To the point of OPs complaint: You can be cold and still love your child. The two things can exist at the same time. Everyone has a different parenting style, and if your family is working the way you like it, and everyone is thriving, none of those styles is right or wrong.,

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Anonymous wrote:My neighbor described me a "chilly" when she heard that I never held my kid to fall asleep. I put him in his crib from day 1 for naps and sleeping at night. She has a 3-year-old old that requires her to stay in his room until he falls asleep. This takes up to 90 minutes every night. I call her "stupid." You do you.

You 1000% missed out by never holding your sleeping baby. But good for you that your child is so convenient for you to turn off and put away.

NP. That comment says so much more about you, and who you are as a person, than it could ever say about the PP. And what it says about you is far from good.

The original PP called her neighbor “stupid” for holding her baby…..

I live putting my kids to sleep and often stay there until they are asleep (maybe 20 min or so). My kids are 8, 6 and 2.5. I live to cuddle with them and hold their hands until they fall asleep. I don’t HAVE to do it and often don’t, but I love it!

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Anonymous wrote:My neighbor described me a "chilly" when she heard that I never held my kid to fall asleep. I put him in his crib from day 1 for naps and sleeping at night. She has a 3-year-old old that requires her to stay in his room until he falls asleep. This takes up to 90 minutes every night. I call her "stupid." You do you.

You 1000% missed out by never holding your sleeping baby. But good for you that your child is so convenient for you to turn off and put away.

NP. That comment says so much more about you, and who you are as a person, than it could ever say about the PP. And what it says about you is far from good.

The original PP called her neighbor “stupid” for holding her baby…..

I was scared straight by all my friends with kids who were awful sleepers, so I was pretty regimented about good sleep habits with my first. He was a great sleeper.

With my second, I let him sleep on me, kept him in our room way longer than I "should" have, and he never formed any weird sleep dependencies or any of the things I was warned about. I got lucky! Twice!

I do regret being so uptight with my first, but, live and learn I guess.

It didn't mean I didn't love my first like crazy though.

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Anonymous wrote:My neighbor described me a "chilly" when she heard that I never held my kid to fall asleep. I put him in his crib from day 1 for naps and sleeping at night. She has a 3-year-old old that requires her to stay in his room until he falls asleep. This takes up to 90 minutes every night. I call her "stupid." You do you.

You 1000% missed out by never holding your sleeping baby. But good for you that your child is so convenient for you to turn off and put away.

Someone has to get some sleep. I can't sleep and hold my baby. I'm a single parent and did it by myself. I did it out of necessity and it worked. I didn't lose my mind from lack of sleep. I was able to function. It's a marathon, not a sprint.

I think OP does sound cold and rigid. Shouldn’t really matter, though. You’ve got to have some thick skin and faith in your abilities to parent as a parent.

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Anonymous wrote:My neighbor described me a "chilly" when she heard that I never held my kid to fall asleep. I put him in his crib from day 1 for naps and sleeping at night. She has a 3-year-old old that requires her to stay in his room until he falls asleep. This takes up to 90 minutes every night. I call her "stupid." You do you.

You 1000% missed out by never holding your sleeping baby. But good for you that your child is so convenient for you to turn off and put away.

NP. That comment says so much more about you, and who you are as a person, than it could ever say about the PP. And what it says about you is far from good.

Np. I agree with pp. I did like my kids as babies though (and now as older kids, too)

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Anonymous wrote:My neighbor described me a "chilly" when she heard that I never held my kid to fall asleep. I put him in his crib from day 1 for naps and sleeping at night. She has a 3-year-old old that requires her to stay in his room until he falls asleep. This takes up to 90 minutes every night. I call her "stupid." You do you.

You 1000% missed out by never holding your sleeping baby. But good for you that your child is so convenient for you to turn off and put away.

You fail to realize that many people have kids to have kids, boy just to have a baby. There are many people who hate the newborn/infant phase and don’t care to hold a baby all day. You can get love and affection from your child for the rest of their lives. You don’t miss out on that just because you didn’t hold your infant for naps.

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Anonymous wrote:My neighbor described me a "chilly" when she heard that I never held my kid to fall asleep. I put him in his crib from day 1 for naps and sleeping at night. She has a 3-year-old old that requires her to stay in his room until he falls asleep. This takes up to 90 minutes every night. I call her "stupid." You do you.

You 1000% missed out by never holding your sleeping baby. But good for you that your child is so convenient for you to turn off and put away.

NP. That comment says so much more about you, and who you are as a person, than it could ever say about the PP. And what it says about you is far from good.

Anonymous wrote:My neighbor described me a "chilly" when she heard that I never held my kid to fall asleep. I put him in his crib from day 1 for naps and sleeping at night. She has a 3-year-old old that requires her to stay in his room until he falls asleep. This takes up to 90 minutes every night. I call her "stupid." You do you.

You 1000% missed out by never holding your sleeping baby. But good for you that your child is so convenient for you to turn off and put away.

OP, don’t listen to anyone. There will be critics no matter what you do. We doted on our baby for the first 4 months. We had the Snoo that he slept in at night and for some naps, but he was mostly held in my arms or carrier. My husband and I spent so much time playing with him and doing things most said were unnecessary at that age. Most of our family said we were spoiling him by holding him all of the time. We did sleep train at 4 months but I had to go back to work at that was what worked for us. They said we spoiled him and then we’re too cruel to sleep train him. Everyone will have something to say. You do what works for your family.