubble but we all thought it was not only cheap but rude. We would have preferred to take cabs/Uber but we felt guilted into having to walk with the bride and groom.
It's another example of the "My Special Day" mentality in many brides in recent years. A parade with me in my gorgeous dress, leading it! So people who are total strangers to me can see Me and My Parade.
+1
Anything for social media!
To add: My cousin just had a wedding a few months ago. At the start of the ceremony, the officiant stated that the bride and groom requested all phones be put away for the evening. Every single guest complied. It was amazing - seeing everyone dancing and singing and laughing - and not one phone. There was nothing "for show", no demands, no slights, no weirdness, no leaving anyone out, no snark - just genuine happiness for the couple.
I think more brides and their families could take note.
Anonymous
01/31/2023 20:19
Subject: Re:Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We did this with our guests. Catholic wedding so needed a church for the ceremony. It was in the middle of Manhattan so transportation didn’t make sense for a few blocks.
....................I may have attended this wedding. Catholic Church to fancy club in NYC? Not arranging for transport was a sh*tshow. We couldnt' get ubers and we all wound up walking for blocks in heels and dresses we did not want sweaty. It was incredibly annoying.
Pay for transport. Economize elsewhere if you need to
Ha, not that was not my wedding. Mine was in the fall on a cool day and we walked along with our guests through Grand Central Station. Only thing we heard was that I walked too fast (nervous energy!) a guest with a double stroller couldn't get through a door and needed help.
We had arranged for cars for the older guests, but if I remember correctly, everyone ended up walking. It was a fun memory.
NP. Yeah, my friend did something similar. It was fun for her, not the rest of us. She was so excited about how cool and fun it was to have a mini parade that we all smiled and agreed. My other friends and I weren't going to burst her bubble but we all thought it was not only cheap but rude. We would have preferred to take cabs/Uber but we felt guilted into having to walk with the bride and groom.
It's another example of the "My Special Day" mentality in many brides in recent years. A parade with me in my gorgeous dress, leading it! So people who are total strangers to me can see Me and My Parade.
+1
Anything for social media!
Anonymous
01/31/2023 20:15
Subject: Re:Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
You need to provide some transportation, even if it is a friend driving a minivan back and forth. Many will walk, but lots of people have health issues and will be wearing shoes not great for walking.
Anonymous
01/31/2023 18:58
Subject: Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’ve got to be kidding me. 10 minutes is like 5 blocks. Sure, arrange transport for the elderly and disabled but most should be fine.
+1 have done this at tons of weddings.... not a big deal at all, just get help for elderly/guests with health matters
In downtown DC in summer? I suspect not. You'd remember how those sweat stains (not just under your arms) forever wrecked your clothing, and how miserable you were by the time you got to the reception. Yeah, after just 10 minutes. It's literally swamp weather here in summer. Even in the evenings, many days.
I mean, is this any different than the numerous outdoor weddings we have all been to in the mid-Atlantic in July? So I'm going to sweat while I walk from the church to the reception hall? No worse than sweating to death during the ceremony and/or cocktail hour in that beautiful sunny, hot and humid garden because a hotel ballroom wasn't good enough for you.
I'm the PP to whom you're responding. Haven't been to a single outdoor wedding in this area in the 35 years I've lived here and attended many a wedding. Most couples who are from the area know better than to do this, especially in summer. At least the folks I've known. The only thing that came close was a reception at a winery that was on a large, partially covered patio, and that was in September, not July.
Anonymous
01/31/2023 18:55
Subject: Re:Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We did this with our guests. Catholic wedding so needed a church for the ceremony. It was in the middle of Manhattan so transportation didn’t make sense for a few blocks.
....................I may have attended this wedding. Catholic Church to fancy club in NYC? Not arranging for transport was a sh*tshow. We couldnt' get ubers and we all wound up walking for blocks in heels and dresses we did not want sweaty. It was incredibly annoying.
Pay for transport. Economize elsewhere if you need to
Ha, not that was not my wedding. Mine was in the fall on a cool day and we walked along with our guests through Grand Central Station. Only thing we heard was that I walked too fast (nervous energy!) a guest with a double stroller couldn't get through a door and needed help.
We had arranged for cars for the older guests, but if I remember correctly, everyone ended up walking. It was a fun memory.
