Anonymous
Post 10/19/2021 10:21     Subject: Re:Anyone else not care that much about cheating?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m with you. Also married over 20 years. My feelings have evolved on this subject. Early on, it would have resulted in me immediately throwing him out due to my pride. Now, I’d be willing to look the other way as long as he was discreet/it didn’t become public and he never confessed to me.

Affairs don’t always have anything to do with the marriage. Sometimes the other person is just looking for excitement, which is r trembly hard to get out of a relationship that has been solid for decades.


Are you willing to look the other way when he lies to your face to take her out of town to a fancy hotel? When he spends his free time texting and emailing her or goes into the bathroom before bed to wish her sweet dreams? Do you look the other way when you find out all the hours he was supposedly 'working over time' or staying at the Office late to finish a case, not only was he not working and you were dealing with the kids on your own, but he also was spending $ on her? Do you look the other way when he tells her that he loves her? Do you look the other way when you find out they don't use condoms? Do you look the other way when the other spouse shows up on your doorstep when you are having dinner with your kids? Do you look the other way when he decides he wants to leave you for her?

I could never love someone that lied to my face, exposed me to disease and was telling another woman that he loved her. I guess some people are different.

Just curious--do you make your own $? Do you still have sex with your husband or even love him? I don't know anyone that truly loved their spouse that thinks this is okay unless they are in it solely for the finances, cheat themselves or never loved them/just settled.


No probably not. I don’t think I’d be cool with him having a full blown romance with someone. He wfh though so that would be hard for him to get away with. He could more easily get away with having sex with a stranger on a business trip, which is what I was envisioning in my response.

I wouldn’t be happy about it but I don’t think I’d blow up a 22 year relationship over it either.

I’m human too. I’d like to have sex with someone new. I don’t but the desire is there. I understand it to that extent.

Yes I love him and we still have sex once a week but it’s not very romantic or exciting, like in the early days. It’s more like release and connection.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2021 10:19     Subject: Re:Anyone else not care that much about cheating?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m with you. Also married over 20 years. My feelings have evolved on this subject. Early on, it would have resulted in me immediately throwing him out due to my pride. Now, I’d be willing to look the other way as long as he was discreet/it didn’t become public and he never confessed to me.

Affairs don’t always have anything to do with the marriage. Sometimes the other person is just looking for excitement, which is r trembly hard to get out of a relationship that has been solid for decades.


Are you willing to look the other way when he lies to your face to take her out of town to a fancy hotel? When he spends his free time texting and emailing her or goes into the bathroom before bed to wish her sweet dreams? Do you look the other way when you find out all the hours he was supposedly 'working over time' or staying at the Office late to finish a case, not only was he not working and you were dealing with the kids on your own, but he also was spending $ on her? Do you look the other way when he tells her that he loves her? Do you look the other way when you find out they don't use condoms? Do you look the other way when the other spouse shows up on your doorstep when you are having dinner with your kids? Do you look the other way when he decides he wants to leave you for her?

I could never love someone that lied to my face, exposed me to disease and was telling another woman that he loved her. I guess some people are different.

Just curious--do you make your own $? Do you still have sex with your husband or even love him? I don't know anyone that truly loved their spouse that thinks this is okay unless they are in it solely for the finances, cheat themselves or never loved them/just settled.


I think PP was referring to a random hook up not a long-term affair.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2021 10:19     Subject: Re:Anyone else not care that much about cheating?
Anonymous wrote:I’m with you. Also married over 20 years. My feelings have evolved on this subject. Early on, it would have resulted in me immediately throwing him out due to my pride. Now, I’d be willing to look the other way as long as he was discreet/it didn’t become public and he never confessed to me.

Affairs don’t always have anything to do with the marriage. Sometimes the other person is just looking for excitement, which is r trembly hard to get out of a relationship that has been solid for decades.


