Anonymous wrote:Just curious on thoughts. Do you think it's OK to post on FB where your kid is off to? And if so, is it completely tacky to mention merit? Like can I mention kid is a "Provost Scholar" (or whatever) - and yes, it makes them sound way smarter than they actually are. I think a simple "my kid is going here," with pic of kid in college sweatshirt, is sufficient.
Don't get me started on the bed party trend...

life is short. if it makes you happy, do it.

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Anonymous wrote:Heading off to college is hardly the "mile stone" that getting married or having child is. You cannot be serious.

What are you, crazy? At age 18, better hope the kid's milestone isn't getting married or having a child. After 18 years in the home, a kid heading off to college is a move into adulthood. It's a big milestone. College usually is a formative experience and a source of alumni pride in the decades that follow.

Celebrate and trumpet the hell out of that.

That you really think you can equate these three events in someone's life in terms of significance actually illustrates the problem: you're over-inflating the importance of college to the point of obsession. No wonder you can't resist putting in on facebook.


Going to college ain't getting married -- and it sure as hell ain't having a baby!

People get married 2, 3, or 4 times.
Same with having kids! So many kids and marriages and vacations.

Getting into and going to an undergraduate college of your choice happens...<checks notes>...once.
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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

I actually have many. And I manage to keep them by not bragging about my kids on social media.

I can understand that, but isn't that the point of FB to provide the going ons of you and your family?

I have never in my life posted a single picture of any of my considerably accomplished kids announcing an accomplishment. I could fill social media up with them if I wanted to.

My social media posts are dogs, babies, and unflattering and self-deprecating pics of myself. That's all anybody really needs to see to know the "goings on" of me and my family.

To be fair, going off to college isn't just an accomplishment, but a life milestone. It's up there with getting married or having a child or becoming empty nesters or retiring. Sharing milestones is generally fine, even if there are those who are struggling with infertility or can't afford to retire. Just share in a kind way.

Heading off to college is hardly the "mile stone" that getting married or having child is. You cannot be serious.

You are so weirdly argumentative. A piece of information that ends up on someone’s wedding announcement or obituary is by definition a life milestone. Where you went to college is such a thing. And especially snce most parents of 18 year olds haven’t experienced some of those other milestones for their children yet, it is absolutely a milestone to celebrate and be proud of.

A significant life event? Ok, maybe -- I grant you that. But "up there with getting married or having a baby?" THOSE are milestones. Anybody who equates going to college with getting married or having a baby has a screw loose -- unless they plan on staying in school forever.

As I said, you are being weirdly argumentative. I didn’t make the comparison initially, but since you acknowledge that it is a significant life event, why quibble about whether it is “up there”?

Because it clearly ISN'T up there, and therein lies the problem. Somebody who thinks that was has a problem.

So now you’re debating which significant life events rise to the level of being Facebook-post worthy, and which do not? LOL

You're obtuse. I'm not arguing that at all. I'm simply calling out the idiocy of a poster's generic assertion that the three are the same in significance. It's laughable. Or, rather, telling.

I’m not obtuse. Just pointing out the typical DCUM idiocy of people quibbling with every single aspect of a comment, even when it’s a distraction from the topic being discussed. Again, as I said, weirdly argumentative. Why don’t you find something better to do? Go have a glass of wine, perhaps.

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Anonymous wrote:Same poster as above-- I wanted to mention a woman in my neighborhood who made a HUGE, personalized banner for her child who got into a school and hung it on the front of her house. I walked by one day and just thought how pathetic she was. It really is pathetic to shout out where your kids get into school. It is shameless bragging.

See, I would have the opposite reaction. It’s not my thing. I doubt I would ever be organized enough to order a banner. But, I would think it was really neat that the parents were excited and supportive of their child. And I would like knowing where a neighborhood kid was going to school.

You might consider changing the way you view those around you.

+1. I am happy they are happy.

Anonymous wrote:I have seen several instances of kids going off to school with much public fanfare/posting from mom and then the kid coming home after the first year (or even semester) having flamed out or realizing they hated the school. Keep that potential embarrassment in mind.

I've seen several instances of divorce. I guess no more wedding announcements?

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Anonymous wrote:No. Don’t. It’s really tacky. If you want, post a sweet picture on drop off day in the fall.

+100.

Signed PP whose kid FINALLY got into night school.