NP. Yeah, my friend did something similar. It was fun for her, not the rest of us. She was so excited about how cool and fun it was to have a mini parade that we all smiled and agreed. My other friends and I weren't going to burst her bubble but we all thought it was not only cheap but rude. We would have preferred to take cabs/Uber but we felt guilted into having to walk with the bride and groom.
It's another example of the "My Special Day" mentality in many brides in recent years. A parade with me in my gorgeous dress, leading it! So people who are total strangers to me can see Me and My Parade.
Anonymous
01/31/2023 18:23
Subject: Re:Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We did this with our guests. Catholic wedding so needed a church for the ceremony. It was in the middle of Manhattan so transportation didn’t make sense for a few blocks.
....................I may have attended this wedding. Catholic Church to fancy club in NYC? Not arranging for transport was a sh*tshow. We couldnt' get ubers and we all wound up walking for blocks in heels and dresses we did not want sweaty. It was incredibly annoying.
Pay for transport. Economize elsewhere if you need to
Ha, not that was not my wedding. Mine was in the fall on a cool day and we walked along with our guests through Grand Central Station. Only thing we heard was that I walked too fast (nervous energy!) a guest with a double stroller couldn't get through a door and needed help.
We had arranged for cars for the older guests, but if I remember correctly, everyone ended up walking. It was a fun memory.
I am fit and athletic and I’d be totally annoyed to have to trek through Grand Central for a wedding reception. Yikes.
Anonymous
01/31/2023 17:10
Subject: Re:Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Here’s what will happen. It will be raining or gross outside when the ceremony ends, and people won’t be able to get Ubers right away due to the number of problem requesting them. So they will go to the bar across the street to wait 30 min until the crowd clears and they can get an Uber. 30 min will turn into 60 min will turn into 2 hours, and then you will end up with a bunch of people showing up late and drunk to your reception. Enjoy!
Yep!
Here’s what I would probably do. Not even go to the ceremony and must show up fresh and non-sweaty to the )hopefully indoor) reception. There is nothing more I hate than being dressed up and sweaty and I’ll do anything to avoid it including sit in an air-conditioned car until it’s precisely two minutes before I have to be somewhere. Princessy, whatever. No one cares about the ceremony; they just want to go to the party.
Anonymous
01/31/2023 17:09
Subject: Re:Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We did this with our guests. Catholic wedding so needed a church for the ceremony. It was in the middle of Manhattan so transportation didn’t make sense for a few blocks.
....................I may have attended this wedding. Catholic Church to fancy club in NYC? Not arranging for transport was a sh*tshow. We couldnt' get ubers and we all wound up walking for blocks in heels and dresses we did not want sweaty. It was incredibly annoying.
Pay for transport. Economize elsewhere if you need to
Ha, not that was not my wedding. Mine was in the fall on a cool day and we walked along with our guests through Grand Central Station. Only thing we heard was that I walked too fast (nervous energy!) a guest with a double stroller couldn't get through a door and needed help.
We had arranged for cars for the older guests, but if I remember correctly, everyone ended up walking. It was a fun memory.
NP. Yeah, my friend did something similar. It was fun for her, not the rest of us. She was so excited about how cool and fun it was to have a mini parade that we all smiled and agreed. My other friends and I weren't going to burst her bubble but we all thought it was not only cheap but rude. We would have preferred to take cabs/Uber but we felt guilted into having to walk with the bride and groom.
Anonymous
01/31/2023 16:48
Subject: Re:Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We did this with our guests. Catholic wedding so needed a church for the ceremony. It was in the middle of Manhattan so transportation didn’t make sense for a few blocks.
....................I may have attended this wedding. Catholic Church to fancy club in NYC? Not arranging for transport was a sh*tshow. We couldnt' get ubers and we all wound up walking for blocks in heels and dresses we did not want sweaty. It was incredibly annoying.
Pay for transport. Economize elsewhere if you need to
Ha, not that was not my wedding. Mine was in the fall on a cool day and we walked along with our guests through Grand Central Station. Only thing we heard was that I walked too fast (nervous energy!) a guest with a double stroller couldn't get through a door and needed help.
We had arranged for cars for the older guests, but if I remember correctly, everyone ended up walking. It was a fun memory.
YATA. It was fun for YOU
+1