Anonymous wrote:Lol at "phobic" instead of just "not attracted to."

But your lack of "attraction" is due to prejudices about an entire group that isn't necessarily true about each individual.

It's like I said upthread. Is it OK for me to rule out dating someone religious because I think religious people are more likely to be child molesters? I think it's fair to realize you don't share values with certain people but it shouldn't be based on stereotypes that are BS.

Probably not. And no, that doesn't make me bi-phobic. I would be (and am) friends with bi people, I support the marriages of bi people, I support the acceptance and rights of bi people, I think it's important to recognize the existence and validity of bi people and I don't tolerate anti-bi comments or opinions in my social circle.

But I'm highly unlikely to date a bi guy because I don't think I have the right attraction profile for it. I will never be interested in an open relationship. I am not interested in threesomes. I am an abuse and sexual assault survivor and have issues around that, which make me feel less willing to experiment sexually or in relationships. Yes, I know not all bi people want open relationships or threeesomes. But the odds are much higher, especially in a longterm relationships. I would not want to become involved with a bi person only to fall in love and then find in a year or two that they are not happy longterm with an exclusively hetero, monogamous relationship. I think it would not be fair to either of us.

To me, it would be like dating men who affirmatively do not want kids, even though I definitely do. Our interests aren't aligned.

But the reason I say "probably" and not "definitely" not is that I do know some bi people who are just very in touch with their sexuality and would have no trouble in a longterm relationship (or even marriage) with a person of one gender, and never having an open relationship. It's just that they acknowledge that their attraction is not limited to people of one gender. It's just that in my experience, bi individuals like this are very rarely, if ever, men. I think because of the taboos around masculinity and gayness in straight culture. Bi women are much more likely to identify as bi but still be perfectly happy longterm in a straight relationship, and just exploring their bisexuality in ways that they don't act on it. But even that is rare! I have just found that most bi people are bi because they actively want to have sex with people of different genders and I'm not into that so it's just not a good fit for me.

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Anonymous wrote:Bi woman here.
1. I exist
2. I'm not a lesbian
3. I'm not looking for male attention
4. I'm monogamous and always have been. Have never cheated.
5. It is Bi-phobic to not date a Bisexual person. You are literally afraid of them and have prejudices against them. That's what a phobia is. That's what this entire thread is.

Get outta here!! Heterosexuals aren't "afraid" of you, we're just not attracted to you. It's 2021, it's time to return "phobia." The same way you have a right to choose a partner that's into humping all the things, I have a right to choose a person that just likes humping one thing.

You sound immature to the point that no one at all should date you. Ever.

Angry snowflake insists you consider dating everyone or you're a horrible bigot who hates bisexuals. Hahaha so laughable. Normal, well-adjusted men and women know this phobic garbage is not true and don't care who you sleep with or how you define your sexual preferences.

Lol at "phobic" instead of just "not attracted to."

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Anonymous wrote:Bi woman here.
1. I exist
2. I'm not a lesbian
3. I'm not looking for male attention
4. I'm monogamous and always have been. Have never cheated.
5. It is Bi-phobic to not date a Bisexual person. You are literally afraid of them and have prejudices against them. That's what a phobia is. That's what this entire thread is.

Get outta here!! Heterosexuals aren't "afraid" of you, we're just not attracted to you. It's 2021, it's time to return "phobia." The same way you have a right to choose a partner that's into humping all the things, I have a right to choose a person that just likes humping one thing.

You sound immature to the point that no one at all should date you. Ever.

I would. I find it odd so many of you are like, "HE COULD CHEAT ON ME WITH A MAN." Yeah, and a straight dude could cheat on you with a woman lol.

Anonymous wrote:Bi woman here.
1. I exist
2. I'm not a lesbian
3. I'm not looking for male attention
4. I'm monogamous and always have been. Have never cheated.
5. It is Bi-phobic to not date a Bisexual person. You are literally afraid of them and have prejudices against them. That's what a phobia is. That's what this entire thread is.

Get outta here!! Heterosexuals aren't "afraid" of you, we're just not attracted to you. It's 2021, it's time to return "phobia." The same way you have a right to choose a partner that's into humping all the things, I have a right to choose a person that just likes humping one thing.

No way.

Anonymous wrote:100% I would. My gay friends (anecdotally) have such a better understanding of sensuality and romance. I’d love that with someone who also finds my body parts attractive.

Also, I’m bi, so we’d have more in common.

I’ve been with a bi guy before. Sample size of one — but yes, he was very understanding of all that in a low key way that just made it very pleasurable.

Anonymous wrote:No I wouldn't. Truly bisexual men are very rare - men's sexuality is much more black and white than women. I would assume he's gay and feels pressure to like women for whatever reason. I wouldn't want to risk him changing his mind or finally realizing he is actually gay later on.

Post a link proving truly bisexual men are rare and I'll believe it. Anecdotally, I am and have met quite a few others who are as well.

100% I would. My gay friends (anecdotally) have such a better understanding of sensuality and romance. I’d love that with someone who also finds my body parts attractive.

Also, I’m bi, so we’d have more in common.

Anonymous wrote:No. No. No. My life is easy without having to date a man who likes men. There are straights who *check notes* have a job and also do housework? Lol.

Do you even read this forum? LOL. The only thing that can be definitively concluded from this forum is that straight men suck. They are either other not making enough money or not doing enough housework.

No I wouldn't. Truly bisexual men are very rare - men's sexuality is much more black and white than women. I would assume he's gay and feels pressure to like women for whatever reason. I wouldn't want to risk him changing his mind or finally realizing he is actually gay later on.

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Anonymous wrote:As a straight woman I find the thought of man on man sex arousing and would probably enjoy watching, possibly during a threesome. I haven't done it but it sounds like fun. So yeah, a bi guy would be perfect.

It's funny. I'm a POC and a hetero monogamous person and get along best with lesbians and have gay male friends but I got wildly flamed and called homophobe on youtube because I didn't find a supposedly steamy male kissing scene hot like all the women who were watching did. The pp's are saying they are only attracted to other white people so I wonder if a POC who only dates and sleeps with one race is also a racist?

Ok this is kind of odd. As I said above I find the thought of man on man sex arousing, but I don't mean kissing. I actually find that kind of awkward and not arousing. But the actual sex I like, it turns me on. Maybe I'm a gay male in a hetero woman's body?

I don't know if what you said is racist but there are also plenty of white women who only date black men, is that racist too? I don't think anyone is actually able to define what is racist on an individual level like that, only the person involved can look inside themselves to their motives etc. and possibly know for sure.

Anonymous wrote:As a straight woman I find the thought of man on man sex arousing and would probably enjoy watching, possibly during a threesome. I haven't done it but it sounds like fun. So yeah, a bi guy would be perfect.

It's funny. I'm a POC and a hetero monogamous person and get along best with lesbians and have gay male friends but I got wildly flamed and called homophobe on youtube because I didn't find a supposedly steamy male kissing scene hot like all the women who were watching did. The pp's are saying they are only attracted to other white people so I wonder if a POC who only dates and sleeps with one race is also a racist?