Anonymous
05/19/2022 10:23
Subject: I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I had one of my children fostered for a time. If I became pregnant then, I planned to give the baby up for adoption. I was unable to care for another person, and was too mentally ill to even trust myself with another child.
I am doing much better now, but no one would have been forcing me. I would have been the one insisting on it. My last child was conceived with an IUD in place, and I was terrified it might happen again.
It's true that sometimes mothers are forced to give up children, but sometimes a mother will choose to do this as well. I feel it would have been a valid choice. At this point, I would be able to take care of another child, but I would never feel comfortable with abortion, personally. I would rather give up a child.
I feel that some posters in this thread are the same people who were horrified when my child was fostered. They told me I was abandoning my child. They did not know I was suicidal and knew deeply that this has to happen for us to have any chance at a future.
How is your story relevant to this post? The OPs birth mother was not mentally ill. Did religious beliefs affect your choice?
I think it is extremely relevant. There are many reasons a woman may choose adoption. Just because you don't agree with that choice doesn't give you the right to berate someone for it.
+1
OP knows the reason her mother gave her up. It is not yours, it’s because of the Baptist grandparents.
No one is berating you.
Anonymous
05/19/2022 10:21
Subject: I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists
how did you get your mom’s letters?
Anonymous
05/19/2022 09:27
Subject: I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you were adopted, you grew up with a family, no? I think you need therapy to deal with your immature anger. Your fantasy will not result in a revamp of the culture, you know that right?
I did nothing wrong. I WAS wronged.
Why do you defend these idiots?
I grew up without my siblings and cousins, aunts and uncles.
You were not wronged. In fact you were helped. You grew up with what you grew up with. Nothing was taken from you.
You need to get over this victim mentality. You live the life you are dealt. Deal with it.
This is not OP, but I gotta ask you this.. how did you come to the conclusion that nothing was taken from her?
Her MOTHER was taken from her. Her MOTHER. And this child was taken from the MOTHER.
Are you the beagle poster, you know, the one supporting the Catholic mom who kept having kids but could afford them so she gave a bunch away, like a dog? And, somehow that was just fine? Are you that poster? Good Lord.
NP. I agree that the PP above you and the beagle poster are horrifying. They speak of parent-child relationships as if the child was a puppy who was rescued. It is abjectly horrifying.
And there are several here, but one who is rather relentless. You hit it on the nail regarding the total lack of understanding regarding adoption.
But it's so entertaining disparaging them -- thinking - hoping even - that they are listening in. It's almost like being back in junior high.
We already know you’re a troll.
+1
Troll
Details don’t make sense, then tying made up story to current Roe vs Wade drama.
Some people have too much time on their hands.
Feel free to ask Jeff. I am a longtime poster on these boards. I am a passionate poster but my story is not made up. I have always been passionate about keeping abortion legal but finding out my mother's story combined with Roe being overturned has really accelerated my anger. Why is that hard to believe?
Point out exactly what you think is false. Genetic testing sites have made it easy for many adoptees to figure out who their families are and reconnect.
Anonymous
05/19/2022 09:08
Subject: I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I had one of my children fostered for a time. If I became pregnant then, I planned to give the baby up for adoption. I was unable to care for another person, and was too mentally ill to even trust myself with another child.
I am doing much better now, but no one would have been forcing me. I would have been the one insisting on it. My last child was conceived with an IUD in place, and I was terrified it might happen again.
It's true that sometimes mothers are forced to give up children, but sometimes a mother will choose to do this as well. I feel it would have been a valid choice. At this point, I would be able to take care of another child, but I would never feel comfortable with abortion, personally. I would rather give up a child.
I feel that some posters in this thread are the same people who were horrified when my child was fostered. They told me I was abandoning my child. They did not know I was suicidal and knew deeply that this has to happen for us to have any chance at a future.
How is your story relevant to this post? The OPs birth mother was not mentally ill. Did religious beliefs affect your choice?
I think it is extremely relevant. There are many reasons a woman may choose adoption. Just because you don't agree with that choice doesn't give you the right to berate someone for it.
+1
Anonymous
05/19/2022 08:30
Subject: I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists
OP, I am so sorry for what your mother went through and what you’re going through. But unfortunately your words will have no effect and you will not have your revenge. Fundies and evangelicals and other fanatics aren’t like you and me. Look at the Duggars. The eldest son has been outed to the world as a molester and a pedophile. The community still stands by him, his family and his in laws, and his wife has stayed with him and continued to have his babies even as he stands trial for disgusting crimes. You will see the same support for your birth family in their community and there’s just no need to open yourself up for a second round of pain and rejection.
Anonymous
05/19/2022 08:03
Subject: I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP needs to get help ASAP. I worry about the people she is targeting and how she may be targeting them. Terrifying in light of recent events.
Ooh, my words are going to hurt them? Too bad.
DP. Second the recommendation that you get help. Being adopted can be traumatic, but you seem childish (this post and others), and you don’t seem to have reasonable plans because you keep ignoring all the posts that ask who you plan to take revenge on now that society has changed and everybody involved, including your parents neighbors etc, are mostly dead.
Op has stated she will get “revenge,” but if most of the (made up characters) in her story are dead, who will she take out her wrath upon?
Anonymous
05/19/2022 08:01
Subject: I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you were adopted, you grew up with a family, no? I think you need therapy to deal with your immature anger. Your fantasy will not result in a revamp of the culture, you know that right?
I did nothing wrong. I WAS wronged.
Why do you defend these idiots?