WTF. you are willing to look the other way if he never confessed to you". What does this even mean??? Do you know he cheated in this scenario?? If you have no suspicion of cheating you aren't 'looking the other way'. So let's suppose he never confesses, but the OW contacts you, you are still okay as long as he doesn't confess to cheating? This sounds mental.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2021 10:18     Subject: Anyone else not care that much about cheating?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I only cheat with married women so the chances of any stds are slim to none. I have a vasectomy so iv never need to wear condone unless we try anal.


The idiocy here is disturbing on so many levels.


I know a few married women that are bigger sluts than any single man I know. They are hitting up AM and banging a multitude of different dudes.


+100

the cheating crowd is promiscuous and exhibit risk-taking behavior. The mental justifications they make to not wear condoms (well he said he had been tested [yes trust a cheater/liar]), I'm the only one they cheat with, they aren't having sex with their spouse, we won't hurt anyone because nobody will find out...bwwwahhh, blah, blah, blah. Nasty hos.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2021 10:15     Subject: Re:Anyone else not care that much about cheating?
Anonymous wrote:I’m with you. Also married over 20 years. My feelings have evolved on this subject. Early on, it would have resulted in me immediately throwing him out due to my pride. Now, I’d be willing to look the other way as long as he was discreet/it didn’t become public and he never confessed to me.

Affairs don’t always have anything to do with the marriage. Sometimes the other person is just looking for excitement, which is r trembly hard to get out of a relationship that has been solid for decades.


Are you willing to look the other way when he lies to your face to take her out of town to a fancy hotel? When he spends his free time texting and emailing her or goes into the bathroom before bed to wish her sweet dreams? Do you look the other way when you find out all the hours he was supposedly 'working over time' or staying at the Office late to finish a case, not only was he not working and you were dealing with the kids on your own, but he also was spending $ on her? Do you look the other way when he tells her that he loves her? Do you look the other way when you find out they don't use condoms? Do you look the other way when the other spouse shows up on your doorstep when you are having dinner with your kids? Do you look the other way when he decides he wants to leave you for her?

I could never love someone that lied to my face, exposed me to disease and was telling another woman that he loved her. I guess some people are different.

Just curious--do you make your own $? Do you still have sex with your husband or even love him? I don't know anyone that truly loved their spouse that thinks this is okay unless they are in it solely for the finances, cheat themselves or never loved them/just settled.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2021 09:59     Subject: Re:Anyone else not care that much about cheating?
I’m with you. Also married over 20 years. My feelings have evolved on this subject. Early on, it would have resulted in me immediately throwing him out due to my pride. Now, I’d be willing to look the other way as long as he was discreet/it didn’t become public and he never confessed to me.

Affairs don’t always have anything to do with the marriage. Sometimes the other person is just looking for excitement, which is r trembly hard to get out of a relationship that has been solid for decades.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2021 09:58     Subject: Anyone else not care that much about cheating?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I only cheat with married women so the chances of any stds are slim to none. I have a vasectomy so iv never need to wear condone unless we try anal.


The idiocy here is disturbing on so many levels.


I know a few married women that are bigger sluts than any single man I know. They are hitting up AM and banging a multitude of different dudes.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2021 09:56     Subject: Anyone else not care that much about cheating?
Anonymous wrote:I only cheat with married women so the chances of any stds are slim to none. I have a vasectomy so iv never need to wear condone unless we try anal.


The idiocy here is disturbing on so many levels.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2021 09:54     Subject: Anyone else not care that much about cheating?
Anonymous wrote:I only cheat with married women so the chances of any stds are slim to none. I have a vasectomy so iv never need to wear condone unless we try anal.

UGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This pisses me off sooooo much. Hey, idiot--do you know her husband isn't out banging prostitutes or gay and having hook-up sex? A lot of the reason sex is low with their husbands is because of those things.

In married relationship affairs---there are FOUR different people at play. The spouses could be unfaithful. Nobody is having zero sex with their partner so transmission is real.