Anonymous wrote:Same poster as above-- I wanted to mention a woman in my neighborhood who made a HUGE, personalized banner for her child who got into a school and hung it on the front of her house. I walked by one day and just thought how pathetic she was. It really is pathetic to shout out where your kids get into school. It is shameless bragging.

See, I would have the opposite reaction. It’s not my thing. I doubt I would ever be organized enough to order a banner. But, I would think it was really neat that the parents were excited and supportive of their child. And I would like knowing where a neighborhood kid was going to school.

You might consider changing the way you view those around you.

I have seen several instances of kids going off to school with much public fanfare/posting from mom and then the kid coming home after the first year (or even semester) having flamed out or realizing they hated the school. Keep that potential embarrassment in mind.

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Anonymous wrote:Heading off to college is hardly the "mile stone" that getting married or having child is. You cannot be serious.

What are you, crazy? At age 18, better hope the kid's milestone isn't getting married or having a child. After 18 years in the home, a kid heading off to college is a move into adulthood. It's a big milestone. College usually is a formative experience and a source of alumni pride in the decades that follow.

Celebrate and trumpet the hell out of that.

+1 For THE PARENT, their child leaving home after 18 years is a big milestone. No, not as big a milestone as a birth or a marriage but why should that be the standard for a Facebook post?

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

I actually have many. And I manage to keep them by not bragging about my kids on social media.

I can understand that, but isn't that the point of FB to provide the going ons of you and your family?

I have never in my life posted a single picture of any of my considerably accomplished kids announcing an accomplishment. I could fill social media up with them if I wanted to.

My social media posts are dogs, babies, and unflattering and self-deprecating pics of myself. That's all anybody really needs to see to know the "goings on" of me and my family.

To be fair, going off to college isn't just an accomplishment, but a life milestone. It's up there with getting married or having a child or becoming empty nesters or retiring. Sharing milestones is generally fine, even if there are those who are struggling with infertility or can't afford to retire. Just share in a kind way.

Heading off to college is hardly the "mile stone" that getting married or having child is. You cannot be serious.

You are so weirdly argumentative. A piece of information that ends up on someone’s wedding announcement or obituary is by definition a life milestone. Where you went to college is such a thing. And especially snce most parents of 18 year olds haven’t experienced some of those other milestones for their children yet, it is absolutely a milestone to celebrate and be proud of.

A significant life event? Ok, maybe -- I grant you that. But "up there with getting married or having a baby?" THOSE are milestones. Anybody who equates going to college with getting married or having a baby has a screw loose -- unless they plan on staying in school forever.

As I said, you are being weirdly argumentative. I didn’t make the comparison initially, but since you acknowledge that it is a significant life event, why quibble about whether it is “up there”?

Because it clearly ISN'T up there, and therein lies the problem. Somebody who thinks that was has a problem.

So now you’re debating which significant life events rise to the level of being Facebook-post worthy, and which do not? LOL

You're obtuse. I'm not arguing that at all. I'm simply calling out the idiocy of a poster's generic assertion that the three are the same in significance. It's laughable. Or, rather, telling.

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

I actually have many. And I manage to keep them by not bragging about my kids on social media.

I can understand that, but isn't that the point of FB to provide the going ons of you and your family?

I have never in my life posted a single picture of any of my considerably accomplished kids announcing an accomplishment. I could fill social media up with them if I wanted to.

My social media posts are dogs, babies, and unflattering and self-deprecating pics of myself. That's all anybody really needs to see to know the "goings on" of me and my family.

To be fair, going off to college isn't just an accomplishment, but a life milestone. It's up there with getting married or having a child or becoming empty nesters or retiring. Sharing milestones is generally fine, even if there are those who are struggling with infertility or can't afford to retire. Just share in a kind way.

Heading off to college is hardly the "mile stone" that getting married or having child is. You cannot be serious.

You are so weirdly argumentative. A piece of information that ends up on someone’s wedding announcement or obituary is by definition a life milestone. Where you went to college is such a thing. And especially snce most parents of 18 year olds haven’t experienced some of those other milestones for their children yet, it is absolutely a milestone to celebrate and be proud of.

A significant life event? Ok, maybe -- I grant you that. But "up there with getting married or having a baby?" THOSE are milestones. Anybody who equates going to college with getting married or having a baby has a screw loose -- unless they plan on staying in school forever.

As I said, you are being weirdly argumentative. I didn’t make the comparison initially, but since you acknowledge that it is a significant life event, why quibble about whether it is “up there”?