I grew up without my siblings and cousins, aunts and uncles.
You were not wronged. In fact you were helped. You grew up with what you grew up with. Nothing was taken from you.
You need to get over this victim mentality. You live the life you are dealt. Deal with it.
This is not OP, but I gotta ask you this.. how did you come to the conclusion that nothing was taken from her?
Her MOTHER was taken from her. Her MOTHER. And this child was taken from the MOTHER.
Are you the beagle poster, you know, the one supporting the Catholic mom who kept having kids but could afford them so she gave a bunch away, like a dog? And, somehow that was just fine? Are you that poster? Good Lord.
NP. I agree that the PP above you and the beagle poster are horrifying. They speak of parent-child relationships as if the child was a puppy who was rescued. It is abjectly horrifying.
And there are several here, but one who is rather relentless. You hit it on the nail regarding the total lack of understanding regarding adoption.
But it's so entertaining disparaging them -- thinking - hoping even - that they are listening in. It's almost like being back in junior high.
We already know you’re a troll.
+1
Troll
Details don’t make sense, then tying made up story to current Roe vs Wade drama.
Some people have too much time on their hands.
Anonymous
05/19/2022 07:36
Subject: I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP needs to get help ASAP. I worry about the people she is targeting and how she may be targeting them. Terrifying in light of recent events.
Ooh, my words are going to hurt them? Too bad.
DP. Second the recommendation that you get help. Being adopted can be traumatic, but you seem childish (this post and others), and you don’t seem to have reasonable plans because you keep ignoring all the posts that ask who you plan to take revenge on now that society has changed and everybody involved, including your parents neighbors etc, are mostly dead.
Anonymous
05/19/2022 07:32
Subject: I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you were adopted, you grew up with a family, no? I think you need therapy to deal with your immature anger. Your fantasy will not result in a revamp of the culture, you know that right?
I did nothing wrong. I WAS wronged.
Why do you defend these idiots?
I grew up without my siblings and cousins, aunts and uncles.
You were not wronged. In fact you were helped. You grew up with what you grew up with. Nothing was taken from you.
You need to get over this victim mentality. You live the life you are dealt. Deal with it.
This is not OP, but I gotta ask you this.. how did you come to the conclusion that nothing was taken from her?
Her MOTHER was taken from her. Her MOTHER. And this child was taken from the MOTHER.
Are you the beagle poster, you know, the one supporting the Catholic mom who kept having kids but could afford them so she gave a bunch away, like a dog? And, somehow that was just fine? Are you that poster? Good Lord.
NP. I agree that the PP above you and the beagle poster are horrifying. They speak of parent-child relationships as if the child was a puppy who was rescued. It is abjectly horrifying.
And there are several here, but one who is rather relentless. You hit it on the nail regarding the total lack of understanding regarding adoption.
But it's so entertaining disparaging them -- thinking - hoping even - that they are listening in. It's almost like being back in junior high.
As you are demonstrating here, right?
Maybe they'll get it. Maybe not.
Nobody, absolutely nobody, was ever persuaded by an admitted troll. Especially a troll as dumb and personally unappealing as you are.
Anonymous
05/19/2022 07:30
Subject: I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you were adopted, you grew up with a family, no? I think you need therapy to deal with your immature anger. Your fantasy will not result in a revamp of the culture, you know that right?
I did nothing wrong. I WAS wronged.
Why do you defend these idiots?
I grew up without my siblings and cousins, aunts and uncles.
You were not wronged. In fact you were helped. You grew up with what you grew up with. Nothing was taken from you.
You need to get over this victim mentality. You live the life you are dealt. Deal with it.
This is not OP, but I gotta ask you this.. how did you come to the conclusion that nothing was taken from her?
Her MOTHER was taken from her. Her MOTHER. And this child was taken from the MOTHER.
Are you the beagle poster, you know, the one supporting the Catholic mom who kept having kids but could afford them so she gave a bunch away, like a dog? And, somehow that was just fine? Are you that poster? Good Lord.
NP. I agree that the PP above you and the beagle poster are horrifying. They speak of parent-child relationships as if the child was a puppy who was rescued. It is abjectly horrifying.
And there are several here, but one who is rather relentless. You hit it on the nail regarding the total lack of understanding regarding adoption.
But it's so entertaining disparaging them -- thinking - hoping even - that they are listening in. It's almost like being back in junior high.
We already know you’re a troll.
Anonymous
05/19/2022 07:24
Subject: I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists
Anonymous wrote:Definitely unhinged. May be a troll.
Why would you think I am a troll? The nice thing about an anonymous message board is you can express truths and emotions you often feel forced to keep hidden in everyday life.
I was OK with my adoption for decades. But now that I find out what my mom went through, and that soon millions of other women will also have no choice but to be brood mares for others, I am no longer OK about any of it.
Anonymous
05/18/2022 23:38
Subject: I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists
Definitely unhinged. May be a troll.
Anonymous
05/18/2022 22:49
Subject: I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists
Anonymous wrote:OP needs to get help ASAP. I worry about the people she is targeting and how she may be targeting them. Terrifying in light of recent events.
Ooh, my words are going to hurt them? Too bad.
Anonymous
05/18/2022 22:48
Subject: I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists
Anonymous wrote:Good on your birth mother to have given you a chance at life. She could have "taken care of" the problem.
She was coerced and terrified, you simpleton.
Anonymous
05/18/2022 22:36
Subject: I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists
OP needs to get help ASAP. I worry about the people she is targeting and how she may be targeting them. Terrifying in light of recent events.