And, the married women I know of on Ashley Madison, have had A LOT of partners and don't use condoms. They aren't exclusive with you either.

You are putting your spouse at serious risk.

This is why the STI rates among middle aged and elderly are so high. These idiots think they are safe or immune from it because everyone is older or married. AND--then add in that many men have vasectomies or the women are near menopause--they don't even worry about pregnancy--so let's go bareback...even on the FIRST meeting.

They have a 'talk', 'yeah I'm clean. I was tested (last year!!)' and then they go for it.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2021 09:46     Subject: Anyone else not care that much about cheating?
I only cheat with married women so the chances of any stds are slim to none. I have a vasectomy so iv never need to wear condone unless we try anal.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2021 07:35     Subject: Anyone else not care that much about cheating?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:So if his penis was in another hole, you’d be okay with him coming home and putting it in your hole? That’s kind of the base level question here.


Shower first, please.


By then the bacterial/viral infection has already set in. You can’t wash off hiv or chlamydia.


There is such a thing called condom.


Guys don't always use condoms with APs, especially if they think she can't get pregnant.

Also, condoms, don't prevent all STIs.
You don't have to drag down EVERY FRICKIN POST about sexual relations by bringing up STIs. We are adults. We know about it. We also know how to have sex without catching cooties. I presume you did too when you were single and riding a bunch of Ds? Seriously, can you just stop?


People in affairs and/or cheating are risk-takers by nature. In my practice, we see so many betrayed spouses with STIs.



+1000
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2021 07:34     Subject: Re:Anyone else not care that much about cheating?
Anonymous wrote:^ when the response to having sex with a cheater is to have the cheater shower first and then there are no worries, the level of education around STIs is low and careless. Should someone also douche with coca cola to prevent pregnancy? JFC



LOL.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2021 07:34     Subject: Anyone else not care that much about cheating?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:So if his penis was in another hole, you’d be okay with him coming home and putting it in your hole? That’s kind of the base level question here.


Shower first, please.


By then the bacterial/viral infection has already set in. You can’t wash off hiv or chlamydia.


There is such a thing called condom.


Guys don't always use condoms with APs, especially if they think she can't get pregnant.

Also, condoms, don't prevent all STIs.
You don't have to drag down EVERY FRICKIN POST about sexual relations by bringing up STIs. We are adults. We know about it. We also know how to have sex without catching cooties. I presume you did too when you were single and riding a bunch of Ds? Seriously, can you just stop?


Actually, your previous post or pps post demonstrates a shocking lack of STI prevention. I don't care if you think it's dragging the thread down or more truthfully poking a hole in your fantasy world in which cheating has no consequences and you wouldn't be bothered by it, I'm going to provide factual information. And when someone posts about showering to prevent all STIs or thinks condoms are 100% STI magic I'm going to tell the truth, it might save your life or someone elese's
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2021 07:25     Subject: Re:Anyone else not care that much about cheating?
^ when the response to having sex with a cheater is to have the cheater shower first and then there are no worries, the level of education around STIs is low and careless. Should someone also douche with coca cola to prevent pregnancy? JFC
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2021 07:14     Subject: Anyone else not care that much about cheating?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So if his penis was in another hole, you’d be okay with him coming home and putting it in your hole? That’s kind of the base level question here.


Shower first, please.


By then the bacterial/viral infection has already set in. You can’t wash off hiv or chlamydia.


There is such a thing called condom.


Guys don't always use condoms with APs, especially if they think she can't get pregnant.

Also, condoms, don't prevent all STIs.
You don't have to drag down EVERY FRICKIN POST about sexual relations by bringing up STIs. We are adults. We know about it. We also know how to have sex without catching cooties. I presume you did too when you were single and riding a bunch of Ds? Seriously, can you just stop?


People in affairs and/or cheating are risk-takers by nature. In my practice, we see so many betrayed spouses with STIs.