Because it clearly ISN'T up there, and therein lies the problem. Somebody who thinks that was has a problem.

So now you’re debating which significant life events rise to the level of being Facebook-post worthy, and which do not? LOL

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

I actually have many. And I manage to keep them by not bragging about my kids on social media.

I can understand that, but isn't that the point of FB to provide the going ons of you and your family?

I have never in my life posted a single picture of any of my considerably accomplished kids announcing an accomplishment. I could fill social media up with them if I wanted to.

My social media posts are dogs, babies, and unflattering and self-deprecating pics of myself. That's all anybody really needs to see to know the "goings on" of me and my family.

To be fair, going off to college isn't just an accomplishment, but a life milestone. It's up there with getting married or having a child or becoming empty nesters or retiring. Sharing milestones is generally fine, even if there are those who are struggling with infertility or can't afford to retire. Just share in a kind way.

Heading off to college is hardly the "mile stone" that getting married or having child is. You cannot be serious.

You are so weirdly argumentative. A piece of information that ends up on someone’s wedding announcement or obituary is by definition a life milestone. Where you went to college is such a thing. And especially snce most parents of 18 year olds haven’t experienced some of those other milestones for their children yet, it is absolutely a milestone to celebrate and be proud of.

A significant life event? Ok, maybe -- I grant you that. But "up there with getting married or having a baby?" THOSE are milestones. Anybody who equates going to college with getting married or having a baby has a screw loose -- unless they plan on staying in school forever.

As I said, you are being weirdly argumentative. I didn’t make the comparison initially, but since you acknowledge that it is a significant life event, why quibble about whether it is “up there”?

Because it clearly ISN'T up there, and therein lies the problem. Somebody who thinks that was has a problem.

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Anonymous wrote:Heading off to college is hardly the "mile stone" that getting married or having child is. You cannot be serious.

What are you, crazy? At age 18, better hope the kid's milestone isn't getting married or having a child. After 18 years in the home, a kid heading off to college is a move into adulthood. It's a big milestone. College usually is a formative experience and a source of alumni pride in the decades that follow.

Celebrate and trumpet the hell out of that.

That you really think you can equate these three events in someone's life in terms of significance actually illustrates the problem: you're over-inflating the importance of college to the point of obsession. No wonder you can't resist putting in on facebook.


Going to college ain't getting married -- and it sure as hell ain't having a baby!

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

I actually have many. And I manage to keep them by not bragging about my kids on social media.

I can understand that, but isn't that the point of FB to provide the going ons of you and your family?

I have never in my life posted a single picture of any of my considerably accomplished kids announcing an accomplishment. I could fill social media up with them if I wanted to.

My social media posts are dogs, babies, and unflattering and self-deprecating pics of myself. That's all anybody really needs to see to know the "goings on" of me and my family.

To be fair, going off to college isn't just an accomplishment, but a life milestone. It's up there with getting married or having a child or becoming empty nesters or retiring. Sharing milestones is generally fine, even if there are those who are struggling with infertility or can't afford to retire. Just share in a kind way.

Heading off to college is hardly the "mile stone" that getting married or having child is. You cannot be serious.

You are so weirdly argumentative. A piece of information that ends up on someone’s wedding announcement or obituary is by definition a life milestone. Where you went to college is such a thing. And especially snce most parents of 18 year olds haven’t experienced some of those other milestones for their children yet, it is absolutely a milestone to celebrate and be proud of.

A significant life event? Ok, maybe -- I grant you that. But "up there with getting married or having a baby?" THOSE are milestones. Anybody who equates going to college with getting married or having a baby has a screw loose -- unless they plan on staying in school forever.

As I said, you are being weirdly argumentative. I didn’t make the comparison initially, but since you acknowledge that it is a significant life event, why quibble about whether it is “up there”?

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

I honestly do not see why being happy for the neighbor is a bad thing?!?!? It is a huge accomplishment - why are we trying to pretend that it isn't? Would you feel the same way about someone qualifying for the Olympics, getting into Julliard, getting a role on Broadway, etc.? These are all incredible accomplishments and it is fine to view them as such. There are so many jealous haters on this board.

With respect to the original question, I think it is insensitive to announce college decisions in January since kids are still in the midst of it, but at graduation or at college drop-off, it is totally NORMAL to let folks know where your child is going and to be proud of them.